bigfelah

@bigfelah (73)

New Zealand • Age 52

Joined myLot 17 years ago

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Why are there so many ignorant and poorly written discussions on Mylot?

flyinghamster @flyinghamster (31) • United States 4 Mar 07

As a new mylot member, I have been looking with earnest at the discussions posted, hoping that something interesting or at least well-written will be posted. Unfortunately, the discussions that I have seen indicate to me that what...

ignorance

mylot

writing

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bigfelah Your assessment is a little on the harsh side to be sure. Yes you've heard the explanations of language, limited education, and the lack of time to always be meticulous in what you say or what you choose to talk about. I do not suffer from any of these...

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How much debt do you have?

Married2aMarine @Married2aMarine (1273) • United States 4 Mar 07

My husband and I are aiming hard to being debt-free by the end of this year. It's hard cos' we started off with approx. 15K debts and we've worked it down to just 5K in 2 years! It took a lot of sacrifices but we're glad we...

debt

finance

money

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bigfelah My partner and I have maxed out our creditcard and have an overdraft which combined add to $5000.00. Other than 2/3rds of a mortgage that is the total of our debt. We hate those debts other than what comes with buying a home. We only acquired it as I now stay...

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double MISTAKES.........

marian_o9 @marian_o9 (980) • Australia 1 Mar 07

have you ever accidentally made 2 of the same discussion here on mylot ? do u wish u could delete it ? i have. i realise i wanted 2 add an image after i clicked on start discussion and pressed stop to stop the page from...

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bigfelah I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who has done this. I thought that because I had'nt completed the tag section I could click back and word my discussion more correctly. When this was done it was SHOCK HORROR I saw both had been posted. I found your...

3 Mar 07

were is the basket?

aretha @aretha (2538) • United States 24 Feb 07

when you were a kid or now with your kids. do you hide there easter basket for them to find or do you just set it out for them? when i was a kid my mom always hid mine for me to find. i loved trying to find it but my hubby was...

had a family

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bigfelah Hi Aretha. When I was a child our parents would have the various easter goodies in plain sight for us to find. They both worked shifts so it could be so that we could find them easily on easter morning while they were either still sleeping or at work. I don't...

3 Mar 07

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Referral Link - Making LOTS of Money!! **Spoiler**

stibigirl @stibigirl (291) • United States 2 Mar 07

I was just wondering, since there are so many people out there posting their referral links for different sites, if anyone really signed up in someones downline? I just know that when I see a referral link I am less likely to sign...

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bigfelah I discovered Mylot through some strangers link left below someones elses blog on a different site. I'm guilty of what you did also. I check out the sites by removing their referral link, opening a new window and paste the url. If I like the site, like I did...

3 Mar 07

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step families oh the stess

celray @celray (141) • United States 16 Feb 07

my wife and i have 7 kids(as i'm sure i've said) i love my wife very much and i love her kids also but my wife hates my kids i know my kids are not easy to get along with. thier biological mother has serious mental issues so i...

difficult stepfamiles one sided nourshering

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bigfelah Talk about similar storylines except I'm the wife. My kids and I came from an abusive relationship into my current one. Its with the greatest guy I could ever want and yes we share 1 child. He went through alot initially but I thought he coped well, always...

3 Mar 07

do you think postgraduate study is necessary ?

nashelsky @nashelsky (124) • Singapore 3 Mar 07

i am considering to take one. However, it seems to be very tough, and i do not know whether should sacrifice that much for something not necessarily promising anything for your future. What do you think ?

study

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bigfelah Go for it, if thats what you want! From my experience when I was an operations manager in a huge organisation postgraduate papers do make a huge difference. I'm refering to pay and as well as position. I realise that this is not the case in every firm but for...

3 Mar 07

Cussing.

silvermoonmyst @silvermoonmyst (943) • United States 3 Mar 07

How would you handle your child cussing? How would you handle a toddler cussing?

children using

cussing

profanity

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bigfelah Basically, at whatever age let them know that it will not be tolerated. It works without having to discipline the child severely as a simple reprimand will do. The key is to be consistent and lead by example. I personally found that they usually start...

3 Mar 07

I hate you!

Angelika1972 @Angelika1972 (189) • United States 1 Mar 07

Has your child ever said this to you? Did you feel bad or did you just chalk it up as a "stage all kids go through"?

parenting

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bigfelah More like, is there a parent that has'nt had this said to them from at least one of their children whilst growing up??? lol!!!! I think it depends on what sort of kids you have and what the situation is. I have a mild mannered daughter who would never say...

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What do you read,,,

arkaf61 @arkaf61 (10881) • Canada 2 Mar 07

in the washroom? Or you don't? WHen I was a kid I was always reading some book or other. When my mom wanted me to do some chores and instead I wanted to continue reading, I would just head onto the washroom hiding my book behind...

books

reading

washroom

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bigfelah I use to do that all the time when I was younger. I think there is a correlation between feeling relaxed after emptying your bowels and reading a book because the feeling enhances your enjoyment with the reading material. But Im older and wiser now....

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Which want you love more daugther or son?

mamaida @mamaida (48) • Singapore 28 Feb 07

I have a son and a daughter, sometime can you feel than you are loving only the son more than the daugther or maybe the daughter more than the son.

mother

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bigfelah I have a 11yr old daughter who moans and gives me looks that I love my 10yr old son more. This makes me wild! The truth of the matter is my son has a very outgoing personality where he constantly involves me in many of his interests. Whilst my daughter is more...

1 Mar 07

which male and female CSI do you like most in the three CSI series?

jakfa1979 @jakfa1979 (16) • China 26 Feb 07

the male CSI i like most is Gilbert Grissom, i like all of him, especially his hobby and style. he is such a attractive man. it is a little bit hard for me to choose the most female CSI i like, because i like both Calleigh...

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bigfelah I love all the males! Grissom, Mac and Horatio have got their jobs down pat as for there social they all seem to have next to none for now. Each 1 is supportive to their team and take their job seriously. As for the women, Catherine is by far and away the...

1 Mar 07

Breastfeeding a four year old?

lillake @lillake (1630) • United States 25 Feb 07

So what do you think of a four year old still breastfeeding? And why do you feel that way? I'm fine with it. The World health Organization says at the least 2 years and beyond as long as both mother and child are happy. No...

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bigfelah Hi there, this is a tricky one because breastfeeding any young child cannot be negative. Of my 6 kids one was breastffed until he was 3. I actually wanted to stop earlier while he was still 1 but he wouldnt have a bar of it. He'd throw a tantrum and cry til he...

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A good kid gone bad in adulthood what would you do?

Capsicum @Capsicum (1444) • United States 28 Feb 07

If you have had the perfect kid only to find that one relationship could change everything about them.How far would you go to help them if they where living with a man your age .This is a kid that had good credit at 19 until she...

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bigfelah My heart goes out to you in this case. I have a relative that does exactly what you these 2 do. While I love them dearly they really hack me off because with the incomes they get they could manage quite nicely. Love is blind but if there is good in your...

28 Feb 07

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Does your SO feel you as a SAHP do less work than they do outside the house??

angel12402 @angel12402 (47) • United States 22 Feb 07

Does anyone else's significant other compare their outside the house job to your at home parent position? Do they feel you do more or less work than they do? I ask because I am not sure DH really understands what it is like to...

parenting

stay at home parent

working parents

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bigfelah I hear you loud and clear and am 100% with you on this one. I use to be a hotshot manager but now stay home with the newest addition. Although my man knows 2 of our boys have ADD as well, he stills thinks I have lazy days when I neglect my appearance, or when...

28 Feb 07

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Do you agree that Gambling, Cheating are the work of lazy people?

ssh123 @ssh123 (31073) • India 23 Sep 06

What is your feeling?

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bigfelah Hi I am a recovering gambling addict. I use to gamble alot especially at the casinos. I gambled as a form of recreation from my hectic stressful hardworking days. So I don't think all gamblers are lazy nor cheats. I became addicted because I always kept...

28 Feb 07

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