desertsong

@desertsong (94)

Philippines • Age 36

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which is important friend or lover??????

j1a2g3a4n5 @j1a2g3a4n5 (141) • India 24 Jan 11

do u think is friend is important than a lover???? on my opinion friend is first preference... wat about you??

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desertsong I think friends are more important because they are always there for you in tough situations and they last forever no matter what happens in your life. Lovers just come and go and they are not always reliable. Although a lover is needed in life, it is not as...

3 Feb 11

Do you get mad if your husband looks at pretty, young girls?

aileen2008 @aileen2008 (838) • Philippines 26 Jan 11

Hey wives out there, do you get jealous of this actions of your husband? If he looks at other girls, do you feel annoyed? In the first place do we have to feel annoyed? I used to think that I will not mind this, because often I...

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desertsong I believe that it is human nature. Before, I used to be mad with my husband looking at pretty girls, but somehow I came to understand that it is really human nature, because I find myself looking too..haha.. Pretty girls are really nice to look at to, so I...

3 Feb 11

Do you lie sometimes to your husband that you help your family?

careguarden @careguarden (5670) • Philippines 1 Feb 11

I can see that there are lots of wives lie their husband because they didn't want to argue about helping their family. Sometimes, when my brother asked me about small money as his allowance, I didn't tell my husband about this...

making lie

partner

relationship

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desertsong Yeah, there might be other people who lie to their partners about helping their families, but I don't think it's a good idea. If your husband finds out that you'd been doing that behind his back, it might actually lead to greater dispute. If you have a good...

3 Feb 11

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Do you get along well with your brothers and sister at home ?

wildlittlefan @wildlittlefan (4680) • Hong Kong 2 Feb 11

Sometimes, I hope that I can have sisters at home but Unfortunately, I only have brothers and I am the youngest of four in my family.I think it is good to have boys and girls together at home and make the family a place to learn...

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desertsong Hi. I think I have to disagree with you that kids who doesn't have brothers or sisters find it hard to communicate with other people. My husband is an only child and he is a very chatty person. He even makes more friends than I do because he is good in...

3 Feb 11

Mobile Secrecy Of Husband and Wife Necessary?

visavis @visavis (5934) • Philippines 2 Feb 11

Married troubles are having various ways of sources, like ego or pride of both husband and wife, jealousy, no forgive and forget method and many many more. How about secrecy of husband and wife to...

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desertsong I think it would be better for both parties to not have any forms of secrecy from each other especially with regards to mobile phones. It would kill me not to know of my husband's affairs, it doesn't mean that I don't trust him it's just that I would be much...

2 Feb 11

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Any tips to put up with missing someone too much?

LightninStrike @LightninStrike (5915) • Saint Vincent And The Grenadines 2 Feb 11

Hi everyone. For my personal circumstances I spend most of my time away and from and with no contact with the person that I love. I know that reality is not the way we would like it to be, so I have to assume it and deal with it,...

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desertsong Hi. I feel the same way when I was just in college. We go to the same school together but he was from other place that is 8 hours travel from my place and he was older than me. When he graduated, he has to go back to their place because work was already...

2 Feb 11

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What makes you stay with your current partner?

gengeni @gengeni (3308) • Indonesia 2 Feb 11

This question mainly to couples who are not married or planning to get married. Ever hear the words ... Love is blind. That's right, we should not be blinded by love who can make us act rationally insoluble in...

partner

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desertsong I don't also believe that love is blind. Love actually sees but it neverminds perhaps. We will always have imperfections, that's what makes us human. But despite these imperfections there will always be someone who will be willing to accept us. I think that's...

2 Feb 11

We love each other more and more

Polang @tkonlinevn (6438) • Vietnam 27 Jan 11

People usually say that love will be worn-out following time. But I realize that I and my boyfriend are not. We love each other about 2 years. We'll get married on this June. I must say that I don't love him much in the...

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desertsong I think for some people that is a normal situation. It actually depends on how the two of you are handling your relationship together. Others may have their love for their partners died out because of things that had gone through in the relationship and there...

1 Feb 11

My boyfriend is 20 and I am 21,what do you think of girl older than the boy

emilieyang @emilieyang (94) 30 Jan 11

Many people say that the age, the height or any other things won't be a problem if you two really fall in love. But in this relationship, I am older than my boyfriend , also a little more mature than he does. In my opinion, he...

love boyfriend

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desertsong The best thing to do in this situation is to break up with him. You cannot keep up on a realtionship that has no mutual affection. It will sooner or later come to an end. You cannot also give false hopes to the guy, that will hurt him even more. It is better...

31 Jan 11

Who do you think is the heartbreaker, the guys or the ladies?

dk0245 @dk0245 (8) • Singapore 30 Jan 11

Hi guys, my friend has just recently broke up with his boyfriend. So there was a very hot debate and discussion regarding who is the heartbreaker. So I had this very interesting question and would like to see what do you...

breakup

heartbreaker

realationship

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desertsong I agree with everyone's comments here that gender has nothing to do with who initiates the break up the most. It depends on the situation of the relationship and who gets fed up first or realizes that they are on the wrong commitment.

31 Jan 11

Who runs the relationship? Who's the pants in your relationship?

Michelle @infatuatedbby (94914) • United States 30 Jan 11

Someone always runs the pants in the relationship. When asked this question, both automatically go "me, me" but I guess usually we think we are but when others view us, they think differently. How about you? Who wears ths...

relationships

ruler

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desertsong When me and my partner are just starting in our relationship, I used to decide a lot for both of us. I think the one who has more brains gets to decide a lot. I'm not saying though that he's dumb but he relies mostly on my decisions. And now that we are living...

31 Jan 11

Love without friendship

xxj3ffxx @xxj3ffxx (501) • Australia 25 Jan 11

Everyone knows that every love relationship starts with friendship. The fact that people prefer friendship so as to know each other.. But nowadays people do things express way.. skip the friendship and go for love...

friendship

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desertsong Well, I think it's okay if you start out as lovers and then you end being bestfriends on the long run. I would say the same for myself. My partner and I started out as lovers right away not knowing the flaws and bad personality of each other. Then later as our...

29 Jan 11

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does your spouse need to be your best friend?

gfeef01 @gfeef01 (537) 26 Jan 11

I'm struggling with this question. I married some months ago and so I'm sill getting used to being a wife. But i find it difficult when he talks about his 'best friend' and means a female who has known him for some years and...

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desertsong If my partner would have the same bestfriend and knowing that it's a woman, envy is defintiely gonna kill me. I cannot live with that. I'm the type of person who generally gets jealous if there is a woman friend even if they are not doing something wrong. But...

29 Jan 11

Will you still love him/her or you'll forget him/her?

rifnee @rifnee (1713) • Indonesia 26 Jan 11

If one day you have a lover, as long as you're in a relationship, very smooth, but within a few months she began to change, every time you contact him/her, no response at all,. until you feel confused what mistakes you've done,...

sorry

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desertsong Hmmm.... if I hadn't done anything for him to be mad at me and suddenly get cold on me, then I would think that maybe he doesn't like me anymore or has found someone that he likes more than me. That would be the worst scenarios. And then suddenly, maybe they...

28 Jan 11

can you blame my friend if her love with her husband has already gone?

asliah @asliah (11137) • Philippines 26 Jan 11

can you blame my friend if her love with her husband has already gone? her husband is lazy and irresponsible man, he dont even pursue in life to gave a good life with his family and damn having an affair with another...

blame

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desertsong If I were on the same situation, I would have left that man already. Your friend deserve someone better. So it's defintiely alright if she doens't have feelings for the husband anymore. The man is a total jerk,.

28 Jan 11

The Long and Short of it?

Humbug25 @Humbug25 (12540) 27 Jan 11

I was just wondering today about what guys prefer. I mean, as I understand it, most chaps out there prefer their ladies to have long hair. Well most men I have come across recently have all said that they prefer women to have long...

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desertsong Yeah. I also wonder the same. Why do men love long hair? My partner likes my hair long and doesn't want me to cut it above the shoulders. It's definitely hot in our country and having a long hair just adds up to the problem. Well, he doen't have the decision...

28 Jan 11

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Spying To Know If They Are Faithful And Loyal

Secret @IntrovertShy (2780) • Marikina, Philippines 27 Jan 11

I heard a DJ on a radio asking if to spy a partner is okay with them, so that they would know their partner if they're being faithful and loyal. I heard various response from the callers. Some said, spying was not good so it's not...

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desertsong I definitely aGREE with you! It's not that I don't trust my partner because I spy on him. I trust him, it's just that men aren't perfect individuals, and no matter how much weight you put on the word trust, men always be men. And you can never be sure of the...

28 Jan 11

GREAT LOVE comes once....

khikay83 @khikay83 (21) • Philippines 27 Jan 11

In my life falling in love was a wonderful feeling. it was indescribable, and sometimes you look stupid when your in love. but i was so confused between the First Love and the Great Love? Is your First love will always be the...

been in love

relationship

so in love

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desertsong I think you're a bit confusing too. First love also comes once right? By the thought of it, it was your firt love, so definitely it is only one. Great love would be the person that you have fallen deeply in love with and got you done all the impossible things...

28 Jan 11