SViswan

@SViswan (12051)

India • Age 48

Joined myLot 18 years ago

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purplealabaster @purplealabaster (22091) • United States 11 Aug 15

I know that this has been said a long time ago back before MyLot got revamped, but I feel the need to stress this again, especially for the people that are new to the site ... and maybe even for those of us that have had a long...

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SViswan Thank you for the reminder. I am back after a pretty long hiatus from myLot. Just checking it out again. I hope I enjoy it as much as earlier. I always would check and respond and keep the conversation going earlier. But with my two boys older now and driving...

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Now Stop It, I yelled

cynthiann @cynthiann (18602) • Jamaica 6 Aug 15

Not sure if I should post this as it says a lot about me as a mother. Not good either! I was silently yelling at myself and with good reason too as I had been so stupid. My second son is home from N.C.as his wife wants a divorce...

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SViswan Lol....I can see myself the same as you when my son is 40! I have to keep reminding myself that he is almost 15 and I need to back off. All I can say is...it might take a while but you will realize that he is an adult and you both are sharing the same place...

12 Aug 15

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Trying to square off obligations by way of monetary gifts

kalav56 @kalav56 (11464) • India 28 Mar 13

My personal conviction is that giving unfeeling monetary gifts in return for timely help rendered is a very undesirable thing. Many people have a need based relationship and keep in touch with other friends or relatives when they...

give monetary gifts as a fulfilment of obligation

sqauring off a transaction

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SViswan It depends. If a monetary gift would help the receiver, I'm sure it would be appreciated in lieu of help rendered. But usually this formality is not expressed within close friends and relatives. I've seen a friend's mom who thinks her friend has good choice...

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Driving your own car

maximax8 @maximax8 (31046) • United Kingdom 28 Mar 13

People that pass their practical driving test and can afford to buy their own car are very lucky. I bought my car in 2006 however I didn't manage to pass my practical driving test until 2010. Last summer I drove my car down...

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SViswan I don't drive. I have a driving license (more than 2 years ago) and can afford to get myself a car. Yet, I am very scared of driving and prefer to be in the passenger seat and enjoy the sights or spend that time to be in my own world of thoughts. I need a lot...

29 Mar 13

What do you remember that your kids or grandkids would find strange?

Heather Echola @GardenGerty (160626) • United States 28 Mar 13

I was talking to my son's girlfriend this morning and mentioned that I actually remember my grandmother boiling a huge caldron or pot under the trees to wash her clothes in. Stirring the laundry with a stick. Then rinsing it out,...

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SViswan Hmmm...quite a few things. The old telephone with the circular dial. Presently, we don't have a landline and I don't think my younger son has ever seen one. I also remember a grinding stone to rind spices when I was younger and visiting India. Washing clothes...

29 Mar 13

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Have you ever fallen asleep at an unusual place.

dpk262006 @dpk262006 (58676) • Delhi, India 29 Mar 13

Hi all! There are many of us who are deprived of sleep and always try to catch up with their sleep. Sleep deprived people could be found daydreaming on the toilet, in the bath, at the cinema and sometimes dreadfully behind...

fall asleep

unlikely places

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SViswan If a bus is an unusual place to fall asleep, I am guilty. Usually I am very careful and do not fall asleep anywhere...especially when travelling long distance or with luggage or kids alone. When with my husband, I fall asleep whenever I want to. But I fell...

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Do you arrange for yourself to have free time?

Dominique25 @Dominique25 (9464) • United States 29 Mar 13

I think it's important for us to schedule some time for ourselves. Otherwise all we do is work and take care of our responsibilities. When we make a little time for ourselves we are energized to again take care of our other...

free time

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SViswan Yes, I do. Early morning is my free time...when my husband and kids are in bed. I get atleast an hour to myself. I read, surf the net, listen to music or go for a walk. These are things that I normally don't get to do when my kids are awake. Sometimes, I also...

29 Mar 13

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Would you love them still?

celleDJ406 @celleDJ406 (196) • Philippines 29 Mar 13

There are times that it becomes hard to love a person so close to you when all they do is rant, complain, drag you to argue on unnecessary matters just because they want to make a point, or those that love to get you...

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SViswan I do. And though it's hard,I prefer staying away from such people. I cool down soon enough and then I want to go back. I still love them and I can't believe it myself. I've tried to talk to myself but it confuses me more and I end up going back to these same...

29 Mar 13

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Do you read your children's diary?

youless @youless (112481) • Guangzhou, China 29 Mar 13

We all feel curious to our children's lives and we concern about their growth. So I wonder whether you will read their diaries secretly?

diary

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SViswan I've never tried to read my older son's diary. He is open and shares his feelings and thoughts with me. But sometimes, he comes to me to share his diary. Off late he is inspired by the Wimpy kid series and his diary runs along similar lines. My younger son is...

29 Mar 13

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Do you work when you are pregnant?

youless @youless (112481) • Guangzhou, China 29 Mar 13

I didn't give up my work when I was pregnant. Besides it, I also went to study at night. I am glad for my right choice. Since I would not be ideal at home an didn't do anything. I was busy and therefore I hardly felt ill or had...

work

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SViswan I wasn't working when I was pregnant with my first child. I had just moved countries and was new to the place too. So, I just stayed home and took care of myself and my family's needs. I didn't have any pregnancy related illness. I was working as a...

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when you are on school can you share your lunch with your classfellows???? huh??

Tushavi @Tushavi (2077) • Karachi, Pakistan 29 Mar 13

hi to all well, what a days when I'm on school there is no worries but to school work & teacher scoldings, well our school building is very big, so we running & playing during a lunch break, I never bring any food from home...

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SViswan When I was in school, we would share our lunches. I am reminded of the situation where I had a friend who was on the heavier side and I was rod thin. My mother would give me a 3 course meal for lunch and her mother would send her vegetable sandwiches for...

29 Mar 13

How often do you call your parents ?

echo060201 @echo060201 (540) • China 8 Jan 13

Now I work in another city which is far away of my hometown, ao i will call them regularly. Usually I call them every Friday, and for the other days, I call them if i have something to talk with them. I also send text messages to...

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SViswan We stay in different continents and I don't really call my parents. They call me every week. My cell phone service doesn't let me call long distance. So, if there's something really urgent that I need to talk to them about, I send an sms to my dad to call me....

13 Jan 13

I am in love with Zumba!!

34momma @34momma (13882) • United States 9 Jan 13

So must of you know that I have lost now 40 pounds because of using Herbalife! Now that I have lost the weight, I want to now tone up my body and allow it work to it's fullest potential! Yesterday I went to my first Zumba glass...

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SViswan I do not have a favourite workout because I am basically a lazy person and can't do anything to stay fit. Fortunately for me, I love eating stuff that is healthy for me and also walking. I also think I've taken after my father and do not put on weight...

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Are you comfortable sending your child to a sleepover?

katsmeow1213 @katsmeow1213 (28716) • United States 9 Jan 13

I suppose I've been fortunate as my daughter hasn't ever gone on a sleepover. I always felt bad about it, at her age I'd had hundreds of sleepovers. But it wasn't anything she'd ever brought up, so I let it be. A few weeks ago...

kids

sleepovers

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SViswan I have two boys and I've never been in this kind of a situation. The only time that my older son went for a sleepover was when he was 5 and it was in the same apartment complex. At first he said he wouldn't sleepover and return after the party. But he changed...

12 Jan 13

Is travelling a part of your job?

Porcospino @Porcospino (31366) • Denmark 9 Jan 13

My sister-in-law is a shop assistant. The chain store where she works is going to start a new store on another island and her boss asked my sister-in-law to go to that island and help out there while they start the new shop. My...

job

travel

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SViswan Though I am a teacher, travelling is part of my job since I get trained and I also give training. But the travelling is only for a few days at a time. I have 2 sons and we stay at the accommodation provided by the school. My husband now stays in a different...

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I Stood Up To Them!

Jennifer @LovingMyBabies (85288) • Valdosta, Georgia 9 Jan 13

I usually back down to everyone and let them tell me what I am going to do...Today though was very different. It felt so good too. I am no longer going to be taken advantage of or told what to do. I am grown and people need to...

baby steps

not a door mat anymore

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SViswan Yes, you are right. Everyone has to start somewhere...and it's a good thing that you have started. I've started taking the baby steps too. I've started doing it mainly at work and my boss was taken aback since it has always been over to push me over. I guess...

12 Jan 13

I Am In Shock Over My Poor Treatment At The Doctor's

Janey1966 @Janey1966 (24170) • Carlisle, England 10 Jan 13

I really don't know where to turn. Of all the people I have seen in the past few months over my heavy bleeding, I thought my own doctor would've been the one to support me. But, no, I was wrong. I think he...

yes my doctor does swear like that

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SViswan I guess doctors everywhere are the same. I had excessive bleeding and suffered for around 5 years. Tried every kind of medicine and different kinds of doctors starting with English medicine, going on to Ayurveda and then homeopathy. Nothing worked and finally...

12 Jan 13

Too busy to pick up the kids?

TheRealDawn @dawnald (85146) • Shingle Springs, California 10 Jan 13

This last weekend the ex wanted to take the kids up to his mother's. Was fine with me, nice quiet weekend, spend some times with the boyfriend, etc. He didn't come Friday. Saturday he called and said that he had had to work...

flaky ex

nice try

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SViswan Hmmmm indeed!! I'd rather say 'Hmph' !

12 Jan 13

Now you are right, now you are not...but the point of reference is same

vanny @vandana7 (100249) • India 10 Jan 13

Ok..this happened the day before yesterday... Some repairs were done with cement and at the gate, and so my father asked the watchman to keep the gates locked for a while. Around 11 am in the morning tenants of one flat...

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SViswan That's too little information to go by...but does it really matter who is right and who is wrong? Does any action need to be taken? If that's the case, then one needs to ascertain who is right and who is wrong. If not, leave it at that. I understand that the...

12 Jan 13

The minimum wage for work

maximax8 @maximax8 (31046) • United Kingdom 10 Jan 13

In my home country the minimum wage for a person over 21 years old is six pounds and nineteen pence an hour. I watched a program about Brits that had moved to a different country. One couple moved to America. The wife went for an...

low wage

poor

work

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SViswan In my country, there is a wide difference in rate of the hourly wage depending on the job. But government jobs, the employees get benefits as well as a good pay for not doing anything. While in a private sector, they do a lot more work and get paid...

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