proudmammabear

@proudmammabear (556)

Canada • Age 49

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what do you feel when someone say "you are so fat"

Tinna_He @Tinna_He (300) • China 26 Mar 09

Because i am fat,i always heard someone said to me "you are so fat and you should lose your weight".Maybe they are making a joke.But i always feel hurt.i will be fat even i only drink water.so it is difficult for me to lose...

fat

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proudmammabear Really, I am FAT.....and you know what, I have four beautiful kids that love me, a Hubby who would never leave my side, and I am who I am, if people choose to see what I am on the outside and judge me and not take the time to get to know who I really am on the...

27 Mar 09

Holy Crap. Am I the only one?

laglen @laglen (19759) • United States 20 Mar 09

Am I the only mother that chose to raise my toddler instead if sending them off to nursery/ preschool? My daughter was reading and adding and subtracting in kinder garden. She was VERY well adjusted socially, and now at 15 is...

kids

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proudmammabear Hello :) I sent 2 of my kids to pre-school and I kept one home with me. For my eldest, it was more because it was the "thing" to do...and I was very young so I went along with it. my next child was in daycare while I went to University, and I worked with her...

21 Mar 09

How do you stay connected to teen agers?

laglen @laglen (19759) • United States 19 Mar 09

I have a fifteen year old. I feel her growing up and not needing me as much. I stay as involved as I can with out smothering her. I drive her to and from school, give rides to her friends. This way, they chatter and I hear what is...

family

teens

time spent

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proudmammabear I think you are doing an amazing job!!!! I have 4 kids, my oldest is a son he is 14, my next is a daughter and she is 11, the next two are boys and they are 6 and 3. With the older two we will get the younger ones to bed nd we sit, watch t.v and talk. We...

21 Mar 09

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How to explain to children about money troubles

Shar19 @Shar19 (8236) • United States 20 Mar 09

With the problems with the economy money is really tight. My husband hasn't been getting much work lately (he's self employed) and I'm trying my best to find ways to help out with the family finances. I've been trying to explain...

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proudmammabear I have been there! It is a very difficult thing to make little ones understand about money. I think that if you can get her mind off of things it may help you. Perhaps when she asks to go out to eat or get take out, you could again tell her, well I have...

21 Mar 09

Holding your child back in Kindergarten

luvmysons @luvmysons (497) • United States 20 Mar 09

I have a 3 year old son. He was born on November 24 which is a week before the cutoff with school. Right now he is in nursery school and I already signed him up for Pre-K. He is seriously the baby of the class. All the kids are...

kids

kindergarten

school

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proudmammabear Here in Canada, where I am our cut off is January 31st. I have 3 end of the year babies, two in October (23 & 24) and one December baby (10th) They all started at 4 years old. I haven't had any regrets in doing so, at least academically. However even though...

21 Mar 09

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Parenting Test... how do you measure up?

dismalgrin @dismalgrin (2604) • United States 17 Mar 09

I recently took a parenting evaluation and was asked some interesting questions. They kept saying there were no right or wrong answers, but I'm not sure I believe that. Anyhow, I thought it would be interesting to post the...

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proudmammabear 1. I would pick up the bowl, say "no, no we don't throw our food on the floor" then get a cloth and take them out of the high chair, and let them help me clean it up. 2.If my child had the toy first and was playing with it, I would tell the other child "he's...

19 Mar 09

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Do you consider yourself lucky?

mamalev @mamalev (264) • Philippines 19 Mar 09

I was watching dr. phil on tv (he was a constant guest in Oprah) and the topic was parenting. The first one is about a woman who adopted a child with disability. The second was about a mother of a 12-yr-old who has down syndrome...

lucky

normal problems

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proudmammabear I have 4 beautiful healthy children. I am extremely lucky. However, I have a great neice who has downs and is a heart baby, and you know what? My neice (her mother) is also very lucky, as am I to have such a beautiful little girl in our world! We have never...

19 Mar 09

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Bedtimes for kids.

callahanb78 @callahanb78 (529) • United States 7 Mar 09

I have 4 kids and have been dicussing and going over bedtimes recently. Currently the older 3 go to bed usually at 8 or :3pm on weekdays. On the weekends if they are busy its usually 8:30pm o 9pm but if they aren't then depending...

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proudmammabear Well I have 4 kids as well. Ages 14, 11, 6, and 3. The 6 and 3 year old are in bed at 7- 7:30. My older two, depending on how their attitudes and behaviors have been that day will go to bed between 9 pm and 10 pm. Children need to have a sufficient amount of...

9 Mar 09

Need help

cher8558 @cher8558 (425) • Canada 9 Mar 09

Hi friends, I really need some input for my oldest son. He is just turned 23. He has been with his girlfriend for five years. I must tell you they have been through some very tough personal times. In the last year however, they...

heartbroken son

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proudmammabear I think the most important thing is to let him know that you are there for him, that break ups may suck. That yes it is going to hurt, but that at the same time, he has responsibilities that he needs to still be taking care of, and that going out, partying and...

9 Mar 09

Is it speech problem

maygodblessu44 @maygodblessu44 (7336) • India 9 Mar 09

Hello everyone here Ji, We have our grand-children ( a daughter and a son- daughter to my daughter and son to my son), both were born on 11-Apr-07 an d19 Apr-07 respectively. My grand-son was born earlier. But to our...

parenting

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proudmammabear It is so hard, because they are born so close together, that comparing them probably comes naturally and without thought. Boys are usually a little slower in speech development. There are also some factors that play a role, like prolonged use of a soother (...

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Why this veginal bleeding?

akumei1269 @akumei1269 (1749) • India 9 Mar 09

My wife's urine has tested positive in home pregnancy test today and day before yesterday.But some spot bleeding form her vegina is still seen. Unfortunately, we forgot mentioning this abnormal bleeding while consulting the...

pregnancy issue

veginal bleeding

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proudmammabear It would depend on a variety of factors, like for example how early on in the pregnancy she is. There have been people that I know, as well as myself who continue to spot during the early stages of pregnancy. With some, they continue on through out the...

9 Mar 09

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Do your child obsessed with shooting game only?

akumei1269 @akumei1269 (1749) • India 9 Mar 09

My son who is 6+ years of age, is obsessed with playing with toy guns and some dummy of it. He immitates the characters of animation films like Ben 10 etc.Physical sports like football. racing, cricket etc. are not liked by him....

brain game

children games

shooting games

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proudmammabear I think that 6 years may be too young to allow him to play with toy weapons,and shooting games. Because they are not able to understand fully the difference between reality and fantacy at that age. If it is causing problems like he is not wanting to play...

9 Mar 09

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I hate you!!!

miamilady @miamilady (4910) • United States 2 Mar 09

Do your children ever say this to you? If they do, how do you react? Does it hurt your feelings? Anger you? Is it a sign of disrespect, in your opinion, or are they just expressing their anger and frustration? I have heard...

anger

disrespect

feelings

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proudmammabear Well since they are usually saying "I Hate You" because they are trying to hurt you, trying to elicit a response from you. My daughter was bad for saying "I Hate You" At first it really bothered me, and I would go into the whole it's not proper to say "Hate"...

3 Mar 09

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1 person

What is the best age to start education?

Sreekala @Sreekala (34312) • India 28 Feb 09

Hi friends, Normally kids are going to play school after two years of age. My son also started to go play school after he completed the age of 2. Now also he is not serious in his studies. If I sit with him then only he read...

best age

education

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proudmammabear I think that alot of it has to do with the maturity of the child, and whether that child is ready or not. My oldest went to pre-school when he was 3 turning 4 years old,He is quiet, sullen and sensitive and he did really well with just that year, and is a...

1 Mar 09

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Please don't touch my child

Shar19 @Shar19 (8236) • United States 23 Feb 09

I was at my grandmother's nursing home the other day and was standing there talking to a few people in the hallway. One of the residents there saw me and my son standing there. As she walked by she patted my sons hair. Now I know...

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proudmammabear I think what is important here is that you were in a nursing home, what do many of those people have to look forward to in their lives? Maybe they don't have family, or family that doesn't care to visit, or cannot visit too often. They see a child and see...

24 Feb 09

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Should boys be asked to help their mom in the kitchen?If so at what age ?

pickwick @pickwick (858) • India 2 Feb 09

I feel that boys should be made to help their moms in the kitchen .My husband feels that kitchen is womans world and does not feel it is right to help me there.My mother -in-law proudly says that she never made her son do any...

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proudmammabear Well, dear I will tell you this your MIL and Hubby should get out of the dark ages!!!!! My kids (I have 4, and 3 are boys) have been helping in the kitchen since the age of 1 and 1/2 years of age, and I see nothing wrong with it. I am not doing it because of...

3 Feb 09

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1 person

Do you love completely or do you hold back a little ?

ronnyb @ronnyb (6113) • Jamaica 1 Feb 09

Many persons claim you should never love completely just in case the relationship fails you will be able to move on. Is this how you love ? Is this love any at all if you hold back and also isn’t this relationship more likely to...

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proudmammabear It is my belief that you can and should love completely. Loving completely means having a companionate love that you share with another person, the kind of love that if you minus the kids, minus the career, minus the youthful bodies, that you would still have...

2 Feb 09