He drives me nuts!!!!

When I was married, it bothered me that my husband never took his hair out of the shower trap, or put the newspaper in the recycling bag when he was done. (I always read it first.) One day I was in the shower and there was his hair, as always, and I thought 'I'm finally going to mention these things to him when he comes home'. But then, I thought how sad it would be if he were to pass away and I'd never see his hair in the trap again, along with the other things that minorly irritated me, so I never did say anything. As it was, we ended up getting divorced anyway.

Sometimes men can be just like an extra child :) (Sorry guys no offense, guess that could go the other way with women as well). For the hamper issue, remove the top, or buy one that has no top to it. See if that helps....for the dishes, I'd probably do the same, just let his pile up. But, that can be worse if you're the one that has to clean them then. And no, it's difficult to put dishes into the sink. He's just being lazy. Good luck!!!

Well believe me I think most Men are like that My Ex Husband used to be like this to but he left his Dirty Clothes on the Floor I was working full time and I had to Kids as well So I think you find that most Men are like that and worse

Oh I'm sorry that your husband is like that. Sometimes my husband is lazy too, he often forgets to put his dirty jeans / pants in the hamper he just hang them on the rack at the back of our bedroom door. So one time I didn't bother to get his jeans from the rack and he ended up not having any clean jeans to wear to work. He learned his lesson that time and managed to remember to put his dirty clothes in the hamper without me reminding him to do it because he never wanted to do laundry again. haha.

I know just what you mean! My s/o's version of organizing is keeping all of his newspapers in one pile, his magazines in one pile, his clothes in one pile and everything else in another pile. He knows it's time to weed out his piles when they fall over. I'd do it for him because I hate having it all laying around but then he complains that he can't find anything. His latest thing is that he won't put his shoes in the closet. For some reason he prefers to keep them under the couch. If they get put away he acts like he can't find them. It frustrates me too and he just doesn't get it but I suppose he could be doing worse things!

When my husband started getting messy with his clothes ( and I mean big time messy, throwing clean clothes where ever because they weren't the ones he was looking for) I stopped doing his washing. I told him if he wasn't going to take care of his clothes then neither was I. So far, so good.

Oh sure I do understand that. My husband drives me crazy too! I use to always run behind him and pick up after him but not any more. I will leave his mess and now he will clean it up. It might take some time but he does do it. Hang in there. Sometimes I think they all came from the same mold.LOL

It don't appear that you are asking to much, however it appears that you have to ask it too much. If I was you, I would consider going on strike, don't do a thing around the house for a week or two, & he will be sure to get the hint, watch how fast he will get off his you know what then! Sometimes with us men, words are just not enough, you might have to step up your game:-) (I hope all works out)

haha, I guess most of us men are a little lazy about cleanliness, although not all of us

My husband is the opposite, in fact he wants the house spotless all the time. Before three of my four kids grew up and moved out, it was a nightmare. There was no way I could keep the house spotless with four kids. He fusses and complains about the smallest things. This morning he was fussin at me about a spot in the kitchen sink. Like sheesh. And there is a spot on the counter top that has been there since the day we moved in, and he keeps trying to get it off. I keep telling him that it has been there since forever and then he argues with me that it hasn't! He is so fussy about everything, and THEN he will shave and leave the bathroom sink for me to clean up! Weird, huh? I can clean the house spotless and he will find the one thing I missed, like a cobweb hanging from the ceiling that I can't reach anyway, and he will go nuts. I don't like my house dirty, but I am not overly fussy about things, when I get to them, I get to them. After all I am only one person.

That is really annoying! One of my collegue is a 48-year-old lady, she said to me that her husband has a bad habit that every time he will put clean socks under the mattress. That's really drives her crazy and since their only son left home for schooling, they always feel lonely and will quarrelled frequently. she always complain to me about this, I could feel her turmoil but I can't help.

i dont think he is different than others...everyone is one and the same! the thing is that wife never triesto understan hubbies. They come from work , they are very tired, they were cleaning up all the business mess all day and you expect them to clean up the house mess after comming home..? isnt it very daunting task...? they also want the house to look good...but theya re just too mucg tired and its a natural tendancy of guys to do less house work..isnt it? so their is nothing to get frustated about... its a natural phenomenon..just as you dont get angry if the dog barks..similarly.. husbands will never clean up..

It's just happening to me too... Im just 20 years old and same as my husband, we have a baby, 6 months old and a computer business near our house. It was the three of us are living in our house, no maids or parents to help us. I do almost everything. Taking care of my baby, laundrying our clothes, cleaning the house then helping my husband in our shop. Then my husband will just leave the plate after he eats like he is eating on a restaurant, or drop his towel and used clothes. Shocks it really annoying. but of course i always think that god had always a reason why some people are experiencing things to their husband or to someone. And of course its also a choice of the one experiencing it right??

God you sound like my girlfriend!lol No Im just joking but I know for a fact I do what your husband does to. I know its not hard to put the dishes in the sink or clothes in the hamper and we always mean to but get distracted!lol My gilrfriend is so nice or really really tolerant because she never says anything to me like you probably do to your husband she only makes these little comments like your running out of room over their or look at all the clothes and thats when I finally get moving and clean up because shes being polite enough without asking me directly to do it. I know we all probably need alittle touch up on cleaness.

I can understand what you are going through. My husband can drive me completely insane. He doesnt want to clean up after himself most of the time. If I ask him to do some chore I usually get attitude. Most of the time his theory is that he is working so since I am staying home with the kids that the house chores are my thing to do. I guess the good thing though is that when he has days off he does help take care of the kids. And sometimes I can talk him into helping with some stuff.

They all do!!! With mine I have the opposite problem. My husband is always picking things up... the problem is I won't even finish something and if I put my plate or cup down he is taking it to the sink. I drink two to three cups of coffee a day. When I finish my first cup I have to be sure to hang on to my cup because he will put it right in the sink with all the other dishes then I have to get another cup. It makes a lot of dishes. He has his own idea what orgainized is. When he is home I can't find a thing, because he has put it where he thinks it should be. Then he forgets where he put it. Laundry he drives me up the wall when he does it because he has this thing where he wants to turn everything inside out first so that it saves on the front wear and tear. Then sometimes when I had spilled something on the front the shirt didn't come clean because he had it turned inside out. And if I have to fold the cloths I have to struggle to turn everything right side out. If I do laundry he rolls the dirty socks and if I miss it when I do the wash and I put it in the dryer and didn't see they were rolled then I still have wet socks... and I'm not paying another buck to run the dryer for just socks. I love him... he really does try to help out... however I wish he would just leave things alone and not help. I'd have less work to do.

I can understand this only too well. My partner is a lovelyman, very helpful around the house, but he will insist on dumping his clothes on the floor in our bedroom. He has a laundry hamper in the corner of the room, does he use it? oh no, everything goes on the floor

Your story sounds all too familiar! I have taken to leaving his dirty socks in his pillow case. He never says anything but somehow they make it to the dirty basket. I make sure I have an open lidded hamper these days. Then there is absolutely no excuse! Don't feel that your alone. Your not! A lot of us ladies are in your situation1

You are not alone. I think that it is just men in general. I am not sure about everyone elses husbands but with mine it comes from the way he was raised. He is 12 1/2 years older then me. So when he was a young kid it was back when the dads worked and the moms stayed home and took care of the house and kids. Or at least that is how his house was. So that is the way he feels. He works a job all day comes home and does nothing while I stay at home and slave away all day taking care of the house, kids, laundry and cooking dinner. It can be agrivating but he is my soul mate and I love him.

Thank God my husdand is the opposite of yours. I am the messy one, I love to cook as I am a chef so, when I cook my husband does the dishes, he cleans, he does the laundry and I will help him. Everything has to be neat and clean for him so, I let him do it as he knows how he likes it. Mine you, there are things that I do that he can't I am a great decorator and gardener. I'll do the painting and shopping(no fuss there).I like refinishing furniture so se balance each other.