I dont know what to do...

thing is time and again I have been disappointed sith his behavior but we have always worked it out

i think you should confront him on this and ask him the reason for this kind of behaviour!its only because you came to know that he is lying that you upset and if you didnt know he would be hiding it from you what he is already doing!so he might be hiding so many things from you!!so try to know the reason why but i am sure he wont tell youy the truth!so try to find out what he's upto!and let him know that you are aware that he is hiding from you something!anyways take care!

Sound like your realtionship with your boyfriend is rather unhealthy, have you confronted him about the situation? Are you sure that he did lie to you on purpose? It will best if you talk to him calmly to straighten things out. SHould the situation becomes cynical I think you should leave him for someone whom you can trust. Good luck.

Dear friend,from reding your story I think if you love someone you should not intentionally hurt the person.Although the lying to each other is a little thing,but it will hurt your love.Love shouldn't really be about hurrting each other. From what you say it sounds like you aren't in a healthy relationship.To keep the healthy relationship you can often confabulate with him.To tell him that you don't like his behaviour,you hope he can improve his behaviour. You can give him some chances.If he knows his bad behaviour you can help him to improve his behaviour.A period of time later i think he should improve his behaviour. Take heart of grace! Good luck!

If he does it intentionally to hurt you, then there's something wrong in him. Maybe he just want to let go or something. Well, i don't want to hurt you but if your boyfriend always behave like that, it only means that you need to give him ultimate decision. There's always a reason behind his lying to you, if he really loves you then he'll be truthful and he will not hurt you in any way.

If he had done just to make fun was tollerable. but when u r saying he did it intensionaly..I think it's too much! before taking any decision its better to do two things. 1: talk about this matter with him very clearly.let him know that u r hurt and that u didnt expect this from him. If he feels sorry of what he did, give him one more chance!be transparent in ur discussion. 2: If after u discussed it with him and he responded vagely or rudely...just make urself strong and go for a serious decision, like not continuing with such hurtless fellow!Its just my suggestion on this particular topic. but u know ur boyfrnd better..so the last decission shall always be urs.so keep faith in god and urself.and use ur brain along with ur heart while deciding anything. take care.

well, i would never trust a person again if he/she lies to me... and definitely i wouldn't want to be in a relationship with that kind of person... i don't think i can handle having a relationship with someone who lies to me purposely just to hurt me... that means that person is up to something not good and i wouldn't want to stay in that kind of relationship... have a think again about it...

have to think how often does he do that to you?? is he testing you for that matter? do you still love him inspite of all this..?if you still love him then ask him why is he tormenting you?..communication is much better in a relationship to lasts..

I may not really know the whole story or situation but based from what you posted, i think and feel that you shouldn't have to stay with someone who wants to hurt you--intentionally at that!! I have heard of a million people saying that the reason why they lie is because they dont want to hurt the feelings of someone but in the case of your bf, he lied to hurt you! I mean,how worse can he get? I think you should give yourself space and rethink about the whole relationship with your bf.I think you need someone who will appreciate and love you more and would not hurt you-whether intentionally or not.

Honestly, I could not continue the relationship knowing that he purposely lied to hurt me, and then not having the balls to admit that till the next day. If he has done this before and will continue to do it, I say get out of the relationship and find someone who respects you enough to be honest and truthful with you every single time. When a man lies, they will continue to do so. It's up to you to figure out whether you think you can keep forgiving him and letting him make a fool of you, or to get out of the relationship and find someone better.

If I were you, I'd start to seriously think about whether or not you actually HAVE a relationship, because it doesn't sound as though you do. If he's lying to you, and deliberately hurting you - what hope is there for the future, really? Do you deserve to be treated this way? I think not. Stop telling yourself that you "understand a bit of it". What is there to understand? Don't make excuses for him, what he did was WRONG. You're going to have to talk to him and let him know that you're not going to stand for this kind of behavior, and air out everything so that the issue lying under this can be resolved. I hope you guys get it sorted out one way or the other, because this isn't healthy for you, or for him.

I suggest you try to talk things out coz' if he's lying to you already just for the reason to hurt you, then I think it's gonna be a big problem for the both of you and for your relationship. First of all, love does not include "lying to each other." And if your boyfriend lies to your face, then I don't think he deserves someone like you. You deserve someone who will respect you, dear, and not someone who'll play with your feelings.

hi sweetie =) You know your boyfriend more than anyone of us here, You know what really is going on with you relationship. I don't want to judge simply by this one incident of your relationship. Please try to weigh things. Do you think it was really worth it? Remember a wrong doing won't be solve by another wrong doing. So whatever his intention is, whatever his excuse is, the truth is what he did is still wrong. So as early as now, try to ask yourself, Is there a chance that your boyfriend will change for the better someday? (you know him, so think about it). If not, can you live that kind of life forever? Lies, lies and more lies, excuse, excuse and more excuses. We only have one life, never waste it with somebody who's not worth it. Better to let go, if you really think its not worth it. Cry if you needed too. But don't mourn on him so much. You have your own life. Share your life with someone who's really comitted and true. In that way you will really know what really love is and feels the true happiness. Never give up in finding the right guy for you =) good luck! p.s share your thoughts to some of your trusted friends.

WOW! You need to dump him girl! That is abuse in its worst way! Lying to hurt you! That is worse than being hit! It sound like there are more problems than just that too! You need to do some deep soul searching. I wish you much luck!

welll I guess,,,m first chill...now CHILLAX...with a very kool mind (make it stubbornly cool, if it does not happens by itself) bring his calm too....and then explain him up the things with ease and gentleness....may be he wud get 'em that way.... i feel sometimes when fights dun work....words work and where words fail, silence works..... So a healthy mutual settlement, would be very much appreciable

Relationships are built on trust. If he has lied to you deliberately to hurt you, then there is no trust. Deliberately hurting you is a breach of trust too, and I think you have to think carefully about whether your relationship really has any trust left.

thrash him...but before tht,,,just ask him once more in detal what exactly happened...

If he lied to you just to hurt you, then how much do you really mean to him? Even in the toughest times if you love someone you shouldnt intentionally hurt another person. That isnt right, and to be honest you probaly wont be able to forget it about it and move on for awhile if at all. And you will always have in the back of your mind that he may do it again just to hurt you. Good luck but to me that doesnt sound like he is treating you fairly and it isnt a healthy relationship.

Well, I don't know the background to this story, but from what you say it soudns like you get a lot of hurtful bhaviour from him. the first thing to ask is why do you think he does this? You say you can undesrtand a bit of it? Is that enough for you to understand why he went as far as he did? Did he realise that his actions would really hurt you, or did he think you'd take it better than you did? Are his lies always hurtful and truly deceitful or are they sort of 'white lies' that are annoying but do no real long term harm? If he repeatedly does things and says things that are hurtful, and you're previously explained how hurtful his behaviour is, then you should perhaps give him a last warning and explain that you find his behaviour upsetting and hard to deal with. HOWEVER....if you do this, only set ultimatums that you are willing to follow through. If you say you will leave him if he doesn't improve his behaviour, then you must be willing to do that. Perhaps you can set up some basic 'rules' between teh two of you that help him improve his behaviour? But ultimately it's up to him to want to not lie, and up to you as to whether you tolerate his repeated lying. Best of luck.

well from my point of view from reading your story your saying he lies to you to hurt you,well that shows he likes to hurt you and if i was you i would brake up with him because i wouldnt need someone that wants to hurt me in my life,i am sure there are more fish in the sea.so do what floats your boat and remember you dont need someone who hurts you in your life,thats my advice to you.