Elaeblue

@Elaeblue (144)

United States • Age 74

Joined myLot 17 years ago

All Activity

Elaeblue's Responses

when adult children come to visit

Debs_place @Debs_place (10520) • United States 15 Feb 07

Okay, my son is 21 (technically an adult), home on leave from the Navy. THe other night, I come home, 2 TVs on, lights on in 2 bathrooms, the family room, the living room, the kitchen and his bedroom. I walk in, say HI! I am...

adult children

children

family

22 responses •

8 people

Elaeblue My husband would jokingly say " Hey son thanks!! I appreciate you paying this months electric!!" When the son looks at him with a question on his face then say "Since you left every light in the house on when you left I figured you were gonna contribute."

16 Feb 07

•

1 comment

•

2 people

Why would Health Regulators pick on Amish people?

Willowlady @Willowlady (10658) • United States 15 Feb 07

There are Amish families that sell homemade goodies: pies, cheese, pumpkin rools, breads. They may be forced out of business by state health regulations. There are food safety rules that include refrigeration for certain...

amish

people

32 responses •

11 people

Elaeblue The Amish live in America and have to follow the laws of the state they live in. Food saftey is an important thing. I do realize that most Amish homes are very clean and that the baker is experienced in food service but the laws must be maintained if they shun...

16 Feb 07

•

1 comment

•

1 person

What Will Tomorrow Hold For You?

villageanne @villageanne (8553) • United States 12 Feb 07

My mind has been wandering to the pioneers the last few days. They were such strong people. Most came to America so they could worship the way they wanted. They had very little money, yet gave all they had to start a new and...

glaucoma

low vision

pioneers

18 responses •

3 people

Elaeblue I really think you should contact a school for the blind. They can help in sooo many ways. They can teach you proven methods to live your life to its fullest even if this horrible thing does happen. I do understand your fear however as it my greatest fear to...

13 Feb 07

•

1 person

How long have you been married or been with your significant other?

shywolf @shywolf (4514) • United States 12 Feb 07

In the spirit of Valentine's Day, I thought that I would post another positive, happy story. This one is about Britain's longest married couple. They say that their secret is to take a little time for romance each day, and I...

britain

longest married couple

love

marriage

relationships

135 responses •

34 people

Elaeblue What a great story. I have been married to the same man for 37 years we married on Valentines Day 1970. We have three children and 4 grands.

13 Feb 07

Pregnant! Married! Allowed back in schoo. what do you think?

Rosy001 @Rosy001 (363) • South Africa 13 Feb 07

what kind of message do you think this will send fellow students? young girl, falls pregnant, gets married and then insists on attending school to complete her grade. i feel she shouldnt. i feel it sends out the wrong message and...

married

pregnant

teenager

82 responses •

19 people

Elaeblue I would think that watching her go through the changes pregnancy brings would be a good deterent to the other kids. I dont see how you can refuse to allow this girl to attend school. She has that right. She still has a right to an education and will need one...

13 Feb 07

•

4 people

What scares you the most about becoming a parent?

cassidy22 @cassidy22 (2974) • United States 12 Feb 07

And did your fears KEEP you from wanting to start a family? I'm scared of going through labor, so my husband and I might adopt if I don't think I can actually go through being pregnant and giving birth. HOwever, the real show...

life

59 responses •

9 people

Elaeblue Dont be so scared of labor that you do that. You can arrange with your doctor to have an epidural as soon as you get to the hospital and you wont feel it. If you dont want to treat your kids the way your mom treated you then dont. Give them lots of love and...

13 Feb 07

•

1 person

He wants me to move in. What do you think?

ldynimaway @ldynimaway (704) • United States 12 Feb 07

If you have read my other posts I have mentioned meeting someone that makes me feel like a "teenager" again. We have been going out 3 weeks. He mentioned this weekend that he wants me to move in with him. We have decided to wait...

living together

love

realtionships

54 responses •

13 people

Elaeblue If he is the man for you then he will understand if you say you want to wait a while before moving in. Its great you have found someone but you need to be careful too. In your position I would tell him that moving in made me nervous and I think we should wait...

13 Feb 07

KIDS ARE LOSING THEIR CHILDHOOD...do you agree??

mimpi @mimpi1911 (25464) • India 13 Feb 07

last week, i had been waiting for my sister to join me shopping in a mall food joint. i was way ahead my appointment time, sat down with a drink and unknowingly started watching ppl around. it is when i realised that time has...

54 responses •

14 people

Elaeblue It may seem that way on the outside but the reality is that children are staying children for much longer than before. My friend the other day said she had to get home before the kids got back from school. I asked what grade were they in and she said they were...

13 Feb 07

Surrogacy - would you have a baby for someone else?

rosie_123 @rosie_123 (6113) 12 Feb 07

In the past year, I have had two friends who have been touched by the subject of surrogate babies. One friend (I started a thread about her some while back), is giving birth to a baby for her brother. And another friend of mine,...

55 responses •

12 people

Elaeblue I would do that for a family member. For a sister or brother for sure. My reasoning is that I dont lose the child, the baby is still right there in my family and I get to watch over her or him. I know the child is well and taken care of and I know when the...

13 Feb 07

•

1 person

I'm pregnant, and I keep hearing awful birth stories!

astromama @astromama (1221) • United States 12 Feb 07

I would like to hear some uplifting birth stories. I'm 31 weeks pregnant and it seems like birth was just an awful experience for a lot of women. I would like to know what you loved about your labor and/or how it could have been...

70 responses •

16 people

Elaeblue Look what is happening is that all the women who had a short decent labor dont think thiers is something to really talk about. It was all so normal and uncomplicated. That is how most of them go and yours probably will too. We all think our babies are special...

13 Feb 07

•

1 person

If you don't believe in divorce, do you just suffer through a bad marriage?

sylviekitty @sylviekitty (2083) • United States 12 Feb 07

If your marriage isn't what you'd like it to be- he or she works all the time, you two don't communicate well, you grow apart, you hate each other, etc..- BUT you don't believe in divorce (let's say your religion is very much...

abusive relationships

25 responses •

5 people

Elaeblue You dont have to stay and be abused if you dont believe in divorce. There is no law that requires you to stay. Live elsewhere. You can live on your own and not be divorced.

13 Feb 07

Did your parents make mistakes when raising you?

awonderfullife @awonderfullife (2893) • United States 12 Feb 07

It seems many people blame their parents for things that have gone wrong in their life. Or they'll say they want to raise their kids differently than they were raised. Of course no parents are perfect, but do you parent your...

family

86 responses •

17 people

Elaeblue My parents got divorced,my Dad virtually disappeared from my life, my mother got pregnant again and I went and lived with my aunt and uncle, she never came and got me. My children never had to go thru that kind of bs.

13 Feb 07

Mommy advice anyone?

angeleyez6288 @angeleyez6288 (29) • United States 8 Feb 07

So I need some help... my mom and I have always been close. But it seems that since I've left for college (I'm a freshman) it feels like our relationship is going downhill. She makes a big deal about everything. For some reason...

mommy trouble

23 responses •

7 people

Elaeblue The next time she yells at you simply dont go home. Dont go home until she doesnt pick a fight with you before you even get there. Maybe Mom is going through that change of life thing she sounds like she having some problems.

9 Feb 07

•

2 people

help! my nanny spanks my litle girl!

joshdale08 @joshdale08 (2320) • Philippines 8 Feb 07

last night, out of the blue, my 4-yr old girl told me that her nanny spanks and pinches her and she said it's when she's being bad. at first, i didn't believe her coz this girl of mine likes to fabricate stories. but my older boys...

59 responses •

19 people

Elaeblue You should talk with the nanny and tell her that you prefer that she not spank or pinch your child as punishment any more. The child cant just not be bad with nanny its not natural. Nanny needs to change her punishments NOW!! Set strict guidelines with her on...

9 Feb 07

•

1 comment

How life would change, if you or your spouse would die tomorrow.

sylviekitty @sylviekitty (2083) • United States 9 Feb 07

I'm a SAHM, of 2 young kids. I don't make any money (aside from a little online income, which is basically nothing). I do have a college degree, but have never been able to use it. I haven't worked in 3 1/2 years. I am not the...

34 responses •

9 people

Elaeblue You would not probably have to sell the house. Most mortgages have a clause for pay off upon the death of the major breadwinner. The hardest part of the scenario you just played out for us is the emotional toll. You are thinking about money -remember you cant...

9 Feb 07

•

2 comments

•

1 person

Should 15 year olds have Curfews?

byfaithonly @byfaithonly (10698) • United States 8 Feb 07

My son is 15 and doesn't think he should have a curfew. I on the other hand believe he should not only have a curfew but should be home by 9 p.m. on school nights. I am still mom and boss of the house but at the same time I do...

curfews

parents

teens

61 responses •

10 people

Elaeblue You dont say what his curfew is on non school nights. I think 9pm is reasonable for school nights. It should be later on weekends but not too late. Its better to be stricter than more lax I think.

9 Feb 07

•

1 person