RivahGal

@RivahGal (34)

United States • Age 67

Joined myLot 17 years ago

www.drdavestein.com

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Mom-isms

Debs_place @Debs_place (10520) • United States 3 Oct 07

Think of the things that you say as a Mom all of the time Eat your vegetables, go to bed, do your homework!My favorite with my son was 'Hockey is a privilege not a right' What do you remember saying all of the time?See how this...

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what you say as a mom

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RivahGal My mom used to say "Because I said so!" and then I found myself saying it to my son, too. Julie

5 Oct 07

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Picked on by a teacher

SViswan @SViswan (12051) • India 5 Oct 07

Now, my 7 year old son has been having problems with one of his teachers. She is new to the school and was his class teacher at the beginning of the year. She's been pretty rude to him. The earlier sarcastic comments were ignored...

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RivahGal It sounds as if this teacher isn't being professional. Being a bully - using sarcasm, put downs, etc. is a form of bullying known as relational aggression - is a sure way of making kids feel bad about themselves and begin to hate school. This teacher must stop...

5 Oct 07

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girl BULLIES at school? They are REALLY gangsters

goldenbabe @goldenbabe (21) • Philippines 8 Jun 07

have you ever been bullied at school? specifically, girl bullies. They form a group and they bully students--ordinary and and newbies.. They get so harsh! They are REALLY good in backstabbing, harrassing and more..

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RivahGal I started a website about this topic, known as Relational Aggression.

4 Sep 07

Spoiling Children

stacyv81 @stacyv81 (5903) • United States 25 Mar 07

Do you spoil your child? In what ways do you spoil your child? What are some ways that you have seen others spoil their children?

parenting

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RivahGal Here's a link to my blog that describes a case of spoiling that I know of: http://meanmomclub.blogspot.com I know of plenty of spoiled kids and they don't seem very happy. And they seem to like to spread their unhappiness with bullying and stealing, etc....

25 Mar 07

adhd in your children and medicine.

itsdawntoyou @itsdawntoyou (42) • United States 22 Mar 07

What do you think about medicating your child so that they can function in school without getting the phone calls or the notes sent home? Or do you deal with the teachers and can your child get his work done? Also if you give...

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RivahGal Check out http://www.drdavestein.com for a non-medical approach to ADD/ADHD. His program worked for my son. I used his program about 6 or 7 years ago, and just 3 months ago I started managing his website. Just wanted to be upfront about that! We were...

22 Mar 07

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Bad parenting?

sexymom219 @sexymom219 (201) • United States 21 Mar 07

What constitutes a bad parent? Their habits, their morals, or their style of parenting? I have seen a lot on here that tells me everyone has their own perspectives on parenting, techniques, and habits...so what do you think makes...

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RivahGal I think a "bad parent" is probably someone who is abusive. I am sometimes called a "bad parent" when what the person means is a "mean parent." I'll cop to being mean...I say what I mean, and mean what I say. :) Bad parenting can probably be somewhat...

21 Mar 07

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How to stop the whining?

Schnorrawaggle @Schnorrawaggle (688) • Austria 15 Mar 07

My kids like to whine a lot, and ask the same question over and over again.Can we watch TV, I tell them no, they keep asking and whining and asking. I never give in, I don't know why they think I will. How do I stop the...

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RivahGal Unplug the TV and tell them it won't come on. :) As for whining, we had a "whine cellar" when my son was younger. Also known as sitting on the bed in his bedroom. When they keep asking for something tell them "If you keep asking will my answer be 'Yes' or...

16 Mar 07

Raising Kids... can you share anything or everything you have while raising them

roniroxas @roniroxas (10559) • Philippines 16 Mar 07

i have 4 kids and they are all heartache and heart warming, headache and joys, laughter and scolding, ups and downs, blessings and sacrifices. its not easy to be a parent but it is a wonderful extra-ordinary felling. a cool...

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raising kids

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RivahGal It took us 11 years to have our son, an only child, so every day is a blessing to us. Even the teen years (so far). :) Julie

16 Mar 07

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My teenager is stressing me out!

dlkuku @dlkuku (1935) • United States 16 Mar 07

We moved from Pennsylvania to N. Carolina a year ago, it's 500 miles to drive home. My 16 year old daughter wants to go home for spring break, which starts April 5th. I don't have a problem with that, what I have a problem with is...

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RivahGal If money is an issue, then there's probably no way around it. Mortgage has got to come first. She may have to wait until summer. If so, in the meantime she could work to earn at least part of the money...babysitting, lawncare, house cleaning, washing dishes or...

16 Mar 07

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Child Activated Attention Deficit Disorder

DMDstudent @DMDstudent (57) • United States 16 Mar 07

I have two boys who like to wreak havoc around my house. Although I am at school all day, my wife and I am sure many parents will discover that they may have CAADD. This is how you can find out: You decide to do the laundry. As...

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child activated attention deficit disorder

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RivahGal Absolutely! My days were much like that when my son was younger. Reminds me when I said that I was going to bed, but first I'd put away the laundry, refill the food and water bowls for the dog, etc. My hubby would say that he was going to bed, and that's...

16 Mar 07

March Break

Trilbycole @Trilbycole (9) • Canada 10 Mar 07

Can some one suggest activities for a 13yr old boy during March Break?

busy kids

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RivahGal Could he maybe spend some time at friends' homes, if a parent is home? Then maybe you could exchange some time in the summer or on weekends with another parent. Is it possible for him to go to work with you and then maybe go to a nearby library for a while, or...

10 Mar 07

Child with ADHD acts like a normal kid at school, but when he gets home, OMG, he

meholl @meholl (510) • United States 5 Mar 07

is a terror. As soon as he gets around me he starts bouncing off the walls, being loud and rude, and purposely doing things to irritate others. If I leave the house and leave him with his step-dad, he is fine. So why is he only...

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RivahGal There is a good behavioral program in the book Unraveling the ADD/ADHD Fiasco by Dr. David B. Stein. We used this program with our son before I became Dr. Stein's web manager. Check out his website, there's lots of free info:

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Dealing with a child that has ADHD.

Mollyjo @Mollyjo (266) • United States 4 Mar 07

I have a daughter that has ADHD with out the hyperactivity. There is days that I could just pull all of my hair out and then there are days that just go like a dream. Sometimes you can tell her something and she will look you...

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RivahGal Before I became his web manager, the books by Dr. David B. Stein helped us with our son. It is a behavioral approach in his book Unraveling the ADD/ADHD Fiasco. Check out the free info on his website:

6 Mar 07

help my child is out of control he is 16 and nothing seems to work

angel_690 @angel_690 (208) • United States 4 Mar 07

I have a 16 year old who is not afraid to call me names like C___, SL___, B____ and uses very fowl language towards me. I have been doing family counsling, parenting classes, and asking anyone and everyone I know for help. I went...

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RivahGal I have a son who will be 16 in July. If he was as you describe your son, I'd do what the law says has to be done...food, shelter, basic clothing. The kind of language that he uses with you would cause me brain damage...I'd forget how to buy and cook his...

6 Mar 07

STOP labeling every kid w/ a lack of discipline as ADD or ADHD!!!!

nascar_girl_4jr @nascar_girl_4jr (315) • United States 5 Mar 07

If a child is relentlessly misbehaved then they are diagnosed as ADD(Attention Deficit Disorder) and it makes me sick. I know that some kids genuinely have a problem and need the help and I am ALL for that. But we have medicated...

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RivahGal It reminds me of Helen Keller...wonder what she'd be diagnosed with today? Her teacehr worked a miracle with her, in a case that is thought to be the first instance of behavioral therapy. If such miracles can be worked with a child who was deaf, mute, and...

6 Mar 07

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Get Medical Testing First

beebop57 @beebop57 (7) • United States 25 Jan 07

I can't believe that doctors are just handing out prescriptions like candy, without any medical test done first. There could be so many reasons a child or even an adult is hyper and can't concentrate. Food allergies is one of...

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RivahGal I hope since the new FDA warnings came out a few weeks ago that people will questions, and research carefully, before putting their children on meds. We used a non medication behavioral approach with our son about 6 years ago. Dr. David B. Stein's book...

5 Mar 07

how do you handle a kid with ADHD?

maribel1218 @maribel1218 (3085) • Philippines 25 Jan 07

I just want to be aware of how to deal with a child with ADHD? please help....

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RivahGal There are many ways to deal with children, ADD/ADHD or not. It depends on the child and the family. We chose a non medication behavioral approach to working with our son because we were alarmed by the side effects of the medications. We used the Caregivers'...

5 Mar 07