What would you prefer,being a homemaker or a career woman

It is such a hard decision to make. I am currently a stay at home mom, my husband works 60 + hours a week as a car salesman so he isn't home much. It also doesn't help that he was previosly a marine so we live in a military town so no family or friends around here. And it is really hard to meet people when you don't work and kids aren't in school yet. I worked for a few months when my son was 2 and I was pregnant with my daughter and honestly I loved it, of course I missed my son I had never been away from him like that, but he loved it too. A friend's dad came to help her with hers and so he watched my son as well. But I don't want to miss my childrens lives and I dont' trust daycares not after everything you hear on the new throughtout the years and also now that I have 2 kids you cant find a job around here to pay daycare for 2, but at the same time it is nice to have a break and get out of the house, and I loved being able to earn that extra income. I know being just mom is very improtant but it felt good to bring home a check and be able to pay some of the bill s too.

I am a stay home mom. I have a business which I visits once in awhile. But I am planning to go back to the limelight again as son as my kids are all grown up and can already stand on their own. I want to continue my career.

This is a very difficult question indeed! I believe that every family has to make that decision based on their circumstances. As for me, currently I would have to keep working due to our financial situation. Plus, I have insurance benefits. We do not currently have children, but are trying to start a family, so it is something we have to think about. I am doing a lot of things online (Marketing Pond, Global Team Club, Free Money Team, and many others) to try to replace my corporate income. I really want to raise my own children, rather than work for a corporation and pay someone else to see their first steps, etc. That's my dream!

Well my husband works and he does earn enough to suport us and with the social that I get we manage just fine and are able to pay off our home and save a bit. But if that wasnt the case I would have had to go to work and that is not I want. I always wanted to be there for my kids and I am doing exacly that my son comes before everything else but not at any price if he was going to go without I would have made a compromise and worked part time or casual.

Staying home with my son is the best thing I have ever done. I think I would like to go back to work when he starts school, and I will probably have to because money is getting tight. But for now, I can't even think of going to work and leaving him. He is the most important thing in my life, and I need to be here for him during these early years.

If my husband is earning well that he can afford to support and give the best for his family I will never hesitate to stop working and be a homemaker and I want to let my children grow up in my own personal touch..I see a big difference ...kids that grow up with the care of a nanny because parents are so busy with their respected careers and those kids that grow up with the personal care of a mother..children grow up with mom are the one with full developed of confidence and they are closed and sweet to each other Im not saying that those grow up with baby sitter does not develop closeness and not sweet but as my observation theres a big difference try to observed with your kids if you have a nanny even you would say you have a quality time given if you dont have work still we have to admit that our kids have more time with their nanny than us...Your friend had a good decision for quitting his own profession in favor for her family I salute her...family is the most important thing but we need to balance of what we do..because we need to work for our family coz we need to give the best for our children...but again if we value the future of our children then we think otherwise...

My husband is a doctor, he earn quite well and enough for both of us with one little son :). Now I stay at home to take care my son, but I plan come back to work after 2 years. I enjoy time to stay at home and take care my family but I love come back to work as well. My family is first, career is second. I work to maintain my knowledge that I have studied before, not only for money reason.

Being a homemaker is also a career. If I have a husband that is earning well than I would take the career of homemaker. I would love to stay at home and take care of my children. Make sure they are being given the values that I have because a babysitter doesn't give values she/he only watches the children. Being a homemaker is the most important career of all. You are helping children to learn how to live in the world today. If I wanted to work I would find a home based business.

well i'm highly educated myself but i'd still rather stay home with my kids. Frankly, I hate working. Its stressful, youre always rushed, i hate being bossed around all day, etc. When you work AND have a family you have twice as much to do than if youre just at home. And i'm a natural homebody. I *have* to work now b/c we need money, but if i was in a situation where i didnt have to, i would quit my job in a heart beat!

i think that's very brave of your friend and she obviously knows what she wants for her kids. personally i would like to have the luxury to stay at home and be with my kids in future, but as of now when we calculate, the forgone income is really sizable. i have parents who have offered to help because they are just so thrilled with the prospect of having a grandchild. so i guess we'll see. if we can afford it I'd prefer to stay at home most of the time. perhaps i can give tuition to earn some side income.

I really appreciate that my mom stayed home with me and my brother when we were growing up. She started making and selling crafts at galleries around town and weekend craft shows. She started working outside the home when we went to school. I hope that either my husband or I will be able to stay home with the kids, we'll eventually decide based on who can get the job with the best income and benefits. Since I also do a lot of photography, make some jewelry, sewing and could do wood and metal crafts, I may decide to follow my mother's example and try for a kid-friendly career as an artist/craft person.

I'll be a homemaker first. Don't want to miss their growing up part. They grow up fast and I wonldn't want to miss it. Maybe start my careet again when they can manage on their own.

I have four sons and two step-sons. Over the last 12 years, I've been a full time mom to children from birth through age 21. Let me tell you something, sweetheart. No matter how much you love your kids, if someone is going to give you some time away, take it. If they are going to pay you for that time as well, include them in your prayers. Everyone needs some time to themselves and a homemaker has very little to none of that. Any opportunity that you have to pursue a career, or even a hobby if your spouse makes enough, make the most of that chance. You will be a better wife and mother when you take care of yourself and keep some hold of your own identity as a human being.

Hi my name is mira i have a wonderful little angel she's called LILIANNE 2 years ago.for two years ago i didn't leave her even an hour.but nowadays i have to leave her and go to work.she will stay with my mom but she tearing my heart rending i wish if i stay with her but life becomes high coasted nowadays.in addition to the work time is so long (9hours)so iwill miss her so much. the kids are responsability so i think that the woman who can raising children well,she realized the most important thing at her life.

I love being a stay at home mom and am very happy I am able to do it. I do try and find ways to make alittle extra money to bring in the house so we wouldn't have to struggle so much not that we are bad off but I would like to be a little bit better off. I don't trust anyone with my kids. There are so many crazy people out there and even teachers no a days are going crazy. They had a story on yahoo yesterday of a teacher calling her kids stupid they were 4 year olds and the other stories you hear. There is a baby boy that has tubes coming out of his head and will be messed up for the rest of his life b/c their parents left him with someone who they thought they could trust. The woman shook him. That was someone they thought they could trust. My mother almost lost my daughter at a fair at 2 years old. I don't trust any men at all b/c they are both girls and my friend's little girl is messed up b/c her uncle was doing things to her that no adult should do to little kids. So I do have some trust issues and my mother said that once when I was younger that a woman took me almost out of the store so how can I trust her with my child when she wasn't watching me well enough then and they have even more crazy people now a days. Once they do go to school I have thought about working at the school that way I can be off when they are off but not being a teacher. I don't know how teachers do it.

I always prefer to be the homemaker.. I want to be a carreer woman but lack of trust to those who look after my kids so I prefer hands on with them..

I did the sit home thing and raise kids-its not for me. My kids are older and can do things for themselves. I hate sitting at home. Working gives me something to do.

I am currently a stay at home mom, although I do make some money on the internet. I miss going out of the house now and then because I don't get out often. I don't miss some things about work but I did love having adults to talk to. I live in a small town and it's mostly people who are older and the retirees. Not much to thrive for in conversation but if I catch them outside I will go chat with them. I used to work in a nursing home and would constantly get yelled at for taking to much time with a resident because I do like to talk to them about the older days.

When my first son was born I had to keep working because of a contract I had signed and money I would owe if I didn't. So off to daycare he went. When my second son was born my committment was over and so now I am staying home with both of them. In the begginning I hated it. I felt isolated and lonely. I missed talking to adults, I missed getting out of the house, I missed lunch breaks where I actually had time to be alone with my thoughts. Now my youngest is old enough to go wherever I go and so I can get out of the house and do things with both of them. I'm loving being the one they miss when my husband and I head out somewhere. I love that my oldest and I have finally bonded in a way we never did when he was little and I was working. And all those annoying things the daycare did are gone and all the bad behaviors and habits he picked up are also gone. But I still miss the lunch breaks! Someone should start a stay at home mom lunchbreak company, lol.

I stay home. I let my nursing license lapse which was maybe a dumb idea, I may have to work again should something happen, you know? (I don't think I could go back to that anyway but it was good money). Anyway, I stay home and I am happy with that- I do a couple little things on the side to make a little play money and hubby and I own a business that I do some work for. Occasionally I miss having somewhere to go and do, but for the most part I dread the thought of having to go back to work.