searchingwithin

@searchingwithin (31)

United States • Age 64

Joined myLot 15 years ago

Never make someone a priority who considers you an option

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does love change you as a person???

ryaj21 @ryaj21 (208) • Philippines 12 Mar 09

what do you think guys you have been inlove i know so does it change you as a person???....

love

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searchingwithin I believe everyone in our lives changes us in some way, especially those that we love.

12 Mar 09

What's the difference between a true friend and an acquaintance?

MichGurl @MichGurl (144) • United States 12 Mar 09

I've been dealing with quite a bit of stress in my life and it seems like my so-called friends are dropping like flies which makes me wonder if they were ever friends to begin with or if perhaps they were simply...

acquaintance

friend

relationships

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searchingwithin The acquaintances will drop off, the true friends will not. Just be glad you have been given the opportunity to know the difference. I just hope that you have not become a toxic friend yourself, through this.

12 Mar 09

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Extramarital love?

lucy67 @lucy67 (819) • China 12 Mar 09

You have got married and you love your husband though the love is not as deep as it used to be. Now you find another man very attractive to you. You find life more beautiful just because of his existence. You won't get divorced...

extramarital love

feeling

love

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searchingwithin I believe that we choose a partner and a relationship based on our perceived needs, wants and desires. When we consider stepping out, or do step out, it comes from a different place, it comes from a perceived lack. You need to figure out what you feel you...

12 Mar 09

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Friends--Need them or not?

indigo2385 @indigo2385 (44) • United States 12 Mar 09

Can someone no matter who they are, go through life without ever having any friends to share atleast some of their time with?

freind

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searchingwithin Love and connection is one of the basic human emotional needs. It is said, from the moment the physical connection from our Mothers at birth is severed, we spend the rest of our lives seeking to be re-connected. How we go about this need and desire, becomes...

12 Mar 09

Should you let your child sleep-share with you?

agmamayo @agmamayo (804) • Philippines 12 Mar 09

Most families share beds together especially when their child is still young, however there are some who opt no to.Speak out your minds on why you let your kids sleep-share with you- or why you choose not to- and why do you think...

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searchingwithin No, I do not believe a child should sleep with their parents, in part because of the dependency reason, but also for the privacy of the parents. I never allowed my son to sleep with us when he was growing up. If he had a bad dream, I went to his room and...

12 Mar 09

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How can you tell if

twistedangellinda @twistedangellinda (174) • United States 12 Mar 09

Hi everyone! The day before yesterday I had my first job interview ever. Are there any clues that would tell me the interview went good or bad? I was very prepared for the interview. I was dressed appropriately, I had my resume...

first job interview

job interview

resume and cover letter

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searchingwithin Sounds like you had your bases covered, and was very prepared. This is unusual in this day and age. What does your gut tell you? That is where your answer lies.

12 Mar 09

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Living with an ex..

xXxRashEeD @xXxRashEeD (305) • Philippines 9 Mar 09

Are there cases that you can still live with your ex? Or should you move out from the time you're not inlove with your partner anymore? If you still love your ex, and you still want to live with that person.. would you risk the...

living with an ex

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searchingwithin You are only asking for heartache by still living with an ex. It would be an attempt at holding on to what is already gone. Start your own life, do what you love, and learn from whatever mistakes you may have made. It would be self inflicted pain, and you...

11 Mar 09

when you lose a friend

rocko5150 @rocko5150 (62) • United States 5 Feb 09

I had a friend who is bipolar and well we at one point were good friends i thought until she changed and started telling people my business and well i forgave her and still she did it again and again and well i am done dealing...

friendships

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searchingwithin Only you can decide. As for myself, I choose friends who respect me, have similar values, and who make me feel good about myself. If you can't trust someone, why would you want them in your life?

11 Mar 09

living together vs getting married...

liaamur @liaamur (417) • Philippines 10 Mar 09

i am surrounded by married people getting separated, and divorce has quite become handy nowadays. however, just when i distrust true love there comes an example of a lasting one--someone celebrating their 32nd (happy) anniversary,...

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searchingwithin I have gone down the living together route, and never again. Marriage, to me, is total commitment to your partner and your relationship, and a declaration to the World that you have chosen that person as your lifelong partner, and they are no longer game in...

10 Mar 09

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What to do to a cruel sister?

hanah87 @hanah87 (1835) • Malaysia 10 Mar 09

My elder sister always bully me.She always treat me bad.What should i do to her?Should i kick her and tell her go away?

bully

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searchingwithin Kicking is abuse. She is overstepping your boundaries, and you should tell her so in a respectful manner. If her behavior continues, do not reward her by responding.

10 Mar 09

where is my shoulder?

ushassu @ushassu (34) • India 10 Mar 09

What about me who never show myself what i am suffering.Where can i get such a shoulder to cry on when i dont want people to laugh on my silly problems and silly thoughts. i feel they r small enough not to tell anyone but big...

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searchingwithin Stuffing down suffering is where emotional baggage comes from. Your friends are there to express your emotions, shortcomings, as well as your joys and successes. If they are not there for you to be genuine with, then they are not your friends, only...

10 Mar 09

who will you choose the one you love or the one who loves you???

ryaj21 @ryaj21 (208) • Philippines 10 Mar 09

well ive been in that situation even now im confused of who will i choose the one who loves me or the one i love..i want to be secured i want to choose the right girl for me..pls help me decide..thanks guys for helping me i know...

love

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searchingwithin In the end, you will always choose the one that you love. But so much more goes into making a relationship work. It is a partnership, and you need to know what you want, and want out of life, and will they be there with you and for you, as well as you...

10 Mar 09

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Why We aRe sO AfRAid oF rEjectiOnS?

jhoannejoj @jhoannejoj (963) • Philippines 10 Mar 09

Last Sunday night, I and my sister watched a movie HE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU. Throughout the movie we laughed and agreed to some of the insights that the movie reflected. Its true that when our friends are dismayed of their dates...

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searchingwithin Rejection hurts, because we perceive it as we are a failure, and not being good enough...something must be wrong with us. We all think that we choose our partners and the people that we desire to have relationships with consciously, by choice, when in...

10 Mar 09

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getting more serious?

csrobins @csrobins (1120) • United States 10 Mar 09

My boyfriend and I want to get more serious but we don't know how. It is hard because we aren't gonna move in together and aren't ready for marriage but we are twenty something and have been dating for a year and a half. We just...

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searchingwithin Communication, honesty, and vulnerability. In other words speak and listen from an open heart. Use your five senses; touch, sight, smell, taste. You always have time to look deep into his eyes, taste his lips, hold his hand, listen to his words and what is...

10 Mar 09

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What do you want your friends to think about you?

manya_pearl @manya_pearl (1901) • Singapore 10 Mar 09

Hi, mylot-ers? What do you want your friends to think about you? For me, i want my friends or anyone who knew me... They wull say that they are proud and happy to know me, and because im their friend. I dont want many things...

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searchingwithin We all want some validation through and from our friendships, and we all want to be accepted for who we are, and our uniqueness. We get back what we give, and who we choose to surround ourselves with. They are all there to show and teach us something about...

10 Mar 09

been in love

triptadasgupta @triptadasgupta (900) • India 28 Feb 09

hello friends....can you please tell me friends that why does everyone fall in love,why can people resist themselves from falling in love.Can my friends please share their views with me. thanx in advance have a nice...

been in love

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searchingwithin I believe that love and loving others is what we were put here on this Earth for, so we are going to love and be loved, at all times. Men and women are opposites, with the intended purpose of coming together to form a whole, the same as day and night come...

10 Mar 09

Is it better to live together first before getting married?

Blessed4life @Blessed4life (14) • United States 6 Mar 09

I'm just really curious to know whether it's better to first live together with the person that you're planning on getting married to and spending the rest of your life with, before going ahead and exchanging those vows "for...

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searchingwithin I have gone the live-in route before, and never again. It does not show commitment to the relationship, just roommates with benefits. If you are looking for a committed relationship, then I say no, leave the trying on for size to clothes and shoe shopping.

9 Mar 09

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am i wrong

ashwini28 @ashwini28 (37) • India 8 Mar 09

i lie very small small things to my hubby n its not intentionally i lie but sometimes to avoid few questions or wen he is very curious of somethings.I just tell them so as to avoid fights or i get more cautious n i get cought.i...

lie wrong

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searchingwithin A bunch of little white lies can easily ruin a relationship...lie by lie. If he finds out, how do you expect him to trust you to be honest about the big things? He won't. Communication, trust and intimacy, are what create a solid foundation, and in order to...

9 Mar 09