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FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Mar 09

I have always found guys that are extremely less intelligent than me to be very unattractive. When I met my close friend Nick for the first time I thought he was very cute, but then he started talking and he was just SO ignorant,...

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FayeSLongo We are still good friends, i just find that I can't have a romantic relationship with someone, who for what ever reason, is unable to meet my intellectual needs as well as all the others. I mean, I could ignore weight gain, sickness, etc but not lack of...

30 Mar 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Mar 09

I just saw this movie, it's the new one with Nicholas Cage and I loved it until the end. The whole alien thing was just too much for me. But overall it was a good film. It got me thinking and that is what art is supposed to do.

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FayeSLongo That movie that just came out with Nicholas Cage. it's called 'Knowing', I can't paste a link to it in here for whatever reason but if you go to http://movie25.com you can search it.

30 Mar 09

unchie @unchie (122) • Philippines 24 Feb 09

I wonder if i can already enroll my son to school this year.. I feel like he already want to go to school. he loves to draw and color. He can draw line,circles and other shapes. He can count one to ten. He's only 2 and a half year...

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FayeSLongo I agree with you about making them go everyday. I did NOT do this with my son and now that he doesn't have a choice it can be VERY challenging.

24 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 7 Feb 09

If I could be invisible for one day I would visit my closest friends and family to see what they say about me when I'm not around. I know that is SO childish but it's the first thing I thought of. After I got bored with that I'd...

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FayeSLongo I liked your first response better. Anyway, only one day may not be long enough to fight terrorism so why not stick with what you know and have fun with it! Thanks for responding =)

7 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo No I wouldn't but my mom would. I think that you put this really well and with very simple terms. Thanks for responding.

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo See what you are describing is a healthy relationship. Being with someone as a conscious choice rather than an unconscious need. Having standards, being aware of what you want and deserve in a partner - those are all healthy things. What my mom does is very...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo See that is the kind of unhealthy pattern I see in my mom and it worries me. I just wish that she could see how amazing she is and that the men she is choosing to be with are straight up $HIT!

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I agree with you completely. I would not want to spend my life alone, I do hope to share my life with someone eventually and I've already learned a lot about myself from the relationships I've been in previously. But its been my experience that a person can't...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo Another GREAT point! "Healthy" relationships are definitely beneficial and I guess that with time even some unhealthy ones could be but I agree, only you can know and validate who you are and that's the point. You have to know who you are before you can do...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo The key thing you said is that you and your partner are "separate individuals". I really do think that is the key - you don't have to agree on everything, you don't have to enjoy the same things, spend every moment together, or become each other. It is ok to...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo You actually bring up a really good point; everyone is different and maybe some people seek out relationships not to validate who they are but for other reasons. I still feel that it is extremely important to be sure of and positive about who you are as an...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I think yours could be the definition of a healthy relationship =) Congrats and thanks for sharing your perspective and experience.

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I think that giving yourself time to recoup is the best thing anyone in your position could do. Being in a relationship (even a good one) is a TON of work and I can't imagine just moving on without any down time. I wish you the best with moving on and thanks...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I couldn't have put that better if I worked at it night and day for the rest of my life! I agree with you completely. Being on your own has value for the lessons you learn about who you are and for the ability to learn to love that person, being in a...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo See I'm young and I've spent about a third of my life in a relationship. I feel like for me, it has been more fulfilling to be alone. I've been able to find myself; to explore who I am and who I want to be, I'm learning how to accept myself, love myself, and...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I agree that being in a relationship doesn't and SHOULDN'T be what makes you whole. I feel that a person has to be able to function on their own before they can be in a long-term and fulfilling relationship. I kinda get that you might agree with that? I think...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I agree with you that being in a HEALTHY relationship can be very fulfilling and it can be one of the most meaningful experiences in one's life. You make a very good point here - thank you for responding.

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

I was reading this book by Pema Chodron and she asked this question. How would you communicate with a personj like that? Careful now, the question isn't what would you do or how would you REACT, it's asking how you would...

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FayeSLongo I actually do that a lot. When I find that I'm not going to be able to express myself in a civil way, I'll give myself sometime to cool off and then I'll write out why I'm upset and the specific points I'd like to make. I've even spoken to people with paper in...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I think what's important is to be ok with being alone. I like being in a relationship; it's comfortable and secure, but it is also important to be ok with being on your own. I think that's what my mom is missing. Congrats to you though, I wish you guys the...

6 Feb 09

FayeSLongo @FayeSLongo (306) • United States 30 Jan 09

My mother has always been with someone. After my step-dad was murdered she had a new boyfriend within two months and that is the longest she has been single since I was born. Does having a prtner really validate us as...

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FayeSLongo I totally agree - boyfriends are overrated!

6 Feb 09

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