vpapstein

@vpapstein (35)

United States • Age 42

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How do you tell a guy you don't like him?

cecillecarmela @cecillecarmela (3818) • Philippines 27 May 09

Hi mylotters. :) This question goes for both boys and girls. In fact I really need an advice from a guy's perspective but girls are free to comment to. How would you feel if the girl you love said she don't like you? or...

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vpapstein The best way to tell someone how you feel is be straight-forward and honest. Tell him you don't see him and you dating for the long term. Tell him your priorities are school and family. The more upfront you are the clearer you are. There is no easy way to...

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What do you do when someone steals your work?

AnythngArt @AnythngArt (3302) • United States 27 May 09

Yesterday, I wrote an article for Helium about productivity rising in our bad economy. After posting it to Helium, I went over to Associated Content and posted it again (for page views, non-exclusive). It gets published...

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vpapstein I am also a Helium member. I know that there is a no plagiarizing rule in the guidelines for the site. I am not sure who you could ask. I would look on the message boards and search under plagiarism for starters? I don't know if this helped.

27 May 09

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Which do you prefer to slow dance or fast dance?

Citychic @Citychic (4067) • United States 27 May 09

Mylotters, which do you prefer when to do when you go out, to slow dance or fast dance. Did you really know how to put the moves on your partner? If you don't dance any more then tell me which one you used to enjoy...

dance

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vpapstein I love to dance. However, if I go out I want to dance fast. I prefer to go out with my lady friends because I don't have any guys friends that know how to dance. I am 26 and it is next to impossible to find guys who can dance, other that stand behind me and...

27 May 09

How can she be so unfaithful......

xparttime1 @xparttime1 (142) • India 27 May 09

One single statement changed everything.I never thought this would happen. Everything was fine, everyhting was smooth, life was so beautiful. Its more than 26 yrs that we are married, we have a son, he is working in a MNC.We...

family

love

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vpapstein Okay obviously this is a very emotional topic. However my personal opinion of parenting is blood or not whoever raised the boy is him father period! Even if the man can't forgive his wife the child should not be punished for her mistake. Blood or not his son...

27 May 09

What do you when your baby starts crying after hearing loud noises?

nishdan01 @nishdan01 (3051) • Singapore 25 May 09

My baby is three months old and we stay in an apartment type of house. Our neighbour upstairs is drilling the walls and we are not able to bear the loud noise. My baby is crying very intensly. It is so loud and I am not able to...

baby

loud

noise

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vpapstein At 3 months babies are a product of their environment. If the noise bothers you, it will bother your baby. If you are stressed your baby is stressed. I would try and tune out the noise on you and your husbands part. Ex-try not to let it bother you both so...

25 May 09

Are you open to absolute strangers????

John4Christ @John4Christ (1597) • India 25 May 09

Well every day when we move out of our house we meet so many people for business, work or anything........and sometimes we come across absolute strangers who try to befriend you and just have a chat with you..... My friend just...

strangers

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vpapstein To be open in the sence of conversation is normal. To allow people you don't know in your personal space is asking for trouble.

25 May 09

fat or thin

Ali Reza @alireza20 (232) • Tehran, Iran 25 May 09

you like have fat or thin body? why?

fat or thin

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vpapstein I would like to have an athletic body not fat or too thin. With obesity and crap food vs anorexia and bulemia on a high throughout the US it's hard to have a realistic point of view on what is healthy and what is not. 30 years ago people didn't consider a few...

25 May 09

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Do you let money get between your friendship?

clorissa123 @clorissa123 (4926) • United States 24 May 09

So, money can be a trouble sometimes. People can fight for money because it is more important for our daily life. They can't let go of a small profit. Money can get between friendship too. Don't you think so? My friend told me...

business

friendship

money

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vpapstein All growing up I heard from my folks it's improper to discuss finances with others. Realistically it is none of anyone's business but your own. However simple rules I live by....Don't ask friends for money and Don't lend money out....Now giving a gift is one...

24 May 09

Little boys and their little "toys"

rasokan87 @rasokan87 (43) • United States 24 May 09

Do all little boys play with "themselves" because my son is 4 years old and I catch him playing with his "self" all the time...is this normal for a little guy? Help me out people!

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vpapstein Yes it is very normal. Although it is odd to see remember little kids are curious and they like to explore things. Anatomy is just another part boys and girls explore.

24 May 09

your life your desicions

hasnulhashim @hasnulhashim (48) • Malaysia 24 May 09

farah in her mid thirties..she has work at the big city bank for 12 years but isnt happy in her work.she doenst like the people she work with,or the long hours she has to work.She feels that she doesnt spend enough time with her...

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vpapstein Well let's see. This is a complicated yet very common dilema many families face. I truely believe there are not enough hours in the day to please everyone. In Farah's scenario I would evaluate my finances first. If there are no big problems in that arena and...

24 May 09

at what age do you plan to get married?

xannebull @xannebull (1793) • Philippines 22 May 09

when i was still single, i used to plan on getting married at the age of 25, and have baby at the same age. But i was married at the age of 24. 1 year before planning to get married. i thought that being 25 was the right age of...

married

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vpapstein I got married at 25. I have several people I know who got married at 18. I know others who got married at 30, 40 and above. I don't believe their is a set age limit. I believe marriage is a union of love not a I'm this age and it's time. I guess I don't really...

22 May 09

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Will You Lead The Same Life If Given A second Chance?

aryangentleman @aryangentleman (1122) • India 20 May 09

Well I know its a hypothetical question but some how you gets another chance to restart your life again will you lead the life the same way you have lead so far?To me I could never make up of my mind on this question. Certainly...

rebirth

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vpapstein Yes. I have plenty of things I could have done differently, however everything is a chain reaction in my opinion. My greatest love is my daughter. I had to go through the journey to get the outcome of being a mother. I would not be complete without her....

20 May 09

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Which Would You Prefer? Being Rich or Being Happy?

candramawa @candramawa (114) • Indonesia 20 May 09

Hello every one! How's life.. I noticed that there are some people with different destiny. Some people are rich.. some others are not. Some people are happy.. some others are not.. How about you? Are you rich and happy? Which...

happy

rich

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vpapstein To me this question is a no brainer. I would want to be happy. Money only goes so far. Now of course if I could have both that would be great. But given the choice I would always want to be happy! The old saying "Money can't buy happiness" is so true.

20 May 09

a book to read...

AliceBlueRose @AliceBlueRose (23) • United States 30 Apr 09

Here lately I have been looking for a good book that will keep my attention, but have had no luck. All of my books I have already read, and the other books my family has I can't get into. I have been trying to find a book called...

books

help

reading

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vpapstein Have you read anything by J.R. Ward or Sherlynn Keynon? I love all of their books. Their topics are a bit off mainstream. However if you give them a chance and read 10 to 20 pages you won't be able to put them down.

20 May 09

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what you will chose your bf/gf or your best friend?

rich_yu @rich_yu (163) • Israel 20 May 09

my bestfriend and his bf always fight because of me the guy is always upset to my friend when ever me and my friend be together.and one day the guy ask my friend if my friend dont leave me he will leave her..so my friend say to...

friend

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vpapstein First of all, kudos to your friend. While it's important to be close with your partner, it's not fair to tell them who and who not to be friends with. I am glad your friend told him to kick rocks, so to speak. It seems like this guy wanted to control her and...

20 May 09

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What would you do if you are being personally singled out by your superiors?

jkatmaou @jkatmaou (195) • Philippines 19 May 09

I've been having problems at work lately eversince my supervisor was replaced. i have a medical condition which warrants me to have a fixed schedule which is at noon. my supervisor changed my shift to 5am in te morning knowing...

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vpapstein Well first of all I would provide the information on your condition yourself. Second, I would document all attempts at trying to get in touch with this person and include the scheduling discussions you have had with him/her. If this person is not easily...

20 May 09

Writing Fever

QueenKitty @mika4576 (63) • United States 20 May 09

I awoke at 4am when my son needed a bottle, I forgot I had left my laptop on Sleep. I placed the on my lap, sat up and started writing. This happened a month ago, and I am still writing, non stop almost as if I am having an...

books

poetry

writing

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vpapstein I understand the feeling of urgency writing brings. As a child I wrote poems. As an adult I have wrote short stories. I am currently attempting a novel. I feel as though I have a gift with writing. I have always written something, whether is is poems or...

20 May 09

If u ave to choose between cats and dogs as a pet?who would it be and why?

seyboy @seyboy (29) 20 May 09

I like dogs neva had cats as a pet coz i hate them duuno why though hahah I got 5 dogs and i love them so much. actually they are mens best friend hahah. dogs forever.

seyboy

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vpapstein I prefer dogs, because of their general nature. Dogs are cuddly, playful and protective. Whereas cats tend to be cuddly when wanted, low-key (lay around). I prefer to have an animal who will go outside for a walk or a hike. Lastly it's always nice to have an...

20 May 09

Not Calling Back When You Say You Will

idowrite72 @idowrite72 (2213) • United States 19 May 09

This is something that totally bugs me and I want some opinions from you! I have several male friends who I talk to on the phone, or even some who I have in the past. What is it with men who say "I'll call you right back!", and...

not calling back

saying you will call and not doing it

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vpapstein I think it depends on the person. Some people don't want to talk and don't have the assertiveness to say so. Others are busy and forget to call back. Sometimes people are just jerks and don't call back. I really think it is an individual scenario each time. I...

20 May 09

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Does anyone stilll prefer to write cards or letters to your partner???

pooh923 @pooh923 (94) • Philippines 19 May 09

Obviously we've all passed the old times where we do give letters/cards to partners during monthsaries or anniversaries even if you're both living in the same city. Many have already approved of e-mails or text messages as a way...

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vpapstein Yes, as a matter of fact, I do. For me writing is a natural way of expressing concerns, love, friendship ect. My mouth unfortunately doesn't always get the message across as effectively. I love to write personally. So for me to write a simple hello, thinking...

19 May 09

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