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zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee hi, jenintn. yup, often the passion and excitement is really high at the beginning of every relationship. i agree with your grandfather that "liking" the person you are with can boost the chances of having a successful relationship. mutual respect is also very...

8 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee yup, debbie, communication is really important as much as honesty, trust, and acceptance. often, misunderstandings happen because we don't talk with our partners when we should. well, it's part of making the relationship grow and mature and knowing each...

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee yes, being "jailed" or imprisoned is wrong in a relationship. freedom as an individual should still be respected and partners are supposed to make each other grow as individuals and as a partner in a relationship. thanks for responding!

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee that's what i think too, macdolinger. well, "controlling" people do exist and they seem to like having that certain sadistic power over their partners and that's just sad. these people use different forms of "owning" or "controlling" their partners like...

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee yup, tiffnkeat, a relationships is not about ownership and there is responsibility. each one must work to make the whole thing succeed, not just one or the other. trust is very important too as it is one of the basic ingredients that make it work, like honesty...

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee oh, okay, jete. well, methinks one-night stands are not relationships in the real sense of the word. relationships cannot be built in one night or a few days even. in my book at least, they take time--months or years and i don't think they are a waste of time....

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee i like that idea, macdingolinger! "mad money" for one's personal spending or savings, that's great. i think it would even be fun because i can sure use some of it to buy my partner surprise presents too . thanks for...

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zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee i completely agree with you on that, hardworkinggurl. often we let even the smallest or silliest things get in the way of making our relationships work. we also forget about the "partnership" thing, the give-and-take that binds two different people...

6 Feb 11

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zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee that's exactly why i opened up this discussion, lakota. i keep seeing couples, married, young or old, who argue so much about how one is supposed to "behave" as a wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend commonly triggered by too much jealousy, possessiveness, or...

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee yup, markroderick. one of the biggest things i really appreciate about couples who have been together for many years is how they try to give each other enough space to pursue other things outside of their relationship or marriage. i think that alone helps to...

6 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee you got that right, lhenpaule. supporting each other's dreams and interests while maintaining your relationship is great. while we may not understand some of our partner's individual needs or wants, as long as there is respect, trust, and some freedom given, i...

5 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Feb 11

why do some people believe that in romantic relationships, one has the right to act as if his/her partner is a "property" and less of a person who has an independent mind, heart, and needs too? i've always believed that partners...

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zapatee i agree, gambamarcela. each one of us should still strive to maintain our individualities and independence while keeping our relationships. i know many couples who have stayed for 20, 30, more years in their marriage, happy and with no lack of respect for each...

5 Feb 11

zapatee @zapatee (477) • Philippines 5 Dec 10

who is that one person (or persons) that you believe made a significant influence in your life or any specific facet in your life that contributed to your growth, positive change, or change of perspectives? does this person still...

positive influence

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zapatee wow, bingskee, that's amazing. i really admire people who never allow negative experiences they had in their past or present life, physical or emotional, to interfere with their life and future. i also know someone who went through some difficulties in his...

2 Feb 11

bingskee @bingskee (5234) • Philippines 31 Jan 11

Daughter Kay told us what she read in Time magazine while we were having dinner. There was an article about being moral and there was a quiz. I cannot forget one of the questions she mentioned where a group was being hunted by...

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zapatee i agree. i know i also have a protective instinct for other people, but faced with that specific or very similar kind of situation, i think my maternal instincts would kick in ahead of everything else. but if there's still another way out of that difficult...

1 Feb 11

LilyoftheThorns @LilyoftheThorns (12918) • United States 30 Jan 11

I want a really cool, manly man name for a character in my story (but let's not go crazy). I have come up with a few names, I'll list them and you guys can tell me which you like best OR you can give your own name. You'll...

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zapatee maybe you can try another last name to go with for connor. how about connor wade? . i've always liked those first names i've listed, especially drake and connor . anyways, good luck with your story!

1 Feb 11

hardworkinggurl @hardworkinggurl (37063) • United States 24 Jan 11

How often do you here these words here on myLot and perhaps during off-line encounters? Did you know that offline people actually hurt others due to misunderstandings. myLot is such a wonderful diverse...

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zapatee atta, hardworkinggurl .

26 Jan 11

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figurativeme @figurativeme (1089) • Philippines 25 Jan 11

I assume that we have times in a day that we don't like most. But there must be times in a day, too, that we like most. I realized this today. I passed by a laboratory to pick up a specimen analysis on my way to work. It was...

early morning

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zapatee i hope so, too . the sad thing is it's been over two years since i last visited and had a relaxing stay on a beautiful beach . well, i do hope i get to have the time to do that again soon. thanks, figurativeme!

26 Jan 11

Your Highness Emperor Albert Whisker @CaptAlbertWhisker (32748) • Calgary, Alberta 19 Dec 10

I remember My mom and my aunt where very close as sisters, One day My sister's brother, leaves his daughter who is my cousin to my aunt. He trusted her but my uncle's mistake is trusting my aunt's husband. My aunt's husband...

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zapatee oh, i'm sorry. i didn't mean to distort your story. just thought you also call him "uncle" since he is your aunt's husband (a common practice in our place). i understood the story. i apologize if i may have somehow offended you.

19 Jan 11

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