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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 20 May 09

In some states a couple must file for a "legal separation" before they can divorce. But for the most part it is just between the couples as to what they will do. Some file for divorce right away and then separate and others...

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jillmalitz Thanks for your views on this. Right now I have come to the conclusion that there is no reason to go back to the marriage. I have realized I gave up "me" for him and now I think it is time to find out who I am and be me for me.

1 Oct 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 23 May 09

Call me crazy but I think I had an epiphany last night. Some of you know that since my separation I've been living with my daughter and her family. They have frequently driven me nuts with some things they do. But for some reason...

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jillmalitz Yes, I tend to think so too. I am trying to take what has happened and is happening to me and learn from it. I talked to a minister recently about the possible "plan" God has for me. Maybe this is all part of that plan. Thanks for your response.

1 Oct 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 30 May 09

Well, after two and a half months of separation from my husband I have finally been replaced - by a dog! I found this to be funny. My stepdaughter bought he daddy a dog. Funny, this man never did anything for the two we had. Never...

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jillmalitz Thanks for the laugh! Actually the dog is male. I wonder if he will learn any thing. Thanks for responding.

1 Oct 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz I can see where, after some thought, it would be useful in that regard. Good point. Thanks for responding.

8 Sep 09

ElicBxn @ElicBxn (63643) • United States 4 Sep 09

it is 6:10 on Friday, Sept 4th, and we have a small, violent cell of rain right over the house... we just had a Flash/Bang! you know, bright flash and BOOM! - it won't be here long, its a little cell, but it sure is packing a...

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jillmalitz Fry's is good. There is not one in Waco. Traci got the new one at walmart.

5 Sep 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Wow, that is actually a nice story. Glad it works for them. Thanks for something on the positive side.

30 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Yes there are any number of reasons why people do what they do. I can not understand why a person would agree to be something they are not. And of course a lot would depend on what I wanted out of my life. If there were no future, I don't think I would do it....

30 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Yes, you are right about that.

30 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz I hear ya! I'm with you.

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Direct and to the point, a little like me. I would not want to be in that type of relationship because I would always have to guard against making a mistake or discovering, like you said, that I am not happy. Why lie? Why convince yourself that you are ok when...

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz That is a good thought about having a better friend than the marriage part. I think the friendship would be most important. But on the other hand, not having that intimate part might make a partner wander away. And the fact that the relationship would have to...

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz You have a different take than most. I admire the devotion to his "cause" but where would that be different than any other friend? If you don't live with him and present yourself as the relationship but rather an "open" friendship. I can see that you would be...

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz That's my feeling. Just think of how many athletes and performers are gay but refuse to be honest with supporters and fans. I guess they are afraid people won't go to the games,movies, concerts, etc. That would cost them money. Even everyday people can be...

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz I want not want to do that either. It's a waste of time unless I had no plans for a life of my own. But why would anyone want to continue a lie. People will pick up the lie eventually. Thank you for your thoughts.

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Thanks. That is why I wonder why people do make up stories like that. The lies can only get bigger and bigger and someone will eventually find out and then there will be a lot more trouble. Best to be honest. This way you can sort out the true friends from the...

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz That is true. I always wonder about arranged marriages. I guess the "arrangement" I have mentioned is similar. I would still rather love as a friend and support a choice that lie about a relationship. Thanks for your response.

29 Aug 09

jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jillmalitz Yes compromise in this situation can bring long term problems. Especially when 20 years later one or the other realizes that their life has passed them by. Fess up and deal with the fallout. Those people who are true friends, fans, etc will always be there. If...

29 Aug 09

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