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Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I have been thinking about past relationship issues I have discussed with people here on mylot and it made me think about phrases that make us defensive when lovers or friends say them to us. What's the one thing that a lover...

communication

hurt feelings

sensitive subjects

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Dedgurlsingstheblus I think the fact that truth telling is not just one way is the problem when it comes to people. There have been so many times when I have been the honest one, and the other person was too scared to be.

17 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I have been thinking about past relationship issues I have discussed with people here on mylot and it made me think about phrases that make us defensive when lovers or friends say them to us. What's the one thing that a lover...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus You're right aerous, If you keep bringing up the past it can be bad. It can seem like you are living in the past and not with your current girlfriend or boyfriend. I don't dump the past on people I am only open when they ask, or when the past is messing...

17 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

In May I plan to visit a guy who is attempting to build a small commune where people will live together, work together, grow their own food, be their own community. Each time I tell my friends, and family they are very shocked,...

commune

intentional community

subsistent living

woofing

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey there Goldeneagle, The groups you mentioned fell under what I meant when I wrote poisonous Kool Aid. Unfortunately, like anything else, the groups that are remembered are those few who cause violence and pain, no one knows about the I.C. in Virginia...

17 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I have been thinking about past relationship issues I have discussed with people here on mylot and it made me think about phrases that make us defensive when lovers or friends say them to us. What's the one thing that a lover...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey yresh12, I agree. I think generally people are afraid of the truth, both hearing it and telling it. Like you, I would rather get my feelings hurt than to not trust the other person to be honest with me.

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I have been thinking about past relationship issues I have discussed with people here on mylot and it made me think about phrases that make us defensive when lovers or friends say them to us. What's the one thing that a lover...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey aerous, On the one hand I understand that it is important to look to the future, but I think sometimes we must discuss the past in order to not make the same mistakes. As for me, I am pretty sure that I have said some things that ruined a relationship....

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I was looking at an old photo of myself, a picture from childhood. The scene that was captured seemed very familiar, but at the same time unreal. This feeling made me think about the movie Bladerunner, and how pictures were given...

childhood

past

photographs

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey Lowloy, Although I see no harm in reminiscing, I think we should strive to make our present better and not just long for the past. I don't like the stuff that goes on around me either, however I can't go back, only forward, so why not try to make the...

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I was looking at an old photo of myself, a picture from childhood. The scene that was captured seemed very familiar, but at the same time unreal. This feeling made me think about the movie Bladerunner, and how pictures were given...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey phoenix8606, That's cool that you remember. I'm not as certain. A lot of times I wonder if I didn't make up remembering, I mean I can't prove that the memories I have are accurate or inaccurate.

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

In May I plan to visit a guy who is attempting to build a small commune where people will live together, work together, grow their own food, be their own community. Each time I tell my friends, and family they are very shocked,...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus It's also how nations start, and recall that although we think of cults as those who drink poisonous Kool aid, the major religions all began as cults.

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

In May I plan to visit a guy who is attempting to build a small commune where people will live together, work together, grow their own food, be their own community. Each time I tell my friends, and family they are very shocked,...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey Jb, That last statement is probably good advice. There are definitely times when I need to be away from all people, so breaks would be beneficial.

14 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 12 Feb 10

I was wondering if anyone had any experience with co-parenting, that is multiple (as in more than just a mom, dad, and in the case of extended families, other relatives) people coming together to raise a child?

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey aerous, I was more thinking along the lines of a group of people deliberately getting together to have and raise a child.

14 Feb 10

lazuardy @lazuardy (152) • Indonesia 4 Feb 10

I already know this site from a friend in myLot. I headed to the site in question, and I immediately tried to do the review. My first review is about a laptop product but my review was rejected. Then I tried again with health...

review stream

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey again, UmiNoor, My screen name is a play on words. I'm in the U.S. and according to the phrase women and minority, commonly used here to refer to white women and black and hispanic men, a brown woman does not exist. That's where the ded (dead) part...

12 Feb 10

ypyanyan @ypyanyan (956) • China 9 Feb 10

I have a unforgettable childhood memory. it was sweet . of course cartoon is the important part of my childhood memory . My favourite cartoon is Doraemon. I want to have a pocket like Doraemon's pocket . I admire their...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hi again, I don't like the dirty games of politicians either, and although I continue to study politics and law, I choose to fight by educating. Thanks for replying.

12 Feb 10

lazuardy @lazuardy (152) • Indonesia 4 Feb 10

I already know this site from a friend in myLot. I headed to the site in question, and I immediately tried to do the review. My first review is about a laptop product but my review was rejected. Then I tried again with health...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus UmiNoor, Do you know the names of some sites? If so may I send a friend request in order to receive them in a private message?

10 Feb 10

ypyanyan @ypyanyan (956) • China 9 Feb 10

I have a unforgettable childhood memory. it was sweet . of course cartoon is the important part of my childhood memory . My favourite cartoon is Doraemon. I want to have a pocket like Doraemon's pocket . I admire their...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus Hey aerous, Your memory was very powerful. I have never experienced anything like that. May I ask where you were at the time? Did you become a soldier, or learn to fight for justice some other way?

10 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 29 Jan 10

I am attempting to purchase and cook meals according to season. This has resulted in selecting some foods that I am not familiar with. Aside from the occasional summer squash I have no Squash experience. I tried acorn a couple...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus No biggie. I hope that the new job works out well for you.

8 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 5 Feb 10

...or does it seem like when Atheists and Christians talk about each other they pretty much say the same things. I was recently watching a video by an Evangelical Christian who said that Atheists were irrational, immoral, and...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus My aunt is a Christian. She distinguishes between religious folks and Christians by saying Christians follow the tenants of their faith, they do not judge others, religious folks on the other hand ignore the aspects of the Bible when they don't suit their...

7 Feb 10

Dedgurlsingstheblus @Dedgurlsingstheblus (233) • United States 5 Feb 10

...or does it seem like when Atheists and Christians talk about each other they pretty much say the same things. I was recently watching a video by an Evangelical Christian who said that Atheists were irrational, immoral, and...

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Dedgurlsingstheblus The only time I care what someone else believes is if that belief allows them to exploit, oppress, or harm other people. Other than that I agree, and one of the things that both groups fail to see, or at least seem to ignore, is that only the individual can...

7 Feb 10

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