Handayani

@Handayani (27)

Age 43

Joined myLot 14 years ago

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How often should you see your boyfriend/girlfriend?

pinksplotch @pinksplotch (268) • Quezon City, Philippines 18 Aug 10

Should you see your boyfriend/girlfriend often (like everyday) to keep the flame of love burning? Or is it true that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"? Feel free to share your thoughts.

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Handayani Yes, I should see my boy friend everyday, coz I often worry about his condition, does he have lunch, is he very busy so he will feel tired etc. Although only from phone I must know that he is fine in his office. Really I love him very much and absence makes me...

18 Aug 10

Are you the talker or the listener?

lilangelspreschool @lilangelspreschool (1129) • United States 19 Jul 10

I find that with everyone I know I am always the listener. I feel like there is no one that really listens to what I have to say. I guess because I am more laid back and I don't demand to be heard like others do. I like listening...

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Handayani I think I'm a talker. I am not patience enough to be a listener. I like to tell to others about my activities, my problems, etc to my friend or my mother but I always try to be a good listener too although It seldom works.

18 Aug 10

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Is it Harder to LISTEN than to TALK?

incus99 @incus99 (1083) • Philippines 12 Aug 10

When a friend approaches you for advice... are you the type of person who voluntarily talk and talk or are you the type of friend who hears out a friend in need? In my personal experience, often times its the time invested to...

advices

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Handayani yup, 100% right. really It's harder to listen than to talk. I am a mother of two children, my son is 4 years old now, he is in the kindergarten. Everyday he talks about his activities in his school, he asks about his friends, his teachers, etc and he always...

18 Aug 10

Do you have a lot of friends?

dloveli @dloveli (4366) • United States 24 Mar 10

If I think about how many actual friends I have I dont have any. I have no one that I can call and talk to or vent to. I have a ton of aquaintances but no real best friends. To be honest I would really love one. How many friends...

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Handayani I think I don't have a lot of friends, sorry I don't need many friends. I just like to have a few but they are really friends, they're ready to be my friends in sorrow and happiness. I ever feel disappointed because of my friend, then I think what for to have...

18 Aug 10

What do you need to change about yourself?

Tresaqwe @Tresaqwe (376) • United States 18 Aug 10

What do you need to change about yourself? I personally need to change a lot of things about myself. I need to learn how to stop complaining about stupid things and appreciate the good life that I do have. I need to learn how to...

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2 people

Handayani I am easy to be angry if something that I don't like happen, I have learned to be more patience to face my children, my husband or my problems. I even always pray to the God, please make my self to be a patience people, but really It's so hard to do. then I'm...

18 Aug 10

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It is good to love her..?

siliguri @siliguri (4241) • India 3 Aug 10

I have completed my graduation degree last year and i'm working in a office which is little bit far from my home so i use to go in bus. In that bus many school students also go on that time when i use to go. So there is a girl...

love

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Handayani If you want to build a serious relationship, just forget her coz I think she is still young, it's better to be her older brother. but if you just want to have fun, go straight please.

3 Aug 10

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Love Makes life easy or Hard?

sonalvs @sonalvs (159) • India 3 Aug 10

There is no perfect answer about this question because wheather love makes life hard or love makes life easy because falling in love in the which situation boys and girls are nobody knows in which situation you fall in...

bus

fall in love

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Handayani Love is difficult to descript. When we fall in love, it's so hard if we are far from our love, we just want always to be in his side. And we will be very happy if we meet our love, will be sad if separate with him. When I was in high school, I felt broken...

3 Aug 10

Love Makes life easy or Hard?

sonalvs @sonalvs (159) • India 3 Aug 10

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Handayani Love is difficult to descript, when we fall in love, it's so hard if we are far from our love, we just want always to be in his side. And we will be very happy if we meet our love, will be sad if separate with him. When I was in a high school. I was broken...

3 Aug 10

Do you contact you lover every day?

l415565972 @l415565972 (36) • China 2 Aug 10

Do you call you GF/BY every day? Do you chat her/him online every day? Do you think it is the best way to keep the feeling? Why I feel that is boring and disgusting? I desire a loveship when I was single. But, I desire free...

love

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2 people

Handayani Maybe some people think as like you. I have married for 7 years, and I had had a special relationship with my husband before married for 4 years, so If we sum, I have been together with him for 11 years. It's enough a long time. I have felt boring with him, I...

3 Aug 10

Someone loves you ever so much but......

ketybhagat @ketybhagat (4123) • India 28 Jul 10

I have a friend to whome I have always been close, like childhood friend. He is married and so am I. We both meet regularly as he is a family friend. I know he loves me a lot, has always loved me, but somehow I cant feel the same...

friend

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unrequited love

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Handayani I think when you decide to marry with somebody, not with your childhood friend, you must feel that your husband is better than your friend. You must share your happiness, your problems, your difficulties with your husband not with anyone else. You will hurt...

3 Aug 10

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how to fall in love? do you believe in love at first sight

nana813 @nana813 (11) • China 2 Aug 10

recently, a guy from my company condides to me that he wants to have further relationship with me. my gosh, i barely know him. it is true that he is relatively handsome and talented, but i do not know him. what if we get along...

love

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Handayani Why don't you try know him further, maybe start from you both have lunch together, then you can talking about your hobbies, spend holiday especially when weekend. or watching film in the cinema. I believe love at first sight, coz I can know somebody from his...

3 Aug 10

Will you marry the one you love or the one who loves you?

SimpleBB @SimpleBB (1329) • Philippines 30 Jul 10

Being romantic, of course you would love to marry the person you love. But there are cases that if someone follow her heart, some says that is a big mistakes especially when they turned to end their relationship for some reason...

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Handayani Really it's a difficult choice, if I can choose another option I will choose the one I love and he loves me too. But in this case maybe I will marry with the one who loves me. Why.... coz love will growth if two persons often do something together. Begin from...

31 Jul 10

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do you agree that marriage should be based only on money?

colorfulseafish @colorfulseafish (82) • China 30 Jul 10

we know that people become increasingly realistic these days.recently i watched a blind date programme.one girl says she would only marry someone who owns both a house and a car.and another girl says that if the man has no cars...

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Handayani It's good to be realistic. When we will build a serious relationship with somebody, I think we must see him from many aspect, his education, his family background, his job and of course his feeling. Does he love us with responsibility, coz I think it doesn't...

31 Jul 10

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Would you like to shopping?

octopus712 @octopus712 (53) • Thailand 30 Jul 10

I am a student. So i did not have much money to shopping. I am very into the plaza to watch all kind of shoes because there are all kind of little and large size. But the price is very high so i can not buy. Why are the popular...

shoes

shopping

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Handayani I have worked as administration staff in a high school, I love shopping. But I seldom go to mall or department store to buy anything, it have high prices and my salary is not enough to buy them. I live in a little town, i and my friend often go the market to...

31 Jul 10

would you prefer to be the teacher or the student?

p3ks626 @p3ks626 (6538) • Philippines 5 Jul 10

Some teacher say they prefer to be the students because students only study and dont have to worry about making the examination papers, computing the grades, attend boring meetings and teach. Some student also say they wanted to...

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Handayani I would prefer to be the student than the teacher, coz I have ever been to be both, a teacher and a student. When I teach students in a class I just pray to the God, students don't ask me about something difficult that I can't answer. You know I think It will...

31 Jul 10

I am in love with my teacher .Please help me

rtsh_gup @rtsh_gup (185) • India 30 Jul 10

I know it's a crime to fall in love with a teacher however I am not able to get him off my head.It was 2 years ago that I last saw him.He was a nice guy,a perfect gentleman,a girl like me who would be fortunate to,have him as a...

love

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Handayani No, you are not the only one going through your problem. I think nobody can't blame us if we are falling in love with somebody, it's so natural, so humanity to love somebody. I ever had problem like you, but he was not my teacher. He had been married too and I...

31 Jul 10

is your husband/wife your best friend?

alen1982 @alen1982 (63) • Philippines 11 Feb 10

i think so cause we know each others flaws and secrets... :)

friends

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Handayani My husband is my best friend when I share happiness, sorrow, disappointed etc. My husband is like my older brother who always ready to help me when I have problems. My husband will be my father when I make mistakes, he always forgives me. Really, my husband...

29 Jul 10

How to get ready to be a wife?

liweiwei0909 @liweiwei0909 (403) • China 28 Jul 10

Soon later, I will become a wife of my lover, and will have our own's family. Compared with the relatives and friends's pleasent, the more I feel is confused. I seem to see there would be so many thing that I don't know how to...

confused

ready

wife

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Handayani Every woman who just to be a wife will feel as like your's. 7 years ago when I just got married I felt that I had made a wrong decision, I was still young, I was not ready to have a child. I was confused how to be a good daughter in law, coz I live with my...

29 Jul 10

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Who were you in high school?

sisterjinx @sisterjinx (1135) • United States 2 May 09

And are you still that person today? In high school I was not the "popular" kid, nor was I a geek or nerd or any of that. Really I don't know if I had a "label". I guess you could say I was the manicly depressed chic...

high school

memories

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Handayani Really I am very proud to be my self when I was high school. Maybe all of student would call me a fortune girl, I was beautiful enough, easily to get the best mark for almost all lessons. Have a good confidence and many things else that I can't talk one by one...

28 Jul 10