jholai

@jholai (43)

United Arab Emirates • Age 42

Joined myLot 17 years ago

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Soul mates?

1indsay @1indsay (10) • United States 1 Feb 10

Do you really believe in soul mates? Do you think there is truly someone out there for everyone? In times where the divorce rate is skyrocketing- does the concept of soul mates still exist and people are not committed and rush to...

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jholai hi 1indsay! i used to read a lot about soulmates and i used these guidelines whenever i met a person i like. after an extensive looking out for the right one, that i agree with you to be quite synonymous to 'soulmate', i finally decided to let things...

3 Feb 10

Are you good in nature compare to your friend?

prakshal @prakshal (3) • India 3 Feb 10

Are you more friendly nature,flexible than your friend

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jholai i find myself more flexible and friendlier than my friends. but, each friend have their own traits better than me. if you ask them, they masy say they are more flexible and friendlier than me. but now, i can say that i thought more about them, their concerns...

3 Feb 10

Does body gestures show listening skills?

myguy09 @myguy09 (63) • Malaysia 1 Feb 10

Good conversation requires two ways of communications i.e talking and listening.Do you have any experience to know if the person is actually listenin to your points,just by looking at his body gestures? Eye contact considered...

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jholai hi.. yes.. you are right. eventhough the person is looking to you and seems lsitening to what you are saying. it doesn't mean that he is that into you. it's not only about him looking at you, but the way he looks at you. try observing how the person's eyes...

3 Feb 10

Does body gestures show listening skills?

myguy09 @myguy09 (63) • Malaysia 1 Feb 10

Good conversation requires two ways of communications i.e talking and listening.Do you have any experience to know if the person is actually listenin to your points,just by looking at his body gestures? Eye contact considered...

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jholai yes, most times. you can even see it on others involve in conversations. maintaining eye contact means one is interested in what the other is saying. else, he'll be looking around, checking his watch, or keep repeating what the other says by nodding but at the...

3 Feb 10

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Working abroad?

wishuluck @wishuluck (233) • Lithuania 3 Feb 10

I spent 4 summers working abroad and it's been a great time. I saved money for my studies, traveled many wonderfull places and met people from all over the world. I've finished my studies now, the economic situation is really...

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jholai i've been working abroad for 3 years now.. i have to earn my keep. if i go back home, i cannot guaranteethe work i will find there. find a work place that you can benefit in the end..and for long term goals..

3 Feb 10

is valentines day the best time to start or propose ur love ?

dilipmiester @dilipmiester (932) • India 2 Feb 10

do u think tat valentines day is the best time to propose ur love since u may get a lots of oppurtunities and rite occasion to do that ..in my opinion i would say tat its the rite time .... but if there a ritght time and occassion...

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jholai it sets the ambiance..for the occasion.. the perfect picture! but, as mentioned.. be creative...make the proposal extra-ordinary. so that one doesn't feel like obliging or going with the flow just becuase it's a heart's day... the best part of proposing is...

3 Feb 10

back to school again?

jholai @jholai (43) • United Arab Emirates 3 Feb 10

hi! i've enrolled in a class to learn a new langauage. now, i'll be back to school (the venue) for upgrade skills. i'm working and more used to it now than attending school to study...and i'm feeling more anxious everyday as the...

you and your friend love the same girl?

dilipmiester @dilipmiester (932) • India 2 Feb 10

suppose if a situation comes where you and your friend happen to love the same girl without knowing that ur friend too loves the same girl ... in that situation what will be ur response .. will you give up ur love for ur friend...

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jholai i am a girl. let's just say if my friend and i love the same boy...and without knowing each other's feelings about this certain boy. first i have to weigh things between friendship and love. sometimes, one has to take risk...it's not always that we can have...

3 Feb 10

When you feel sleepy do you sleep anywhere?

damalimcpherson @damalimcpherson (251) • Jamaica 2 Feb 10

Some persons have a tendency to sleep any where when they become sleepy. As long as they become sleepy they would just sleep. Do you sleep anywhere when you become sleepy?

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jholai there is a term for that in abnormal psychology. one just esily slip into sleep regardless where or when. and it is a very dangerous sleep disorder especially when one is driving. lucky, i don't have such. at times in my work, sleepiness just suddenly strike...

2 Feb 10

Can you be friends with your colleages?

vivianchen @vivianchen (2646) • China 2 Feb 10

You know, except 8 hours sleep, the most of the time we spend is with our workmates, colleages. But sure there is someone that you really don't like, and sure you don't want to be friends with in your personal life. I really hate...

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jholai if you don't like her, you don't need to be friends with her. think about your work. you need to have a good working relationship so you can work comfortably. im quite a people person. though, there might be someone i don't like, i don't show it. they are work...

2 Feb 10

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how do you feel about first kiss?

jholai @jholai (43) • United Arab Emirates 2 Feb 10

i was caught by surprise. the world stopped revolving. first, i was stuck in myself. then become speechless. later, wondering and musing. i would have been spellbound, as expected for first time. i was not. i have thought of...

How do you know if someone is your soulmate?

luvlymee26 @luvlymee26 (326) • Indonesia 2 Feb 10

I always have this question in my head. I'm wondering how to identify someone who is our soul mate. As you know, that we can fall in love with many different guys. So how to determine, which one is our soul mate? And in marriage,...

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jholai i have read a very inspiring book about soulmates but i am not sure if it's true. if you meet someone and sees the light on his/her left shoulder (i hope, it was left..i forget..) shining back to you then he/she is your soulmate. i tried, but my vision might...

2 Feb 10

A small doubt in english..where to sue the word "would"..please give me some ex

srikool @srikool (936) • India 2 Feb 10

hi friends..as you told me you ready to help me to develop my english..so im asking here..few example for "WOULD"..in DAILY LIFE USAGE ..have a nice day

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jholai this word sometimes is taken for granted.. we have been using this word simply and unawarely in our everyday life. but we don't get time to check if we understand the correct usage. But the word itself is a weak word. it's better to use 'will'. in a scenario,...

2 Feb 10

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What do being single means

stand87 @stand87 (664) • Bulgaria 22 Jan 10

Do you thing that being single means being sad? Or maybe it means being free? I feel sad when I'm single. I think that nobody cares about me and I'll be alone forever. So it's bad to be single for me. But there are people who...

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jholai i absolutely agree with you.. they chose to be for some other reasons..

23 Jan 10

Is love easy to find with the world at our finger tips thanks to computers?

TriciaW @TriciaW (2441) • United States 19 Jan 10

I know now we are able to communicate with anyone no matter where they live but does that make love easier to find? I am sure there have been some matches made in heaven over the internet but is that the norm? I haven't found it...

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jholai internet love is a very risky thing to engage with. tried few times but, it never worked out...the very best thing i've experienced was that i've learned before making myself stupid to believe in love... there were secrets lurking behind even despite how often...

20 Jan 10

Is love easy to find with the world at our finger tips thanks to computers?

TriciaW @TriciaW (2441) • United States 19 Jan 10

I know now we are able to communicate with anyone no matter where they live but does that make love easier to find? I am sure there have been some matches made in heaven over the internet but is that the norm? I haven't found it...

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jholai yes, it is so difficult to steer clear of those nonsense people when they kept popping into your screen. but, it takes lots and great swimming strokes in order to get the finest one. ;-)

20 Jan 10

Are you not or are you against pre-marital ... ?

jhaded10 @jhaded10 (42) • Philippines 19 Jan 10

this is always the question. a question that will weigh how you value your morality. how you value yourself and how you value your relationship with your partner. in the conservative world, it is an issue but to those who have...

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jholai being responsible for the consequence is MOST important..but one should be ready and open (accepting). i am neither pro nor against it. as far as our morality and upbringing concerns, we are not supposed to. in the conservation world, it's really a big...

20 Jan 10

unrequited love

mayonaka1616 @mayonaka1616 (555) • Philippines 20 Jan 10

would you wait for someone you really,REALLY love? or just learn to love someone who loves you back? i've been in this situation for a long time now, and i'm still confused. I really love this guy since high school, but he...

unrequited love

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jholai think of him as your first love. as all says, first love never dies. it involves first feeling of love and hurt. even if you have another boyfriend or later married to a different guy, your first love will alsways remains inside you. think of your boyfriend...

20 Jan 10