hard forgiving someone

I am the kind of person who forgives and forgets, but it would depend on what my so-called friend did to me. Though, I've had experiences wherein I could never manage to talk to someone I really hated because of what he did to me and I have never had the courage to try to forgive him. I tell myself that I do but I can still vividly remember what he did.

hmm.. forgiveness is something that is sometimes difficult for me, too. i guess i am also hard that way. but first, i like to know the reason why the person did something wrong, then i make a decision. i easily get hurt, and when i get hurt i find it hard to forgive. eventually, i can forgive. but i always find myself being wary of the person who has done me wrong.

If i was in your position, i would have had a hard time forgiving him too, but after, i guess the several attempts he tried to ask for you forgiveness, i would have felt sincerity and will probably give in and say i forgot about the whole thing now, and that i have already forgiven him.. (of course i would tell him/her that i just probably wouldn't want to be friends with him/her after the incident.. so we can just forget that we were friends.. but of course, i'd forget that he did me a bad thing)...

forgetting in the sense of forgiving is possible when one remembers the incident but not the pain anymore. i've had a few similar experiences. i confront, stay wary, and move on. i never forget things and people who offended me gravely, but i allow time to heal everything, and when it does i know i have been able to forgive. one thing that never happens when someone offends me is that i never allow the incident to dictate the more important aspects of my life which are my relationships with other people, my self-respect, and my attitude toward my work. we can never stay angry that long when we and the more important people in our lives know the truth.

If a friend would destroy you, you have to believe that s/he is not your friend..

I think it is not hard to forgive someone.In daily life,we can meet many things and many persons,some things and persons are bad to us,they bring us sad feelings.If we exchange the roles each other,we should forgive everything.

Forgiveness is something that i have always been able to give. i have always believed that everyone deserves a second chance.

If i find the forgiveness sincere then i believe a few efforts of saying sorry is enough already. I am really not that hard on my friends when they offend me like seriously. I just take time to ease the tension and see how sincere the sorry was.

Yah, i know the feeling cause it happened to me ....though i have forgiven her and we remained friends ....it's really hard to forgive when the anger is still there.....but we must learn to forgive .....

It is case to case basis. As soon as somebody as offended me and he/she asked for forgiveness my heart is easily appease. But I struggle with those offenders that have trampled on my emotions and yet are so proud of what they do. Since we are human, I asked from spiritual strength from God to be able to forgive wholeheartedly. The mind is a battlefield since sometimes it contradicts my plans to forgive. I want to live light and free that is why forgiveness is a decision that I must make on a daily basis.

when hard ti giving a friends or someone to being a good to each other to communicate to be a gentle like if you a girl you can easy to give that why you can be a friends but there was a time when you like to give your friends it is hard to be a gentle forgiving.,.,like in your school you can give your answer in your friends that why hard to understand why/./.

Hmm.. i think you must forgive him totally since he`s already die. Forgiving someone is like letting go of your heart to suffer from hatred. Its cool to have a harmonious relationship w/ other people. ^.^

I've been there, my close friend was very offended me, but this time I'm in a state of pregnancy, she was very, very not understand my feelings, I was very angry once when he was talking about me in one of the accounts of friends. But because I easily forget them if you have a problem so I'm easy to forgive someone.

i know the feeling that you are being backfired and spreading rumors. i actually confronted the persons involved and end up crying after the confrontation. i eventually forgave them but the closeness with them did not happen. i distanced myself from them afraid of getting hurt again. since then i became very careful in saying things because i know there are people always waiting for you to destroy you. i dont backfire because i know how it hurts. i know it is not easy to forgive but for me i forgive people easily that is maybe one of the reasons people takes me for granted. i just think that if God forgives people who have done much more hurtful things to him who am i not to give forgiveness.

If someone really had hurt me bad and involved other people on it, I would have hard time forgiving the person whether he or she asked for forgiveness after that or not. What I always do to that kind of person is I will just ignore them and just let the time heals the pain, doesn't matter if the person happened to be just someone I knew or a friend of mine. When someone decided to offend me, I also blocked them from getting too close to me, though I may forgive them someday, but I will still won't let them get close to me.

If a person has done a great damage to me then I would really have a hard time forgiving that person. But if the person is really sincere and he will be able to change the things he has done before with me like taking it all back what he had said before then I should be able to forgive him. Sometimes the thing that makes us hard to forgive is when there is no asking of forgiveness at all from you so it is really hard to forgive someone without even being sorry for what he did.

Forgiveness is commitment to change. It can be difficult and it can take time. One step is to recognize the importance of forgiveness and it's meaning in your life. Next, reflect on the facts of the situation, how you've reacted, and how this has affected your life. Then, when you are ready, actively choose to forgive your friend who has offended you. This is in the way you can stop feeling like the victim and let go of the power that your friend and the insult has had you in your life. Forgiveness also means that you search to change and beliefs and actions that are driven by your anger and bitterness. When you can let go of your grudges, you'll no longer focus on how you've been hurt and you will even learn to find more understanding and compassion with others. Friends can make mistake and so can you. When you are getting over the insult by a friend, remember to think it first, tell her/him how you feel and then forgive and forget about it.

I'd experience that too. Traitor friend is very hard to forgive. They talk against my back, throwing rumors against me, but i just realize that i should learn to forgive, because nobody's perfect in the first place, i know it's hard to forgive someone who offended you greatly, but remember, God gave his forgiveness to all the sins we've made, how much more WE, which is just a HUMAN after all.

although if a friend of yours has offended you alot it might be difficult for you to forgive him or her, but no matter how the case may be it is under must for you to forgive him or her because you need to learn how to forgive according to what the HOLY BIBLE and the HOLY QURAN

i think the we should forget because the human beings have fault in them and no one is perfect .by looking at their weakness we should be whole heartedly forgive . second chance should be given .