who stays with the children?

well i am not say if you don't stay with your kids your a bad parent but i do think that staying home with your kids the first couple years is important. i have stayed home with my kids sense i had my first 6 years ago. my sister in law takes her son to a day care and he is always sick and he is so bad when he gets home. my one son is younger then him but so much smarter(that sounds so mean i am sorry) but my son talks better can count to 15 colors as good as a 2 yr old can and at 3 her son just makes lines all over were my son does try to color the picture. my son can drink from a real cup her son is still with a sippy cup all the time. my son is almost potty trained and hers is no where near being trained. i just feel if he had his mom/dad to work with him then he would be alot better off.

I think there are advantages and disadvantages in both ways of bringing up your children. If you stay at home with them you have less money to spend on them and they may be more clingy later. If you send them to daycare they don't have one on one attention and may not be looked after to a high standard. I have done a mixture of things. My eldest was at home with me a bit then I went back to work and my mum looked after her. This worked ok, but she didn't do things the way I wanted all the time. With my younger daughter I have looked after her myself all the time. She is much more shy and clingy so I'm taking her to toddler groups and other things to try and help that.

I'm tailooress ,I had my own shop with 5-6 girls working for me.When I got pregnant I keep the shop until my son be 2 years.It was too hard for me so I had two chooses...or I give my son to a day care or I close my work .I choose the second.Since then I do the same work at at one place at my home .I work alone but i had the time to take care my son.I prefer the child be with him mother until he start go to pre school.

I definitely believe it is important for a child to be raised at home with a parent or at the very least a relative. Children learn more from interacting with a range of people and are available to be taught basic household chores while at home. To me daycare is very un-natural as a child is not going to spend their adult life only with peers.

I think a family should choose what is best for them. We decided it was best that I stay home with our kids. I didn't want someone else raising my kids so it was worth it to lose my salary. I do think it is wonderful when a parent can stay home with the kids and I highly recommend it if it is possible, but I know for many families it's not possible. I feel very lucky and blessed that we are able to manage it and I wouldn't trade it for the world. We have plenty of kids and a playgroup in the neighborhood so my kids go on many playdates.

I think balance is important. It's so very important that parents spend enough quality time with their children, however, I think children gain so much from daycare: 1. social growth - being with other children 2. importance of authority - learning that they have to listen to and respect other adults besides their parents I know a few kids that stayed at home, and are so shy around other kids and adults. Painfully shy. It's such a debate between SAHM and WM....