shenfei

@shenfei (187)

China • Age 40

Joined myLot 17 years ago

If there is something you have to do, you do it early.

Responses (89)

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do you mind if your grilfriend or boyfriend is not a virgin

peixiangshu @peixiangshu (120) • China 24 Dec 09

I read this story in a book..and i want to share with mylotters and i want your answers. one couple have been in love for about 7years and one day the boy asked the girl:do you think there are still many virgins in this society?...

love virgin

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shenfei I kind of have this feeling that you are the girl mentioned in that story and it is the circumstance you are in. Well, personally speaking, yes her being not a virgin has a little negative effect on my feeling, but it is so gonna be got over. I say you(if you...

24 Dec 09

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Do you still play children games?

hisxshorty @hisxshorty (124) • United States 23 Dec 09

Even if you've already outgrown some things, but do you still find yourself playing the most childish games? I'm not even going to lie, I am constantly on Neopets and all my friends stopped playing that 10 years ago lol.

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shenfei I think it is totally OK that you still like playing childish game, plus Neopets is not childish, it is designed for college students originally, and now for all ages. I like playing some video games which my friends have found childish and out of date,...

23 Dec 09

Family vs True Love

hisxshorty @hisxshorty (124) • United States 23 Dec 09

Let's say that you've found the perfect soulmate but he/she is the type of person your family would never approve of. So here's the million dollar question that everyone asks, would you listen to your head and make your family...

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shenfei According to your opinion I don't think I belong to the type of guy you want. I don't know how old you were when you moved to America. If you were so young then, I can partly understand your choice coz you didn't get the chance to know a real good Chinese man....

23 Dec 09

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when do you say enough is enough?

mariechrislynong @mariechrislynong (25) • Philippines 9 Aug 09

"When you love someone, when do you say enough is enough?" The first time i heard this question is when I was in high school in the movie of Julia Roberts and Bad Pritt which is titled The Mexican. I was moved by the answer of the...

lies

love

pain

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shenfei I appreciate one sentence in your post. That is "You will help that person fix all that flaws to make that person better or if not, you will learn to accept it and embrace it". Here in my relationship, yes she is helping me fix all my flaws to make me better,...

10 Aug 09

what is your talent

homeshoppers @homeshoppers (6166) • Philippines 7 Aug 09

hmmm, i dont know whats my talent are coz even if i want to sing, my voice is not that good... even if i want to dance, i cant follow the step... i dont know how to cook, i dont play any sports, though i know swimming... hmmm what...

life

talent

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shenfei Well, talent is too strong a word for me. I like doing some stuff, especially sports and video games, but I can't say I'm even good at them because I have seen so many videos of performances on internet done by really good players. They are like magic and...

7 Aug 09

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My mother-in-law is dictating our life!!

yamiboo @yamiboo (466) • Philippines 18 Jan 07

Have seen rants about their mothers-in-law here. I have my own stories to share too. My mother-in-law is dictating how we should live our lives. she wants to be the one to decide things for us. After my hubby and I got married,...

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shenfei What is more important, a luxurious house or a happy mood? I know they are both important, but in your current position, I think you have to choose the latter. I understand you have something you need being held in your mother-in-law's hand, but compared to...

6 Aug 09

What movies starred by Will Smith impressed you?

youless @youless (112496) • Guangzhou, China 7 Aug 08

A few weeks ago I watched The Pursuit Of Happiness and I am impressed. It's a touching movie and I think it's based on the real story. Besides it, I like Will Smith's Men in Black.

movies

will smith

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shenfei Independance Day of course. People from all over the world united together to protect our freedom, our species. There is no difference between countries or races. We are human beings. We are the same,always and forever.

10 Aug 08

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Squirrels REALLY Scare me a lot....

ZephyrSun @ZephyrSun (7381) • United States 15 Jun 08

Squirrels scare so bad that I feel like I am going to have a panic attack when one stops in front of me. My friends that know this about me make fun of me because of my fear. I have really tried to get over this strange fear of...

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shenfei It is just a suggestion and I am not sure if it will work. Maybe if you encourage yourself enough to have one squirrel as a pet, you have the opportunity to see it more, observe it more, even touch it and hold it a little bit, you will find it not that...

16 Jun 08

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Euro 2008

blue4ever @blue4ever (89) • India 16 May 08

Hey buddies (those who love football :P), club seasons are almost over and its a time when countries will be clashing each other in one of the most exciting european competition. So which team will you be supporting and...

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shenfei I used to support England. But since it dosen't even enter, I think this time I will just watch neutrally. Any team that plays well be my preference. If there is one team I kind of hope it wins, it will be Germany. It impressed me a lot by its performance in...

16 May 08

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do you have a long distance relationship?

kaezy_kulet @kaezy_kulet (2465) • Philippines 14 May 08

Did you guys have experienced a long distance affair? How was it? Did it last? I need some advices on how to keep this kind of relationship. My boyfriend and i are very much far from each other. I dont get to see him whenever i...

away

long distance

love

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shenfei I am having one right now. While I am studying in a northern city of China, she is doing hers in south. We cann't see each other everyday, not even in holidays. And yes the feelings are not so good. I call her every night, chat through internet. I bought a...

15 May 08

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Earthquake in China

desertdarlene @desertdarlene (8910) • United States 12 May 08

I would like to say that I hope all my friends from China here on Mylot are doing OK with regards to the Earthquake that has recently happened. I am hearing conflicting reports on the number of fatalities. One site says 10,000...

china

earthquake

people

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shenfei Thank you for caring what happened in China. The latest number will be almost 10000 and a lot remain missing. Your post and attention are really warm and sweet to us. Knowing there are so many people out there care about China makes me moved. Thank you again.

13 May 08

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should i worry when my bf's love is really going to China?

vcha_23 @vcha_23 (110) • Philippines 13 May 08

i know this sounds like crazy but my bf is torn between me and his childhood dream of visiting to China coz he was fascinated by their culture. i told him that we could go together later when we'll be established independents. and...

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shenfei As a chinese I am glad that your boyfriend likes China and wants to come here. But I also want you two to be together and not bothered by this issue. I think there must be something you two can do to make your relationship work and last. If you really love...

13 May 08

I'm Hungry

Fishmomma @Fishmomma (11377) • United States 8 May 08

What food do you eat when you think your starving? Today all the food topics are making me hungry. One of my friends asked about pizza and it made me see round little shapes with lots of pineapple. Do you eat the first thing you...

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shenfei I think when I am starving enough I will find all food delicious. I will definitely grab everything available. Even those I don't like generally can't slow me down. I remember there were times I just had apples or even water to stop feeling hungry. There is...

9 May 08

Do You Really Know All The Words of Your National Anthem?

tjades @tjades (3591) • Jamaica 8 May 08

Recently at a national football match a well loved young artiste failed to deliver on the rendition of the national anthem. I guess he took the task a bit too slight and did not do adquate rehearsals. Boy were the spectors...

country

national anthem

question and answers

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shenfei I can't be more confident to tell you that I am able to sit and write my national anthem from memory without making a tiny mistake. Actually I can do that since I was very young, around 7 I think. Before I learned reading and writing I had been taught to sing...

9 May 08

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Bad things make you stronger...

Marie2473 @Marie2473 (8512) • Sweden 7 May 08

That is a saying that I have always belived and put faith in. I belive that when you go through tough times and get out of them you come out a stronger person - atleast I do. Last late summer I thought more or less that life was...

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shenfei I don't know if I really believe in it, but I do use it as a consolation when things go bad. So I think on this level I believe in it or at least hope to. In my memory, I can recall some cases like you was through, maybe not as bad as yours. And it seemed I...

7 May 08

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Are men scared of ''the talk''?

RavenFireMaiden @RavenFireMaiden (36) • Canada 5 May 08

I have been seeing my boyfriend for over a year, and we havent yet spoken about any kind of future plans. I want to bring it up to him but im sorta nervous. i havent had many long lasting relationships so it never got to the point...

relationships

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shenfei Well, I think it depends. I know I'm a little young discussing on this topic, I just want to express my opinion. If he is also serious, he won't be. Otherwise he will. Maybe over a year is not a long time, but it is long enough to know his own feelings. Even...

6 May 08

Arsenal - another disappointing season

cbrewer1991 @cbrewer1991 (48) 30 Apr 08

I feel that my football team Arsenal have underachieved this season, and i'm disappointed that they are going to have another season without winning a trophy. Any other arsenal fans disappointed and frustrated

arsenal

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shenfei I don't think somenone is qualified to call himself a fan of a particular team when it lost. There is never a forever winner. I think we support a team not because it wins, but because we like it. For those who claim themselves as fans but go away when things...

6 May 08