bast09

@bast09 (20)

Canada • Age 81

Joined myLot 17 years ago

Live long, live strong!

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JUDGMENTS--What is Your View of Them--How Have They Helped/Harmed You?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 25 Jun 07

Judgment is a tricky thing to pin down because people have many opinions about it and the reason I wanted it open for discussion. One thing I do know for sure is that people who judge others view things with a narrow lens. They...

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bast09 If you use judgments to define someone I think that is wrong. If your judgements are of a personal nature and you do not act on them, then I think that is healthy. Its when we use judgements to control or hurt others I believe it is bad. We all need to use a...

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Can we talk abour favorite 'places' and 'spaces?'

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Jan 08

While I was responding to the discussion on screen savers some of you commented that you had images of your favorite places. That got me to wondering what other favorite 'places' and 'spaces' you might want to discuss. The...

british columbia

favorite spaces and placesnear or far

office space

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bast09 I too love the southwest. I am a wide open spaces person as well I have a great affinitty with the mountains as well. Give mw both as there are many in Montana to Utah and I am a happy camper.

22 Feb 08

Do you..do you not have a cell phone... what kind and why or why not?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 4 Jan 08

In a conversation with a close friend of mine she told me that while attending a family get together at Christmas that everyone there spent most of the evening showing of their new cell phones. They were comparing features...the...

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bast09 No I do not have a cell phone. I have never had one nor do I want or need one. I resent how intrusive they are and what a lack of awareness many cell phone users have. They ring at the most inappropriate times and people yak their faces off in washrooms, and...

5 Jan 08

This is the season for family and friends...can we talk about mothers?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Dec 07

This holiday season is the third one that my mother will not be sharing it with us because she passed away in April of 2004. When I mentioned it to a friend who hasalso lost both his parents he said.."Not having your Mom around...

mothers their roles

who they are and what they do

women

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bast09 The photo of you and your mother is quite sweet. I have a healthier relationship with my mother than I do with my father. My only problem is that I concern myself over her staying with him because he is a closet drunk and very controlling and self-absorbed....

5 Jan 08

Happy New Year...Ideas for an enjoyable life

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 27 Dec 07

My birthday is new year's eve and David and I are going to our old home town to spend it with friends. I won't be around to wish all of you in Mylot land a happy new year so I am doing it today instead. I will comment when I come...

happy new year and ideas for happy living

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bast09 I agree with what Annie said. These are beautiful ideas and it is a great way to start the new year. Positve, uplifting thoughts are something we can all use and I am glad you shared them with the rest of us.

5 Jan 08

Ideas to ponder and comment on

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 18 Dec 07

A friend of mine sent these 'ponderisms' and I thought you might enjoy them as much as I did. In our everyday way of communicating we use a lot of them and never stop to ponder on them. As a cat lover I have always wondered where...

alphabet song

common expressions and where they came from to pon

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bast09 Poderisms eh that is a term I have never heard before. Anyway I liked reading them and have collected things like this before. You added quite a few more to my collectible list and I appeciate it. Thank you. If you ever find anymore I would like to have them.

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Families...can we talk about fathers now?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Dec 07

After posting a discussion on mothers it felt only right to open the floor to discuss father's and their role within any family dynamic. My mother always said that mothers are the first women little boys know and fathers have the...

fatherss manhood

interactions and impacts

life coaches

roles they play

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bast09 Sorry to hear about the rough time you had with your father. I respect your final conclusions about what you learned about yourself and your life from it all. I am not at that point. I also have had a lot of abuse from my father and I have not been able to...

5 Jan 08

The holiday season can be stressful...what do you do to manage stresses?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 6 Dec 07

We went shopping for a few Christmas items and as I observed people rushing around in a mad dash while dragging their screaming children by the arm I couldn't help but pick up on 'holiday stress vibes.' In North America it seems...

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bast09 I;d like to say drinking... but it being the holidays I will go for quiet time instead. If you allow yourself quiet time an hour a day it does amazing things to keep the stress level down...

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Care to share your favorite 'Aha!' Moments?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 28 Nov 07

As Christmas draws near for David and I it will be the third one without my Mom. She was central to our family celebrations and kept them up even after my father died in 1998. During this time of year I find myself thinking about...

sharing aha momentsmine and yours

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bast09 I never thought about Aha moments. Really never thought of them till you post. I guess I have had AHA momnents and will try to be more aware of them. Your question beeing the first....

17 Dec 07

Friends.. What I like about mylot :)

joey_matthews @joey_matthews (8354) 16 Jun 07

One of the things I like about mylot is how you can make friends with people of any age. (yet still get along) If someone asked me what I thought was best about "mylot" I wouldn't say the fact they pay. I would say it's a great...

friends

friends or money

friendship

what i like about mylot

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bast09 Hi Joey_Matthews Just became a mylot member yesterday and I am impressed with how comprehensive this site is and what interesting discussions are started. I also like the way people talk about things in 'respectuful dialogue.' In regard to the money or...

17 Jun 07

I think you type about religion because it gets the best responses

tredale @tredale (1309) • Australia 1 Jun 07

I think you guys type about religion because it gets the best responses. Is this true for you?

responses

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bast09 Hi tredale (409) I am a new myLot member and decided to touch in and answer your question from my perspective. Religion does seem to be a hot button for a lot of people. For me I am always interested in people's religious viewpoints becuase it reveals how...

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Do you have any regrets in life?

hockeygal4ever @hockeygal4ever (10021) • United States 13 Jun 07

A discussion that I answered from Wizard made me think of this question. I personally have one large regret and that was that I didn't take a young man into my home to become a part of our family when he needed it. He ended up...

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bast09 Hello Hockeygal4ever, I was introduced to this site by my gal-pal earlier today and have been checking things out. Your comments about regrets in life is very moving. I cannot help but wonder if you would be judging your decision with as much regret if you...

16 Jun 07

Regrets

coffeeshot @coffeeshot (3783) • Australia 16 Jun 07

Whenever people are asked what their regrets are in life, quite often they'll say "I don't have any regrets" or "I think it's bad to regret things you've done". I agree with that on some levels, but I also think that as much as we...

life

regrets

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bast09 I think your musings on regrets are something we all do at times. However, I no longer regret things I have done because it serves no purpose. As someone once said "Even God can't change the past." My girl friend said something on regrets just the other day...

16 Jun 07

Do you also think that creationism is a treat to democracy

onedollar @onedollar (781) • Belgium 16 Jun 07

I read an article today that the European Commission has written a report that democracy is in danger. The fundamentalists want to replace democracy by theocracy and as such are not much different for extremist islamic groups...

creationism

democracy

theocracy

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bast09 I agree with you. Any form of extremism will eventually create chaos...and affect the right of free choice. Polarized thinking and the rightness of conviction is how most wars and diabolical behavior begins. What troubles me is how most religions say they are...

16 Jun 07

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I got 2 new male ginger kitties yesterday!

spikey_monkey @spikey_monkey (759) 16 Jun 07

I have a few questions I hope people can help me with. I put out a litter tray, food bowl etc but they decided top use the corner of the room to do their business instead. Does anyone know the best way to get them to use the...

litter trays

trays

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bast09 We have 5 cats and when we brought them home as kitties we made sure they knew where the box is. Try placing them in it. Each time they use the corner of the room...gently lift them by the scruff of the neck (the way mommy cat carries her kittens)and...

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how to become a good teacher.....????

rupak261 @rupak261 (12) • India 16 Jun 07

tell me the ways by which one can really do good in the field of teching......!!!!!!!!!

good

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bast09 Listen, listen, listen...attentively of course! In my experience even troubled kids respond well to encouragement and being given meaningful tasks that help them feel capable, needed, wanted and 'believed in.' Kids who are included in activities and encouraged...

16 Jun 07