vanjosh_30

@vanjosh_30 (42)

Philippines • Age 46

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Hows your Body Clock?

elmsquie @elmsquie (78) • Philippines 10 Oct 10

Working night shift makes your world turned upside down. Everything about your normal life is affected. You don't get to eat on time & sleep on time. On my rest days, I try to sleep normally for two days & then again a continuous...

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vanjosh_30 i had been in a night shift work or even a graveyard shift for almost a year.9mos.to be exact.It horrifies me to know that it wasnt easy to be back to the life i used to have....i find it so hard to see myself snuggle to sleep at night.whew...i have to adjust...

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if he comes back???

monmon20 @monmon20 (58) • Philippines 10 Oct 10

i know i should not expect because it would only hurt me more. i know i should move on and continue life without him, but i just cant stop thinking about it. my subconscious is telling me i want him to love me again and be my...

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vanjosh_30 what's your heart telling you?In that sense whatever is the answer, ask your brains,is it right???then weigh,if you wanted to be forever unhappy and crying over his infidelity then go on...but if you think its quite enough then give yourself a...

11 Oct 10

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writing with left and right hand

hushi22 @hushi22 (4928) 11 Oct 10

i was so amazed with my classmate. it was the first time i met a person who can write with her left and right hand. Her handwriting is also really nice. She writes with her left and if she feels tired she uses her right hand....

writing

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vanjosh_30 my classmate/childhood friend used to do that.Some people said they are talented people...hahaha!i like it when he writes using the right hand and draw in the other hand....

11 Oct 10

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pictures

monmon20 @monmon20 (58) • Philippines 7 Oct 10

just seeing his pictures over facebook from his friends' album makes me so sad and makes me miss him so much. i don't realize it but tears would just go running down my cheeks with me knowing.

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vanjosh_30 if crying would help you ease the heaviness in your heart then cry out loud.to move on doesnt mean you will forget evrything totally.but make sure that these memories will not always make your eyes moist.learn to smile with it.value the lessons you learned and...

7 Oct 10

can you talk to the those about to die?

savypat @savypat (20216) • United States 7 Oct 10

I was with a book club and this subject came up. There were some very interesting answers. First I can't do this all I do is cry. But then a nurse and a physical therapist, both of whom had worked with the dying said that for...

coping with death

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vanjosh_30 its a very serious matter.If given a chance I will gladly do it but I hope I will not blow and spill the chance given to me just because my heart is overflowing with pity.

7 Oct 10

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will you look down on people who tried to kill themselves?

chiyochan @chiyosan (30183) • Philippines 7 Oct 10

A topic was being discussed over lunch today with my officemates, and well We have discussed about a certain local celebrity who has slashed her wrist because she was deeply hurt or depressed over a breakup... A guy officemate...

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vanjosh_30 each of us had different way of dealing with problems.if its his own decision f giving up his life for that matter nobody should question his line of thinking.If he thinks that its the only way for him/he to stop he agony in his life.No questions should be...

7 Oct 10

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how do you react when angry?

elmsquie @elmsquie (78) • Philippines 7 Oct 10

How do you react with anger when getting into a fight? Are you 'the keep my mouth shut' & 'silent treament' types? or the type who will 'blow it all out till I calm down' & no holding back?

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vanjosh_30 If I am angry,I set myself in a brief moment of silence.Then I will try to hold myself until I clearly knew what ground am I trying to go.If everything is set i will point out or headfast to the person whom im angry at.if he owes me explanation I will listen...

7 Oct 10

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When there are so many things left unsaid....

chiyochan @chiyosan (30183) • Philippines 6 Oct 10

And you know it bothers you already.. but everytime you see your bf/gf.. you cannot seem to find the words or the right words to tell him how you feel.. about things, about your relationships.. about whatever it is that is making...

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vanjosh_30 silence is more painful especially when nothing is clear on the relationship.i was in the same situation before but I was overcome by fear that I may be hurt so I thought of keeping everything for myself...but as time goes by I realized that I was never happy...

7 Oct 10

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your bf/gf says you are the biggest mistake of his/her life T_T

sweetloveforeve @sweetloveforeve (13120) • Portugal 5 Oct 10

hi guys^^ imagine that your bf/gf says you are the biggest mistake of his/her life. what do you say to him? about me i would say why you say that? didnt you love me? if he says im his biggest mistake and wants end all bcs he lost...

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mistake

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vanjosh_30 if he said that I will not ask for an explanation,i will let go..i cant hold on to a relationship that my partner isnt happy anymore.I dont want to be the cause of his pain no matter how much i love him.its enough for me to hear that.

5 Oct 10

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If you had 24 hours to live what would you do??

hoodblock86 @hoodblock86 (84) • United States 5 Oct 10

There is only one thing that i would do and thats spend the last 24hours of my life with the people that i love the most in this world.What about you??

decisions

life

living

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vanjosh_30 if i am given 24hrs.to live, i wanted to do everything good for me and for everyone.hehe.i will spend a quiet morning with my friends.i want to spend a fiery lunchtime with my foes.and spend a quiet evening with all those i love.and rest of my last hour with...

5 Oct 10

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People want you to stay...But do they like you or you're just needed?..

geniusvinz @geniusvinz (419) • Philippines 2 Oct 10

i received a text message: "sometimes when people ask us to stay, we feel important...but do they want us to stay because they like us or are we just needed?.." i could somehow relate to this text msg..most of my classmates often...

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vanjosh_30 that question also its me...now im trying to ask myself, am i important or im just needed....huh! but everything is worth a try...we may never knew how valuable are we to those people but things can change....we never knew. as long as we are doing our share...

3 Oct 10

cheating

gjax57 @gjax57 (897) • United States 29 Sep 10

If your spouse/bf/gf/ ever cheated on you and you found out, why is it that altho you know it, they still can look you in the eye and deny the fact they cheated? can anyone explain this for me............

cheats

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vanjosh_30 it is so hard to know their reasons why.i cant tell why some had a nerve to do it.if they are honest enough to admit what they did it would be a lot easier to let them go and move on....i had the same experience with my better ex half...haha!until now he hadnt...

30 Sep 10

i am happy because................

jerrian44 @jerrian44 (19) • Netherlands 30 Sep 10

After spending a few days being a miserablle cow, i have decided to start a happy thread. I am happy because 1) Central heating in our house works well 2. i have a small beautiful family 3. our freezer is massive and i...

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vanjosh_30 there are lots of reason to be happy.Im happy because Im still breathing.Im happy because Im still having faith and hope in life.it makes me happy for there are persons who are giving me reasons to live and be happy each day.Im a glee to know that I can be...

30 Sep 10

Role of women in family

opportunity2u @opportunity2u (247) • Malaysia 30 Sep 10

In this modern world, many women have started to work to support their families for various reasons. Almost every girl is educated. Therefore, they no longer stay at home to cook for their families. You prefer your mother to stay...

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vanjosh_30 being educated is not a reason for a women to escape from the duties as a woman and as a mother.A woman can explore the world as long as she is kept reminded that she had her roles and she never neglects it.She needs not to be a super woman to do things...

30 Sep 10

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Do you really have to say thank you??

saphrina @saphrina (31551) • South Africa 28 Sep 10

This is probably such an awesomely stupid question. So when you are done laughing and all that goes with it, please feel free to show me how stupid this is. Whether you are married or just in a relationship, do you thank your...

love and thank you

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vanjosh_30 i think its not a silly question.to compliment or even say thank you to somebody for loving you is recognizing your partners worth.there's nothing wrong with that i guess.to appreciate the love somebody had given you is a very positive character.Everybody...

30 Sep 10

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Do you smile and say hello?

bounce58 @bounce58 (17385) • Canada 29 Sep 10

I was having a crappy day, and I was at a local grocery trying to get a few things which I should have gotten on my last trip. As I stood in front of the shelves, berating myself, with my mind at a hundred miles a minute, I saw a...

hello

smile

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vanjosh_30 when I am in a bad mood I would usually look serious but if ever I come across somebody i cant help but flash a smile.because I am a person who believes "Smile , It cost nothing but gives much!"hehe.Its good to say "hi" to someone you're actually not familiar...

30 Sep 10

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i try 2 b the bettr wife 2 my husband...

preetidahiya @preetidahiya (75) • India 23 Sep 10

i aLways try 2 help my hubby in his work..but sumtimes he doesnt lik this at all...may b he thinks i m interfering his life..wat shud i do??????

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vanjosh_30 my heart felt what you are into.do your own thing.if that thing makes you happy doing go ahead.but since he had been complaining give him space.let him realize how much will he miss for that.its good to stand by your man but he wishes to break free let him.if...

26 Sep 10

what would you prefer, a very sad and hurting break-up or a slow-mo killing me..

deriellevc73 @deriellevc73 (982) • Philippines 25 Sep 10

i just wonder since i have read a lot of discussions here regarding very hurting break-ups and there are those who stayed on in a relationship which they know is not right for them and is breaking them to pieces day by...

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vanjosh_30 i had been tied in a relationship for quite a long time.i was so angry with myself to endure much pain.it was too late to realize that i had been hurt too much that i tried to give each day a chance.i was blinded that i should have let go of the relationship...

26 Sep 10