Is it worth posting on controversial topics?

I'm an easy going person and of course I have my views like everyone else but I don't want to fall out with people.

@sprite1950 I have seen some users really fight for religion here. Better to skip that topic.

@LadyDuck I do. As soon as someone starts quoting from the bible I'm gone.

@sprite1950 Unpleasantness is because people word it wrongly. I have had good heated debates and no harsh words were exchanged with many people who have continued to be my friends. I will give you an example. I had long ago taken a stand that Hitler was not directly responsible for final solution (because Newsweek magazine some 30 odd years ago had mentioned there was no evidence linking him). I have argued, and most people accepted he was guilty. I needed the "missing link"...believe me at least 4 posts ...nobody came to remove my ignorance. It is only in the 3rd post that I read something which made me read more and more and finally I came to logical conclusion. I need to be convinced. If I am not convinced, I can't take sides.

@vandana7 You have a very logical way of looking at things but not everyone is like that unfortunately.

I suppose so but I've seen a bit of unpleasantness here when it comes to discussing them and that puts me off.

@sprite1950

I feel exactly the same. It can be upsetting if someone is rude.

@Sreekala You are a smart person.

As grown ups, and mature people, I thought we would be more open to reasoning. But at least we trigger reasoning, so yes, it is good enough as far as I am concerned. :)

@sprite1950 Your choice, and it is not a bad choice as I have noticed that discussions about politics and religion are getting usually less responses.

That's true but I know what it feels like to be bashed on an online site and I don't want to feel like that again. Easy going discussions for me these days.

I know you DJ....the difference is I stir up a hornet's nest and you come there to rescue me. lol

@vandana7 Your knight in shining armour

That's a good attitude to have. I'm probably a little oversensitive and need to toughen up. Until then I shall stick to friendly discussions where I know people won't want to argue with me.

Well it's the opinions that seem to cause the problems. If I can see someone challenging me I usually say I given my views and have nothing more to say, then leave the discussion.

@sprite1950 I'm the same way. :-)

I completely agree with you.

@sprite1950

@cmoneyspinner Hello you .. you're going to get a ban for this comment on FC Controversial .. a subject likely to cause public disagreement with many differing views .. like religion. People get heated when discussing this topic because there are so many different religions and each person thinks his is the true one. Also atheists and agnostics will often give their view which can upset some people.

@cmoneyspinner Yes I saw it but I haven't left a comment. I can understand that we should play nicely though.

@sprite1950 - I just signed in today and see that the Administrator has written a long post about "censorship". Here I was thinking about controversy when I should have been concerning myself with censorship.

@pgntwo Thanks .. looks like me on a bad day!

Indeed. I have noticed that since l came here

@sprite1950 Love the Alice in Wonderland reference in your photo! "Off with her head!".

I've noticed that there are times when that's difficult but for the most part this is a friendly place.

@sprite1950 Yes. Most of us can even disagree about a topic and still discuss it without becoming uncivil.

Exactly ..it should not be my way or the highway. It should be a process that helps us to understand each other. Agreed based on our personal experiences we would be inclined to hold on more firmly to a stand that we have arrived. But here, I learned that not every drunkard's family is ungrateful.

Yes, sometimes people cannot think outside the box and then it will cause arguments.

Probably because you were quite new. People don't like change. At least you didn't let it put you off coming here.

@sprite1950 I agree..it doesn't stop there. But we need to develop a more tolerant language and way to understand each other. Ability to respect? Isn't the absence of it the cause of all problems humans face? So if there is a chance to develop that ability, why not?

It rarely stops at that though. because some don't respect the views of others. Perhaps there should be a special section here for controversial topics.

@sprite1950 yes of course.and i know my limits too.

I'm not either but sometimes people try to draw you into a discussion about another subject and then bring religion into it.

You sound very well adjusted

Yes I have so regretted making certain comments not so much here but on other forums

I've noticed that sometimes a discussion can be about something totally unrelated to religion and then someone will start quoting from the bible.

@Bluedoll I didn't know much about the Housewife saga and I don't know who left the site because of that discussion. I have been bashed on other sites, not on a religious post, but even though I told myself it didn't matter, it did hurt and although I think I did a pretty good job of defending myself, I was aware that many people had seen the attack which made me feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't say I was a shrinking violet but it did make me more wary of posting on discussions where people become heated and are likely to throw insults. You are absolutely right, it is social hurts and not topics which drive people away.

@sprite1950 I'm not a fan of Islam's holy book (I read the bible) so completely understand when something religious is put on the table however at the same time understand why it might be being done. Still not sure if it is the material or subject itself that so terribly controversial until people start disagreeing to something? I don't think a topic should be made taboo because something negative happens. I never called housewife a name or belittled her personally in anyway although I don't think much of atheism. I thought we were able to interact well at the last of her postings here. I understood her point of view and reason for leaving. I was labeled a moron here a long time ago but still here. It shouldn't happen but sometimes it does which doesn't make it any less hurtful. I think it is the social hurts that drive people off the site and not mere topics which can be discussed by adults unless of course they feel they are not up for it - which is totally okay too. What do you think?

I don't think veggie talk would irritate me too much although I'm not vegetarian myself.

I definitely like a quieter life

@sprite1950 so do I.

@anikoonline Some people will try to bring religion into a discussion that has nothing to do with it though and I think that's where the problems start.

@sprite1950 Yes, I think that religion is someone's personal confidence. I think that we should not convince anyone of our personal belief. It is rather should be about acceptance of the difference in religion and faith.

@anikoonline If only everyone saw it that way but they don't.