What if your already commited and there is someone much better come along?

My friend (male) had just going through this condition around 3 months ago, and locked himself trying to figuring out why the girl easily broken him up with typical reason and the next month she went out with somebody else. If the girl moves on with the next man, I feel sorry and symphaty of his current boyfriend which is your friend, it's been 2 years. Nothing can help this girl unless she herself, because it's about her own feeling. No matter how hard we try to persuade or convince her, if she feels next one is better. Even thick-wall of concrete cannot prevent her from moving on with the next guy.

I'll tell you, if your in the place of your friend, you will know who your heart really desires. Because why would you consider someone new if in the first place your relationship with your existing partner is ok. Maybe somethings really wrong that's why you are attracted to someone else. You have to find root of your problem and solve it with your partner so that you will know if your relationship still has a chance and future.

If she can feel that way for someone else then she should not be with the guy she is with. At the same time she should end her present relationship before being with the other guy. It's best to do it now then to continue on with the relationship without having your whole heart committed. But I hope she is real sure because she shouldn't think that she can keep her present boyfriend on standby.

There will always be a kind of thrill for the unknown, therefore not knowing the new guy as much as she does her current partner would bring such a thrill and excitement to her. It might be that her relationship has been so steady that sometimes it seems to be boring already but it doesn't mean that she is with the wrong person. It also does not mean that her current partner is indeed the one for her. It is up to her to pass the judgement, she is the one who had the emotinal connection with the two, therefore only she alone can judge her feelings as to whether she should go with the new guy or stick with her current partner.

Hi tines. Well, it depends. I don't know but I thought in a relationship is the love that matter. Love will bring you to the right person. I am not quite understand how to fall in love with two person in the same time. If she doesn't, then just pick the one she love, then end of story. haha. I am sorry that I crapped a lot here.

The first thing she needs to do is to examine her current relationship with her boyfriend. If she's looking at someone else, there's obviously something missing in the current partnership. Is it just that the new guy is fresh and new, and offers the possibility of change and a new beginning. Often, people settle into a relationship, but stop working on it. If she has any feelings left for her current boyfriend, she needs to decide if the time and effort invested into the relationship is worth sacrificing for this new arrival. If she does decide to pursue the new guy, then she needs to break up with her boyfriend before acting on anything - after two years, she owes him that if she decides not to stay in the relationship.

It is really a difficult situation but it's really up to your friend if she would let her self fall to that guy. I'm a one man woman so as much as I can I would try my best to maintain our relationship with my boyfriend in good shape. It is really up to me if I would let myself fall to another man especially when there is a third party. As long as you can try to avoid it then try to do it. But if your friend really think that her relationship with her boyfriend is not working anymore then that's the time that she could end up her relationship with him.

if you are already committed, then ideally you should stick to him. but it also depends from person to person. There will be always a better choice in many respect. One should ask himself/herself whether still want to stick to the old one or move on. But personally If i had this situation, then how long will i serach for better and how many i have to dump?

Well you should go with that someone better coz you dont wanna say this to yourself for the rest of your life that You could have someone better not for yourself but also for the other person but you didnt only coz you didnt want your boyfriend to feel bad about it

Hi There!!I can only tell you that you are not in Love with your boyfriend!!When you are really in love you have no dilemmas!! Regards Silvana

first 2 years is a long time to be dating. it long enough for her to get bored. when that happens, someone "better" WILL come along.

Good morning tines, Your friend has to decide this for herself. No one else can make up her mind for her. Tell her to be very careful, and know what's she is doing. She may just be infatuated with this new guy. Blessings.

Sincerely speaking, shes much immature to understand love and cant distinguish between love and infactuation. When you love,you love everything of a person.If you consider it to be a fish market where you want to fine quality and with quantity products,means you dont understand love and it is not the right time for you to be committed.She still have much to learn.Survival of the fittest dosent work in love.Thats not love.If I were her,I would discuss this with whom I am committed to and clearly say that I think I would need time. I am not matured enough to understand love.

All one can do is follow ones heart. Who does she REALLY want to be with. Choose and follow that path.

I think she would just have to follow her heart. Moreover she is still single, I mean she is not married yet so she is basically free to make her decision to choose whom to be her soul mate. Getting married is a serious decision and she deserves to get the best person. What is the use to keep the old relationship when in her heart there is somebody else? But she should clarify it in her heart that she does love the second man, and not just going for the second man because he has a better personality. Marry someone out of love is the best decision ever. I hope her lots of luck. Luv, ladysurvivor.

She should break up with her boyfriend and try it with the new guy. She seems to want to be with the new guy more than her boyfriend and if she stays with the boyfriend, she will start to resent him because she had to give up her soulmate.It is hard to break up with somebody but it is better to have a clean break so you can be with the one you want.

Well, that is teh thing that she must have to decide. Along the way, she would really meet someone better than his bf... its up to her if she still feel the love for her bf above this better man. sometimes, we must know what we really like to have. We must not forget that those things that we already have, was once among the things that we hope to have.

it's really hard to decide which one to choose when you have to choose one of two. what i suggest is to tell her ask herself the following questions: 1, why did you fall in love with your current boyfriend? why do you fall in love with the new one now? 2, what do they impresse you respectively and which one impresse you most? 3, are you sure the new one acts himself in front of you? 4, are you sure he loves you as your boyfriend does ? 5, are you sure you won't meet someone else better after you leave your boyfriend for the new one? always people think another one much better than the one close to them becasue they know the closer ones but not the new ones and always people do not act as they really does when the two people are not so familiar with each other. tell your friend think over it and do not haste. calm down and be rational.^^

Could this be a case of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence? If she's truly committed then she stays with the guy she's with. My brother went thru a similar situation. He was married, thought this new gal was better, had an affair, ended his marriage and realized he'd made a huge mistake. Of course by then it was too late. I'd tell her if she's going to go for the new guy she needs to be 100% sure she's not going to regret it and want to go back to the old guy. Also it seems to me that if they've been together two years that's a lot of time to just throw away.

as relationships progress, there will always be someone you think is much better than your current one. but you must remember that sometimes people tend to think that somebody else is better because the relationship had become monotonous and the concept of something "new" becomes tempting.what she should do is, think hard before making any decions. dont be impulsive.list all the pros and cons of choosing that person and leaving the other one behind.where will she be happier? that should be her basis in making her decision because at the end of the day it all boils down to being happy and content with what we have.