Bengwayan

@Bengwayan (34)

Age 69

Joined myLot 13 years ago

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Is flirting cheating?

Flirtykumquat @Flirtykumquat (927) • United States 1 Mar 11

Well, everyone has their own opinions about what cheating is and I am wondering do you consider flirting cheating? I do believe at the end of the day if a person wants to cheat they will but I do also believe there is such a thing...

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Bengwayan The anatomy of flirting. Before I answered this I sat down with 55 coeds and 20 male students and asked them your question. The synopsis from all their answers of the girls: flirting is okay as long as it is not taken seriously.If taken seriously, it...

3 Mar 11

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What should I do?

sql_cell @sql_cell (1427) • Indonesia 27 Feb 11

I was disappointed with the people around me. They never understood me. They always say that I am selfish, and they always put me in the wrong position. I just want them to understand my desire. What should I do? I feel my...

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Bengwayan Your unique character is what makes you stand apart from others. Do you have to follow, even if you disagree? By all means no.You have your uniqueness of mind, for without our uniqueness, we have neither precision nor nobility nor sweetness of expression.It is...

28 Feb 11

nice warm feeling

TheRealDawn @dawnald (85146) • Shingle Springs, California 25 Feb 11

"Doesn't it give you a nice, warm feeling to know you have somebody who loves you?" That, my friends, is the Richard-ism of the week. If you haven't been following my story, Richard is my soon-to-be ex-husband. We are still...

richardisms

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Bengwayan The best for both of you is a cooling off period.In the course of a relationship, strands will fray from the ropes and grate on the remaining fibers until the whole rope snaps. The cooling off will determine whether the relationship can be salvaged. If it...

26 Feb 11

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A Wolf is always a Wolf!!!

eurekafemme @eurekafemme (5876) • Philippines 23 Feb 11

Sigh, I just received an email that says "He will never ever change. A wolf is always a wolf even if he hides himself under a sheep's skin." I believe that the sender was referring to my husband. Even if...

husband

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Bengwayan Friend, I wish I could really answer you. But I can answer you this way. I have a married woman friend with children who didn't mind missing the finer things in life. If she did, she never told her husband. All she wanted so important in her life was to be a...

26 Feb 11

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She needs closure?

bingskee @bingskee (5234) • Philippines 24 Feb 11

I heard somebody on the radio seeking advice on what to do with her current situation. She said that she has a boyfriend but lately he does not talk to her. She found out from the bf's friends that he had already brought home...

relationship

relationships

young love

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Bengwayan To seek a closure is to readily confront an issue without cringing and hoping that at the back of your mind, expectations would be what you wish for; for it will not.You must,as the person wounded,rise above the occasion and with dignity ask your boyfriend in...

26 Feb 11

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question

kristinad @kristinad (185) • United States 18 Feb 11

i got engaged a few months ago and we are getting married in november. so we have been looking at flowers, bands and ect. but now i am having doubts on getting married i have been with him for 7 yrs now and we have an amazing son...

question

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Bengwayan I will not question your doubts; I zero on your child. As you say and I quote"...we have an amazing son together..."unquote. For your husband, child and you, give marriage a chance. And of course, you get the jitters of marriage. Who wouldn't? Doubts on...

19 Feb 11

what won't you do for love?

birdie816 @birdie816 (1276) • United States 16 Feb 11

my husband is always telling me about how he will do anything for me and i used to wonder if there was anything he wouldn't do. but recently he has proven that there are no limits to this (or at least virually no limits). i know...

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Bengwayan My limitations would be what I fail to do in what I do not expressly say. Being short of political tongue, marvel, I, with envy when I hear hear one promise the wide spectrum to a doubting wife. I can't. The reason why when I promise myself to buy a rose for a...

17 Feb 11

Child of separated or divorced parents.

DoctorDidi @DoctorDidi (7018) • India 15 Feb 11

Do you think a child whose parents are separated or divorced as most unfortunate in having both the parents alive but enjoying love and company of one only and deprived from love and company of the other?

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Bengwayan I truly believe children born are innocent of their parents' misunderstandings and they should not bear the brunt of these. If couples cannot live together anymore, the least each can do is that if they can't hold their children in their arms,please hold them...

16 Feb 11

Just Celebrated 12 Wonderful Yrs. of Marriage

KrauseHome @KrauseHome (36447) • United States 14 Feb 11

I am not sure if anyone really noticed or not, but I was not on myLot most of yesterday. Yes, it was Sunday and so I had Church that I faithfully attend every Sunday morning, but it was also my Wedding anniversary. We just...

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Bengwayan Belated wedding anniversary.And the best to both of you, come storm or high water. I have a friend who, whenever circumstances ebb at its lowest in his home with his wife, I always heard him sing and it goes this way,"Lord, I hope this day is good/ I'm feeling...

15 Feb 11

SIngle and enjoying it

kaycharmedMD @kaycharmedMD (381) • Philippines 13 Feb 11

Im not just saying this to defend my status. Or to avoid looking like a loser. My last relationship has been around 3 years ago. And right now, Im a bit confused with my ex-bf's behavior and treatment towards me, as well as...

single hood

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Bengwayan Singleness translates to happiness when you discover trust you gave was violated. Trust is something precious taken for granted. When the trust is gone, relationship unravels, travails begin, marriages explode.Hope,that every dawn comes, your day is good. And...

14 Feb 11

Get me to the Drive Thru on time

p1kef1sh @p1kef1sh (45681) 12 Feb 11

An English couple married today and held their reception in the local branch of KFC! If that's what turns them on then why not. Where did you have your wedding reception/breakfast? Would you have considered a fast food restaurant...

fast wedding

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Bengwayan When I got married,I looked at my wife as the spring that became the rose; she gave to me what life should, my favorite song, my sunshine on the ocean. So before we took our vows, I asked her where she would like the reception held. She simply said, "at your...

13 Feb 11

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Is it selfishness to feel jealous with your husbands extending his work at home?

Lhenni @Lhenni (1242) • Philippines 8 Feb 11

My husband is an engineer by profession and manages around 30 people in his team. He's always extending his work at home. He's been a good provider though... and me as a full-time housewife now and a mother of 3, been a good...

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Bengwayan No other task is probably so complicated and challenging as that of raising a family and loving them while dividing time from rat work. Mind you, you are doing your best; your husband is doing his best. As both face formidable assignments in keeping the...

9 Feb 11

The best thing to give to someone who has all they need is your time

Heather Echola @GardenGerty (160949) • United States 7 Feb 11

Several of us have had an ongoing discussions about what to give to our elderly parents as gifts, and a friend of mine has said, for a long time now that the best thing to give is your time. I agree. Examples he gave were playing...

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Bengwayan Going to your rental, cook your food, wash the dishes, sitting down to eat and realize the food you cooked doesn't taste good. You mumble to yourself, " a helluva cook am I." Grab your jacket and visit home where you smell the good times and your parents...

8 Feb 11

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What is your breaking point?

lealuvy2j @lealuvy2j (1986) • Philippines 6 Feb 11

I was listening to a song by Kerri Hilson and it is about someone's breaking point. In case you are wondering about what she meant about that, it means it is that point in your relationship that you will give up the relationship...

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Bengwayan Friend, the breaking point is when your broken heart cannot mend anymore, when you say to yourself when dawn comes,I hope this day is good; but it isn't. When the day comes that in your relationship, your partner cannot even take your hand for awhile and say...

7 Feb 11

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first and last boyfriend

attente @attente (986) • Philippines 3 Feb 11

hey. it's been a while since my last post.. i got busy with my studies and of course i got busy producing money on my own.. HAHHAH. kidding. well, that was kinda true though, got busy with my job. now, i feel like posting again...

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Bengwayan I know one.This girl graduated high school with her boyfriend. In college, they separated. For more than 20 years, they never saw each other. The girl had boyfriends but never married. She worked as a nurse. Her boyfriend married, but they separated. The...

4 Feb 11

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Mobile Secrecy Of Husband and Wife Necessary?

visavis @visavis (5934) • Philippines 2 Feb 11

Married troubles are having various ways of sources, like ego or pride of both husband and wife, jealousy, no forgive and forget method and many many more. How about secrecy of husband and wife to...

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Bengwayan Secrecy between a husband and a wife ultimately leads to unraveling of relationship.When two gets married, it is a chance to appreciate life, and share it while both live. Couples have responsibility to be as transparent to each, although many people fail to...

3 Feb 11

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Barack Obama and his speeches

trader22 @trader22 (232) • Jamaica 25 Jan 11

Has anyone every notice that Barack Obama speeches are never boring. He is a very charismatic person.

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Bengwayan Sorry bro., just came from a camping trip to clear cobwebs of my mind. Opened my computer and lo, i have lot to answer from you. Just raced to read Obama's speech. I will answer your queries later, this latest first. Yes, Obama, I personally think is...

26 Jan 11

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