kimL

@kimilawini (111)

Philippines • Age 40

Joined myLot 12 years ago

Looking to the bright side of things!

Responses (85)

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I can't control my nervous

tedifa @tedifa (1232) • Indonesia 17 Oct 12

Sometimes i come to important meeting or speaking in front of some people.But till now i still can't control my nervous.It was shame and become a problem for me.I can't speak well,and what i am thinking always gone cause of my...

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kimL Personally, I am not that good at speaking publicly, but it helps a lot when you take long deep breaths before speaking (can be done backstage or before you go to the meeting), prep your self up saying to yourself that you have good things going for you and...

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Why is it said that there is no place for emotions in the corporate world?

subhojit10 @subhojit10 (7375) • India 28 Sep 12

hey guys, i wanted to know why people say that there is no place for emotions and relationships in the corporate world? Is it because people are blind and running after money and power or is it that they are all running to cut...

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kimL There's bound to be complications later on.. Not unless you as a couple working in the same company set rules that clearly divide your professional and love life. Another perception: when emotions override someone in the office, decision-making is blurred....

16 Oct 12

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wants or needs

igatiful_badass @igatiful_badass (1222) • Philippines 7 Jun 11

Do you identify things that you want or your needs? What is really the wants and what is really the needs? Which one is important most? mmmmmm...

wants and needs

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kimL Hmm.. You need a mobile phone so that it'll be convenient to contact you (or you to contact someone).. What model to buy? You would NEED the basic SMS and call function, but would WANT a unit with a motion sensor, adroid series model.. That's the difference...

16 Oct 12

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money and health

Nnaemeka @mydanods (6513) • Nigeria 15 Oct 12

is there a condition or ailment that having "too much wealth" causes? i hear a lot about money not giving or bringing happiness. i was wondering if there is an emotional, psychological or physical health condition money causes....

health

money

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kimL Well some who already have a lot still want some more.. That becomes a problem. When you get too preoccupied with getting more, you become obsessed with the idea, you get sleepless nights, you become paranoid that someone might be following you and plans to...

16 Oct 12

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"money,money, money makes the world g o around?" I thought it was love

Patsie Hatley @Hatley (163776) • Garden Grove, California 15 Oct 12

Somewhere from some long past past I got a ditty going in my mind and I think it wasd all the questioins from newbies about why is the mylot logo green. am not sure now is it money, money money m akes the world go around not...

love not money make tne world go around

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kimL Question is: which one do you prioritize? That makes your world go 'round.. :)

16 Oct 12

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Is it important to seek for your parents blessings before marriage?

Paper_Doll @Paper_Doll (2373) • Philippines 13 Oct 12

How important is parental blessings in marriage? As I've always seen this wordings in many wedding invitations I've received. This is same wordings (with the blessings of our parents) I've read in my friend's wedding invitation...

blessings

marriage

parents

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kimL I would always prefer a harmonious marriage, wherein I have my family's blessing and I have a spouse to share life with. It's very difficult to be happy on your wedding day knowing that your parents feel sore about the marriage.. And what makes it worse is the...

16 Oct 12

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Lover or parents

tinetine161992 @tinetine161992 (431) • Philippines 14 Oct 12

What if your parents dont want your lover? People say your parents knows best but others believe love conquers all. Would you fight for your love or obey your parents?

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kimL First, ask your parents what makes your lover icky to them.. Parents always seem to have alarm sets about them that goes off when their children is about to get into trouble, and personally, I do trust these early warning devices. :) When it's because of...

16 Oct 12

who can write?

maurya83 @maurya83 (923) • India 15 Oct 12

I was thinking about this from last few days and wanted to post it on mylot..I read some writers' interview in magazines and news-papers and they said on their writing skills like- its natural, it can't be skilled by doing courses...

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kimL Very much like teaching.. It does not necessitate that given one's intelligence and experience, s/he can effectively teach. Pretty much with writing. Everyone can write. True. But not everyone gets the message across, even though s/he may have written 10 pages...

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a m ylotter told me she got a phonecall from a hater here at M ylotl

Patsie Hatley @Hatley (163776) • Garden Grove, California 11 Oct 12

I am thinking if someone did not like my posts why not walk on by. As the admins says in the guidelines its no fun getting mean and insulting responses we are told to play nice. Of course I know that m mylot encompasses many...

if you dislike the post and the person just b y p

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kimL i'm guessing that whoever that hater is, i'm betting that the one s/he hates struck a nerve.. It may not be intentional but definitely the hater took that as something against him/her. In that case, should the hater continue to harass then let the authorities...

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What Internet means to me...at personal level..

vanny @vandana7 (100526) • India 8 Oct 12

I know I have answered this a couple of times under myLot category. But here I am sharing something with you that would make you sad as well as hopefully happy. I am unmarried. I dont have kids. I dont have good set of...

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kimL Being human entails us being social animals as well.. We can't live alone, all the more die alone.. I'd like you to see things differently especially when someone drops by and asks you how was your day. Be thankful because even if others may just consider it a...

9 Oct 12

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Tantrums

tinetine161992 @tinetine161992 (431) • Philippines 9 Oct 12

Temper tantrums from whining and crying to screaming , kicking, hitting and many more. Most of kids do these temper tantrums. Especially if they are misunderstood and if you don't give what they want. And it was one of the...

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kimL When a kid does something that gets him what he wants, he'll use that tactics again and again.. The thing is to stop him from doing this. You, as the parent, will have to learn to say 'no' and be firm about it. If, for instance, your son goes into a temper...

9 Oct 12

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How can I avoid this site?

Samson Ogola @Jatelo2 (166) • Nairobi, Kenya 26 Sep 12

I'm mo0stly online and I do take great care that I surf responsibly. However there is this adult site that I can't avoid however much I try to restrict myself. Anybody feeling helpless as I am? Or just help me with tips on how...

adult sites

internet usage

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kimL Ask yourself: what draws your attention to those sites? Do you feel good after you've been there? Is it productive? Will it add more knowledge? You see, when people engage in an activity repetitively, then the activity must be rewarding. But then, if it...

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I want to take a class. What should I take?

raydene @raydene (9871) • United States 6 Oct 12

So I'll soon be 62. Disabled but mobile. Love and am good at many crafts. Like to read. Have many interests. I feel I need to stimulate my brain. So what class should I take? Thanks

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kimL Hmm have you thought of something that you you didn't know yet but would love to learn it? :)

6 Oct 12

Rejection

rubyroy @rubyroy (824) • India 3 Oct 12

My friend feels dejected,when somebody doesn't like her ideas,she didn't talk to me for one week and ignored me for more than two weeks.That is she will reply to my questions and nothing more.Since I am a good friend of hers she...

counseling

ignore

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kimL Wow. It's nice that you've suggested counseling, but maybe she got the wrong message when you mentioned psychiatric.. I think her case would still be manageable under a Guidance Counselor.. If she goes amok with your contradictions, then that's when a shrink...

6 Oct 12

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Cheating Hearts

hmkoct5 @hmkoct5 (2065) • United States 4 Oct 12

Would you want your friends to tell you if they knew your husband was cheating? The answer for me is definitely yes. I have a real problem with being lied to and misled. If I had a friend who knew the truth, I would really want to...

rel

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kimL One of the considerations most of the time is your emotional strength to be able to handle the news. Sometimes friends hesitate to tell us that kind of truth because they feel that we are not emotionally strong to handle the news. But then, if they know and...

6 Oct 12

Taking pics before eating

asdomencil @asdomencil (4265) • Philippines 26 Sep 12

I just noticed especially in my facebook friends that whenever they eat in a reataurant or fastfood, most of them take pics of their food before eating and posting it afterwards in social media they had. I am guilty with this one...

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kimL I'd like to think that when people take pix of what they're about to eat, they'd actually want to remember what they have eaten, especially so if the occasion was something special. I, for one, take pix of something that I eat too, though not on a regular...

5 Oct 12

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when a man is crying ,what do you think of ...

freedang @freedang (320) • China 22 Aug 12

hi everyone people around me ofen say that as a man,you should not cry no matter how hopeless you are.but in my life i ofen felt the feeling that want to drop my tears.have you ever see some male cry? when you see a man is...

cry

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kimL A man who breaks down his defense and cries is probably one of the bravest people I know. It takes so much for a man to cry.. and when he eventually does, I never regarded that as a sign of weakness. Men, no matter how much they value their machismo, is still...

5 Oct 12

Share On

Amber @AmbiePam (93739) • United States 5 Oct 12

It made me sad to see a post from a wonderful mylotter who had something bad happen in her life, yet she felt somewhat apologetic for sharing that sad news with mylot. And it's because there have been discussions admonishing...

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kimL This is a very dear encouragement and it's nice to hear that someone encourages people to speak up. I am thinking that whoever this apologetic person is, he/she is not used to opening things up with people, and obviously he/she showed discomfort at having to...

5 Oct 12

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When was the last time you Cried?

Nightshade13 @Nightshade13 (74) • Philippines 27 Sep 12

Hi Mylotters! Good day! "When was the last time i Cried?" this is the question that comes to my mind when I'm all alone in my room just sitting and having my coffee in the morning, i just realize that i haven't cried for a...

cried

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kimL Well I do recall receiving a quote explaining that we all need to cry once in a while.. because tears wash away what laughter sometimes can't. It's never a sign of weakness to cry. It's just a release of pent up emotions.. Uhmm, a kind of unloading. Notice...

5 Oct 12

boyfriend advice

smundler123 @smundler123 (7) 4 Nov 09

When guys have no money, do you think it is wise to ask a woman out and become a couple. My story is that i really liked this girl, i was gonna ask her out, but because i had hardly any money and i was in no position to get a job....

love

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kimL Honey, my hubby and I started out having only to walk through parks, not requiring us to spend. You're in that stage where you're searching for that special girl. I'd be telling you, if that girl that you're eyeing goes wide-eyes when you bring out your...

5 Oct 12