Jane_Harper

@Jane_Harper (61)

Age 57

Joined myLot 18 years ago

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thinking that people don't like me is very bad for my self-esteem.

hamking @hamking (24) • Philippines 29 Jul 07

hi guys, thesedays i am thinking that maybe something is wrong with me, because i tend to think that people don't like me when things don't happen as i expected. How can you stop from thinking this thought? I'll illustrate to you...

people

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Jane_Harper If you say something often enough, you will eventually believe it. If you tell yourself negative thoughts constantly, your life is going to reflect exactly what you think about the most. I'm not dismissing your misery as paranoia, but your circumstances are...

29 Jul 07

Where is your confidence?

faithdestiny @faithdestiny (80) • China 29 Jul 07

To find out,ask yourself which item you'd hand on your bedroom wall.Simple choices sometimes reflect important traits. A.a drawing B.a photo C.a calendar D.a clock

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Jane_Harper I'd hang a drawing on my bedroom wall. It would be inspiring and motivating. Preferably, it would be a picture of the ocean. Calming and relaxing, a drawing would hold my attention and allow me to meditate or day dream. What does this say about me?

29 Jul 07

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what if

bambi_doe @bambi_doe (566) • United States 29 Jul 07

you could change one thing about you what would it be? I would change my outlook on life. I seem to take life with too much pressure and would like to change it to a life that is simple easy going. hugs

life is like a box of chocolates

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Jane_Harper I would change my ability to deal with stress. I'm not dealing with it too well at the moment, which is a bit ridiculous really. Why is it ridiculous? I've made the necessary changes to my life before. Had positive results, then let it all slip, back to my...

29 Jul 07

What is the best thing life has given you so far?

vinzen @vinzen (1020) • India 28 Jul 07

Hi, i just wanted to know what is the best thing that life has offered you till date. Is it your family, parents, kids, pets, car, promotion, values, opportunities etc.

family

freinds etc

what life has offered you

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Jane_Harper My husband and 4 wonderful daughters are my favourite blessings. Without them, I would not have a life. Everything that I could ever possibly want, I can get from my family unit. Love, support, comfort, motivation, inspiration, the list is endless. They...

29 Jul 07

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violence

suzzs02 @suzzs02 (631) • United States 24 Jul 07

How should we punish children who commit crimes....

violence

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Jane_Harper Depends on the crime and who's doing the punishing.

25 Jul 07

battery

storyteller66 @storyteller66 (67) • United States 25 Jul 07

battered women why do they stay? can it change?

wife

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Jane_Harper They stay because they are too scared to leave. There are many deep psychological issues, but fear is usually at the base of the problem somewhere. Yes it can change, but the woman HAS to take action, or she might end up dead. Not enough is being done to...

25 Jul 07

new age

storyteller66 @storyteller66 (67) • United States 25 Jul 07

Whst would you do if you found out that your daughter's boyfriend has been beating on her.

mother

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Jane_Harper Get a friend of mine to give him a taste of his own medicine. He wouldn't touch my daughter again.

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when death feels like the ultimate freedom...

cafemocha @cafemocha (14) • Philippines 24 Jul 07

What do you do when life comes so hard it almost feels like you are trapped in a burning building and dying seems to be that door beneath the flashing red sign that says "exit"? The door that promises freedom from the pain and...

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Jane_Harper You say that you've been working through your depression for months now, I know you don't want to hear this, but it can go on for years. You also take medication to 'lift your spirits'. While this will probably help to some degree, it isn't the entire...

25 Jul 07

Are you in Gods plan?

marshall_blake2000 @marshall_blake2000 (304) • United States 24 Jul 07

Taking a look at the big pidture do you see your self a big part of Gods plan? Or do you see your life just going by making on differents to any one. I see myself as a big part in Gods plan. However I have no idea what part of...

plan christmas god

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Jane_Harper I'm sure that the universe is unfolding as it should be. I feel as if I'm part of Gods big plan, even though I'm not sure what that plan is, I'm sure God knows what's going on.

25 Jul 07

Do you pay your bills on line or do you still write checks?

terri0824 @terri0824 (4991) • United States 9 Jul 07

It took me a long time to get away from writing checks out to pay my bills. I started using my bank to pay all my bills on line at the first of the year. It is so easy to do. Takes less time. Also with the price of stamps that...

pay bills on line

write checks

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Jane_Harper All online. I only write a cheque when I have no other option. I started with online banking a few years ago and now I don't know how I used to manage without it. It makes my life a lot easier, although I do have some concerns about security.

25 Jul 07

Tooth Fairy and Money

onecutehoneybear @onecutehoneybear (938) • United States 25 Jul 07

How much did you get for the first tooth that you lost? Was is a dime, quarter or dollar? My hubby is planning on giving my daughter a twenty dollar bill tonight from the tooth fairy (since she's a day late cause daddy didn't get...

first tooth

money

tooth fairy

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Jane_Harper $20 is way to much, even though the first tooth is special. My four daughters where given a £1 coin for their first visit from the tooth fairy, after that it was 50p a tooth. With so many teeth, it can become very expensive and is unnecessary. Even the...

25 Jul 07

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Why do we wear clothing?

fightingistheonlyway @fightingistheonlyway (2658) • Canada 25 Jul 07

What is the history of clothing? What is the point of clothing? would you rather live in a world where it is natural to be naked?

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Jane_Harper Clothing is a part of our evolutionary process as humans. It can bring great happiness and joy by making us feel good because we look good. Clothing can also be negative, bullying for instance, just because you're not wearing the 'right' clothing. When...

25 Jul 07

What do you think of it?

naem86 @naem86 (123) • Malaysia 25 Jul 07

Since most relationships do not work out...we all fall in love and then when things do not work out we get hurt alot... is it better to not go this road....is it not better to have arranged marriage...What do you think plz...

life

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Jane_Harper You seem to have a very negative attitude towards relationships. Not all relationships are destined for marriage. Being hurt from a break up teaches us valuable lessons about love and how to deal with future relationships. Who says most relationships don't...

25 Jul 07

How often do you dream?

marciascott @marciascott (25529) • United States 20 Jul 07

Does women dream more often than Men? all I know is that I dream quite often, last night I dreamt that I was shopping, I like to have good dreams, then I was talking to my Granddaughter, I picked her up, yesterday, and we were...

dreams

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Jane_Harper Everybody dreams, every night. Dreams happen when you are in REM sleep. As you fall asleep and continue to sleep, your brainwaves go through different frequencies. It's when you go into REM sleep that dreams occur. You dream because unlike your conscious...

21 Jul 07

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How do you overcome your depressed feeling?

navtech @navtech (1773) • India 19 Jul 07

People get depressed for various reasons. In case you get depressed for certain reasons, how you do over come it. In case I get depressed for any reasons, I will go to riverside and sit for long time and slowly I would feel better...

getting over depression

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Jane_Harper I get over my depressed feelings by solving the problems that cause them in the first place. I've been that person who is so depressed that I couldn't even get out of bed. My thoughts where dark and deep, my hatred for myself great. That was several...

20 Jul 07

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poor life,never should appear

queen666 @queen666 (54) • China 20 Jul 07

can you imagine live without morden technology?for example,mobile phone ,telephong,computer,air conditioner...what will come to you if you were in such a condition?i hope you can join me in this discussion.thanks

imagine live join

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Jane_Harper Living in the technology/information age is extremely exciting for me. The speed at which technology is expanding is increasing with each new discovery. Imagine what Galileo, Eienstien and other great scientists from the past would make of todays...

20 Jul 07

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First Time MOM

fenela02 @fenela02 (30) • Philippines 20 Jul 07

I have a daughter who is turning 2 this year. Is it too early to teach her ABC and 123? Im really having a hard time catching her attention. It was never easy. CAn someone help how to catch babies attention? And how to teach her...

first

mom

time

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Jane_Harper It's never too early to teach a child ABC's 123's ect. The best way to do this and to catch and maintain their attention is to make learning fun. Make it into a game, never ever go down the dry root of learning, where it's boring and un-interesting. You can...

20 Jul 07

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