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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 20 May 09

In some states a couple must file for a "legal separation" before they can divorce. But for the most part it is just between the couples as to what they will do. Some file for divorce right away and then separate and others...

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miamilady I'm sure the reasons and the purpose of seperation vary greatly from couple to couple. I can only guess at a couple of possible reasons. You can think of it as a marital "time-out". Sometimes people think they can't be married to this person any more,...

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 23 May 09

Call me crazy but I think I had an epiphany last night. Some of you know that since my separation I've been living with my daughter and her family. They have frequently driven me nuts with some things they do. But for some reason...

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miamilady I am a pretty strong believer in the idea that "things happen for a reason". But, I think it is up to us to decide to figure out what those "reasons" are. Even if it is more about "stuff happens" for no particular reason, we should try to make every...

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 30 May 09

Well, after two and a half months of separation from my husband I have finally been replaced - by a dog! I found this to be funny. My stepdaughter bought he daddy a dog. Funny, this man never did anything for the two we had. Never...

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miamilady The b!tch! lol (is the dog female?) Won't it be interesting to see if he actually learns how to care for his new pet? It may help him to grow up a bit...

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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AKMEDIA2 It depends on what the purpose of the cover is. If the purpose were for a good reason like if the homosexuality were discriminated against in such a manner that it would hurt the person, I would help them. It all depends on the case and each situation is...

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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hagirl I believe in these days and times this does not happen very much. Years ago when these problems would creep up it was because the husband or wife did not come out until after the marriage had taken place. Look at the case that has been in the news about the...

30 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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Twiddles I agree. People enter into relationships for different reasons that only they know. Hopefully it works out for them and only time would tell. Me personally I wouldn't go into a relationship with a gay man, but maybe the person had her own reasons. A person can...

30 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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lakerfanster If it was about something that could be sorted out I would try my best to try and talk to my partner but you can't really do that with wanting children as If someone does not feel they want to start a family at that point they certainly should not be forced...

30 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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braided oh ... and i'm not a martyer ...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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braided No .... i wouldnt ... why waste time ..i love myself and i wouldnt do anything that would make me unhappy ... the most important thing is for me to be happy and if i'm unhappy in a relationship ...is sure isnt doing the other person any favours ... is it ?? So...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jimntam That would be pretty hard to do, knowing that you wouldn't be able to have all the things that comes with a marriage. But then on the other hand you'd probably have a better friend than most mariages have. It might not be so bad if it were an open marriage so...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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sarahruthbeth22 I guess I should give up my " girl" card1 I never dreamt of being a wife or a mother. In fact i refuse to have kids. so if a guy friend neede me to play like his girlfriend so he could stay in the closet , I would . i wouldn't live with him And I would see...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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twoey68 Probably not. The only reason I can think of that someone would do something like that is for financial security but even that would wear on someone. I guess if your going to be gay then you need to be upfront about it and live your life the way you want...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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doryvien No, I don't think I can stay in a relationship that doesn't have a future. And definitely I cannot stay just to cover up for someone's true identity. If he is gay and wants to keep it from others that he can go ahead but not at my expense. Of course there are...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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sweetyethot If there's no future in a relationship,I will leave though it hurts a lot.I cant understand why people make up cover stories.Its easier to tell the truth.

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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LetranKnight25 There are people who stay in the relationship even though they won't last forever simply because they love each other, and some are just wanna spent the time before the other get's to marry some one. they are still arranged marriages out there....

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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patofgold23 true..you will get stuck if you let it be...and the longer you let it drag, you get stuck deeper and deeper until you find it hard to get out. Get out whle you still can. The hurts will heal...we know that. But to compromise your life and time and...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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mommyboo No. I would urge my 'friend' to have some courage and make the right choice for their life. I would still be their friend, but I couldn't be a stand-in, a replacement, for what they really need. That's not only not fair to me, it's not fair to THEM, even if...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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patofgold23 no i wouldn't...no matter how much I love the person.. what's the point of prolonging things if you know you would just end up not being together in the end? it's better to cut the strings while it's early. It is painful I know, I have been there...but as...

29 Aug 09

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jillmalitz @jillmalitz (5131) • United States 28 Aug 09

Why would a woman spend twenty years with a guy as a "cover" because he is gay? Why would any person agree to be the "girlfriend/boyfriend" in name only just to keep the secret of the other's sexuality? As a woman, most of us when...

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jazel_juan everyone has different reasons on why they enter a relationship..for some it might come as a surprise on why they do that.. like how you made an example..but then we never really know. i personally cannot live in a relationship where i know it is going no...

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