remo999

@remo999 (49)

Canada • Age 66

Joined myLot 18 years ago

LIFE IS TO BE SAVORED, NOT LIVED

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how old would you be if you didn't know old you are?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 29 Jun 07

I hear a lot of people my age and older saying things like, "I am too old to be doing this or that." Other times they say they are too old to be wearing something they really like...because they think they are too old. Then there...

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remo999 I would be as young or old as I feel. In general terms I feel young as I did years ago. So if I lost track of where I am on the old clock. I would say I am eternally young to the day I kick off. Too much is made about age, I think it is more to do with actions...

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JUDGMENTS--What is Your View of Them--How Have They Helped/Harmed You?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 25 Jun 07

Judgment is a tricky thing to pin down because people have many opinions about it and the reason I wanted it open for discussion. One thing I do know for sure is that people who judge others view things with a narrow lens. They...

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remo999 Judgements from others are always a difficult thing. Mostly because a lot of people do not take the time to learn about what they are judging. When judgements are made this way it usually becomed a hurtful process. Only through dialogue and understanding can...

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Adding music on Mylot site, How? What about copyright infringement?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 7 Mar 08

Greetings to all.. I have been away the past few days and I appreciate hearing from friends who miss chatting...thanks for letting me know that. I miss all of you too! Anyway, hope to be catching up to previous...

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remo999 It is copyright infrigment if the person does not have the written rights to play the music in a pyblic venue. Many people loose sight of the fact that a person "created something that is theirs" When they copyright anyhting they are saying it is mine and I...

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Can we talk abour favorite 'places' and 'spaces?'

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Jan 08

While I was responding to the discussion on screen savers some of you commented that you had images of your favorite places. That got me to wondering what other favorite 'places' and 'spaces' you might want to discuss. The...

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favorite spaces and placesnear or far

office space

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remo999 I Like home. Simply being at home. With all the crime, noise and anoying people out there it is nice to have a refuge to settle back in. My other special place is anywhere I can snuggle with my sweetie.

22 Feb 08

What would you like to know about myLot?

Crash @Crash (312) • United States 10 Feb 08

The 48 hour period is over, and responses are no longer being accepted! New responses will not be answered, so please read the multiple answers I've already given here. Thanks!I think it's time we have a revealing...

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remo999 Hello Crash having this question and answer segment is good addition to Mylot. Hope it works out well. I am glad Raijin posed this question on ratings and others underscored a problem that does exist here. After reading the various responses I have never been...

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Why are we harder on ourselves...than we are on others?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 1 Feb 08

This is a topic that comes up a lot in our life coaching and seminars. People ask questions like these. Did somebody say something once that stuck in our brains and won't go away? Did we make some huge mistake..or 'fail' at...

learning to level the playing field

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remo999 I think the you tend to be more hard on yourself if you do a lot of self - work so to speak. People whos mindset are in a different place tend to ve harder on others. Sometimes through inadequacies and sometimes self confidence.

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Is it possible to have more than one 'Best Friend"

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 19 Jun 07

As you can tell from my choice of topics the subject of friendship is on my mind. I wondered if any of you have wrestled with the label of 'best friend?' I never been able to wrap my head around that one and here are the reasons...

best friends

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remo999 I do not see any problem having more than one best friend. I think you run into trouble if you do not respect what they expect being a best friend is. If you can honour your and their needs I think you can have numurous best friend,

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Shutter bugs/ photographers...what do you do with your photos?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 17 Jan 08

As some of you already know David and I had to put our beloved dog Tasha down on Tuesday of this week. Thank you to all who responded offering your condolences and sharing your touching stories with me. I have been feeling...

memorabilia

photos and what we do with them

scrap booking

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remo999 Sorry! Meant to respond to you not Aussie. Do not want to duplicate but in a nutshell I much prefer to do my pictures digitally as well as no degrading of quality if I want to develop them then it is also cheaper than regular film.

19 Jan 08

Do you..do you not have a cell phone... what kind and why or why not?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 4 Jan 08

In a conversation with a close friend of mine she told me that while attending a family get together at Christmas that everyone there spent most of the evening showing of their new cell phones. They were comparing features...the...

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remo999 Yes I have a cell phone on a two year contract. I can live with or without them but do like the convenience they provide.

5 Jan 08

Families...can we talk about fathers now?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Dec 07

After posting a discussion on mothers it felt only right to open the floor to discuss father's and their role within any family dynamic. My mother always said that mothers are the first women little boys know and fathers have the...

fatherss manhood

interactions and impacts

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roles they play

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remo999 I have pretty much the same reaction to this discussion as the one you posted on mothers. I cannot comment on fatherhood or my relationship with mine because he abandoned our family when I was too young to remember. My wife often asks me about how I feel about...

5 Jan 08

Ideas to ponder and comment on

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 18 Dec 07

A friend of mine sent these 'ponderisms' and I thought you might enjoy them as much as I did. In our everyday way of communicating we use a lot of them and never stop to ponder on them. As a cat lover I have always wondered where...

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common expressions and where they came from to pon

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remo999 I like your ponderisms. Stuff like this is thought provoking and entertaining as well. Thanks for posting them.

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What is your view about new years resolutions?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 27 Dec 07

I am always intrigued by how people respond to this question when talking in person and could not resist opening the floor for discussion on this one with all of you out there. Do you make new years resolutions? How many of...

resolutions what they are and are not to me

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remo999 In my view the way many people approach new years resoltions is a colossal waste of time and to quote what Aussie said in his response they are a recipe for disaster and disappointment. For that reason I do not make new years resolutions but prefer to make...

5 Jan 08

How did it go with your relationships over the holiday season?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 27 Dec 07

In the work David and I do as life coaches and group leaders we know special occasions and especially Christmas time can be challenging as well as rewarding. Family dynamics are always very evident during gatherings...and that is...

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remo999 My comment bears repeating. I posted it on the other discussion but will say it again. Now that I no longer spend time within the toxic dynamics of my family of origin I am happy to report that my relationships with my family who is primarily my wife are...

5 Jan 08

Happy New Year...Ideas for an enjoyable life

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 27 Dec 07

My birthday is new year's eve and David and I are going to our old home town to spend it with friends. I won't be around to wish all of you in Mylot land a happy new year so I am doing it today instead. I will comment when I come...

happy new year and ideas for happy living

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remo999 Happy belated birthday Raia. In regard to this discussion I am happy to report that I did not have any contact with my toxic family of origin and spent the holidays with my lovely wife and friends my relating with others went extremely well this year.

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What foods/beverages do you eat when you want to nurture yourself?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 4 Jan 08

One more time...this is my first discussion in 2008...so to those I have not extended happy new year greetings to...I hope the coming year brings you greater happiness, health and abundant living than ever before. Now on to...

new year greetings

preferred foods that nurturewhat are they

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remo999 Nurture foods for me? Junk food!!! Potato chips, chocolate and pop! Yep that sure works well for me. I don't indulge with it the way I used to, but every now and again I give into my cravings and enjoy it to the fullest.

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This is the season for family and friends...can we talk about mothers?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 8 Dec 07

This holiday season is the third one that my mother will not be sharing it with us because she passed away in April of 2004. When I mentioned it to a friend who hasalso lost both his parents he said.."Not having your Mom around...

mothers their roles

who they are and what they do

women

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remo999 Do we have to talk about mothers? Okay if that is the topic of the day. As you can probably tell from me lead I did not and do not have a good relationship with my mother. We have been estranged for years and that suits me fine. She has problems with...

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The holiday season can be stressful...what do you do to manage stresses?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 6 Dec 07

We went shopping for a few Christmas items and as I observed people rushing around in a mad dash while dragging their screaming children by the arm I couldn't help but pick up on 'holiday stress vibes.' In North America it seems...

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remo999 I find the best way to have a less stressed christmas is to have a well planned one. Figure out who you want to get together with ans try to get the shopping done in November.

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Care to share your favorite 'Aha!' Moments?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 28 Nov 07

As Christmas draws near for David and I it will be the third one without my Mom. She was central to our family celebrations and kept them up even after my father died in 1998. During this time of year I find myself thinking about...

sharing aha momentsmine and yours

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remo999 I do have aha moments now but did not sccept them befor. I do not have one that stands out but I do pay attention to them now!!

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The amazing benefits of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EMF). It really works!

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 29 Oct 07

I have mentioned in a few of my responses that I re-injured my already damaged knees. Within the very active lifestyle we have I've fallen off horses and while hiking and rock climbing. I also have been an avid gardener and have...

amazing results in any area of life

emotional freedom techniques

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remo999 My wife and I have both experimented with emotional freedom technique and found it to bring about some very good changes. I had some dental work done and it helped ease the discomfort and once it worked and we felt better we haven't kept it up. I would use it...

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What did you do to push WAY...WAY beyond your comfort zone?

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy @Perspectives (7131) • Canada 20 Jun 07

This picture hangs on my office wall and is a constant reminder of what it took to break through my comfort zone and try something radically different. The opportunity presented itself while attending a Big Brother/Big Sister day...

beyond comfort zones

emotional safety

rock wall climbing

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remo999 I see this is an older discussion but the photo did it for me. I could not climb like that because of the height and some discomfort with that. The odd thing is that the very thing I did to push way beyond my comfort zone was to sky dive, especially because of...

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