Have you forgetten your parents' birthday?
By lucy67
@lucy67 (819)
China
October 4, 2008 8:41am CST
It was my father's birthday the other day but I forgot it. I feel very sorry for it. I have never forgotten my son's birthday but have forgotten my parents' birthday several times. Does it mean I don't love my parents as much as I love my son? I don't think so but I cannot explain why I forget their birthday? What do you think of it? Have you forgetten your parents' birthday? Do you think forgetting or not means the degree of love?
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21 responses
@fancymover (151)
• India
4 Oct 08
At least you know your parents birthday. But to me, my parents are illeterate and they don't know when they born. What should I have to do.
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@passenger1 (67)
• China
5 Oct 08
Hey,lucy67!You just remind me.It is several days later that my mother's birthday will come.I am sorry I remember my parents' birthday,but I seldom celebrate it.So I regret it.I think I will avoid it later.My mother's birthday is drawing near.So I think I should do something to prepare it.
Happy mylotting!
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@max1950 (2306)
• United States
5 Oct 08
i forgot my dads birthday every year,my moms was the day after mine so that was a no-brainer.i also forget my grandkids it's just not that important to me,oh don't get me wrong someone always tells me and reminds me when ones comming up but to me it's just another day. heck i don't even realize it's mine unless someone reminds me it just wasn't a big thing for us,maybe because we were always working.don't let anyone throw a guilt trip on you ,people forget it's got nothing to do with love.
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I never ever forget my parents birthday. Or else, my family will be mad at me. Every year we have a big celebration for my mom and my dad birthday.
My mom birthday is december 25 so, that is unforgetable date since it christmas day...
@hongqistreet (321)
• China
5 Oct 08
I've never forgotten my parents' birthdays even my grandparents' birthdays .I love them so much and i am really close with them .Though i live far from them,i will give them birthdays calls every year.
But i think rembering parents' birthday or not doesn't mean the degree of love.I can understand your conditions.Maybe you are busy these days so you fogot some important days.Perhaps you've rembered your son's birthday just beacuse he is living with you now,you can see him everyday.So don't blame yourselve so much,i think your parents would understand.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I always forget my dad's birthday. I just get confused with the dates. It's not that easy to remember. I'm not sure if it's April 23 or 24 and I have to aks my mom all the time once April is nearing. I love my dad a lot so I don't think forgetting his birthday once in a while means that I don't love him as much. I guess I just didn't make enough effort to remember the date...
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@mscott (1923)
• United States
4 Oct 08
I have never forgotten my parents birthdays. It was rather hard to forget them since they were both born on holidays. My sister was also born on a holiday. I was the only one not born on a real holiday but if I stretch it to what is considered a holiday I fall on two possibly 3 different ones. Weird huh?
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
This is a normal thing after you have your own family. You will tend to pay more attention to your family instead of parents. Hence,you will easily forget your parents' birthdays. I never forget my parents' birthdays so far but I don't dare to guarantee in future I will still remember their birthdays as now I still don't have my own family yet. This is not a matter of how much of love you have towards your parents or your children,maybe just the concentration is different now,but I am sure you still love them equally. Lol.
@IrishRose23 (542)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I've never forgotten their birthdays- except once, and i'll explain soon. I have a system that works every time if I THINK i'm going to forget. My mom's birthday is June 18. Well, country singer, Blake Shelton, shares the same birthday. My dad's birthday is October 22. Well, Halloween is in October, and it's just 11 days before that... so I can't forget. This past June I was very sick with food poisoning, and I was still sick on my mom's birthday. I did end up forgetting that day, but she understood and in fact, I had my sister go get her some flowers for me to make up for forgetting. She ended up putting the flowers on my nighstand that same night as I was sleeping.
Forgetting doesn't mean you don't love them. With everything going on in life, there are simple things you can forget. So, don't feel too bad about it.
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@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
4 Oct 08
i never forget their birthdays as it is the time for me to make them real happy and pay them some more respect that they deserve and most of the time i am successful in surprising them. and i don't think if you forget the date it is still ok and it is the love that you have for them that really matters and these worldly things can be source of happiness but they will be more happy to see the joy and love with which you react with them.
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@AmyBethYes (96)
• United States
4 Oct 08
I always have a hard time remembering my parents' birthdays. It happened to me just in August, I forgot my mother's birthday, and didn't even realize it until my father called me and told me about it almost a week later. I felt horrible, but it doesn't mean I don't love and care about my mother as much as humanly possible.
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@Jappley (33)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I haven't forgotten my parents birthday and i guess i'll never. You may forget friend's birthday but never a family member. Unless, you never met them. You may forget to greet them on that day maybe because you are too busy, but I'm sure the date itself ... For me it's unforgivable :)
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Hi there Lucy67!
I never forget my parents' birthday. There was never a time I forgot their special day. If you forgot your parents' birthday but not intentionally, it doesn't mean that you do not love them. Perhaps you've been preoccupied by a lot of things that's why.
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@pimagro24 (1046)
• Thailand
4 Oct 08
yes i forgot but my family they don't mind about birthday, i think it not mean deegree of love I think things that you make with you parent everyday is important than birthday one day. today you told them you love them or not. this is the best
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
4 Oct 08
This is really funny, i always forgot my moms birhsday when i was a kid.
I forgot it so bad that i set my wedding date on my moms birthday.
When i told her i was getting married on that date she said "do you know thats my birthday?"
Now for the last 24 years i always remembered her birthday
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@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
4 Oct 08
I have never forgotten my parents Birthdays. I love them very much and their Birthdays are hard to forget even if I forget my own Birthday. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your parents. Do you really love them or you just don't care for them? How will you feel if your son forgets your Birthday? Will you feel sad or will you just ignore it? My advice for you is have a calender at home and write all the important days on it and check it every day morning. This will help you to remember all important days.
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@bettyr (1)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I think it's disgraceful and disrespectful to forget your parents' birthdays and it's hurtful to them--even if they say otherwise. I know that first hand. My three adult sons never remember my birthday though I've never forgotten theirs and have always gone beyond the call of duty for their birthdays. It makes me wonder how much they really care about me or respect me if they can't even remember my birthday and don't have the slightest care about making the day special for me.
Today is my birthday, and they've forgotten again. And yes, it really hurts. I've gotten so that I dread my birthday, because I know I'll be upset.
Remember your parents' birthdays. There are only so many yet to come. Someday soon, they will be gone and you'll wish that you'd been a better daughter to them.