bontheka

@bontheka (65)

Hong Kong • Age 54

Joined myLot 16 years ago

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Are you affected peoples comments about you?

mely123 @mely123 (65) • Philippines 26 Jun 08

There are some people who are affected about comments about him or her. He or she worried to recieved negative comments. I know negative things will shape you more.

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negative

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bontheka If someone says something negative to me, I usually try and explain or justify if I think I'm right, but I won't simply go on the defensive. It however does upset me very much and I find that I can't easily forget what's been said. I am usually very thoughtful...

26 Jun 08

ttc

sugaredprincess @sugaredprincess (66) 4 May 08

Hi All, For those trying to conceive, how long have you been trying for and do you take any supplements like folic acid etc?

pregnancy

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bontheka I plan to start trying for my 3rd next month, but if it doesn't happen next month, then we're going to take a few months break before we start trying again. It's just that we'll be moving in a year's time and I want to make sure that I've either already had...

24 Jun 08

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How would you feel if you lost your kids?...

xXxMikesWifeyxXx @xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072) • United States 16 Jun 08

I have a friend,who husband and her agreed to let the granparents take their 2 kids for a few months. well a few months is now almost a year. and before i knew her they had the one child for 7 months. so for about 1 year out of...

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bontheka My older brother and his wife both work. She's a flight attendant so sometimes she's got a stretch of days off, then other times, she's away on work for up to 2 weeks. They've got two daughters. The elder girl will be 5 in September and the younger one will be...

16 Jun 08

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Officer kills man who beat child to death - This is just terrible.

lloydanthony111 @lloydanthony111 (4698) • United States 15 Jun 08

This is one of the worse stories I've read in a long time. Can someone please tell me what is going on in the minds of some people. Since the man who committed this crime is already dead, there is no use saying what should be...

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bontheka I'm a mother to two little boys under the age of 4. It makes me sick to hear of something like this. Why did the coward have to vent his rage on the poor, defenceless child? If he hated the baby so much, it would have been better if he'd just put a bullet to...

16 Jun 08

any natural way to reduced the belly of pregnancy?

cheri_janine @cheri_janine (115) • Philippines 13 Jun 08

After pregnancy, I got even bigger belly because of the effect of pregnancy. Do you have any natural way on how to reduce it?

belly of pregnancy

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bontheka I don't have an answer for you as I'm in the same boat. After two kids, I didn't have a problem with shedding the pregnancy weight, not that I'd put on much extra weight to start with, but I do have a jelly belly. Quite often, I have a bloated belly as well,...

13 Jun 08

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how many referral you have on mylot

onthetop @onthetop (193) • United States 12 Jun 08

i dont have any right now.... how many you have......

referral

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bontheka I sent out referral emails to 3 friends whom I thought might sign up. I was quite pleased when 2 of them did. Unfortunately, that is all they've done so far. They're totally inactive. I don't want to chase them about it. It's really up to them. I'm new to all...

12 Jun 08

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Sorry about what I said

dlm6171 @dlm6171 (60) • Trinidad And Tobago 10 Jun 08

last night while having a discussion about life in general, I told my husband that if I had to life my life over I would choose to remain single and have no children. It is not that I do not have a wonderful marriage but sometimes...

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bontheka No, I don't think you're being selfish. If I were to say you're being selfish, then I'll have to give myself the same label. I'm a stay-at-home mum to two kids and I usually wish that I hadn't got married and had children, following an arguement with my...

10 Jun 08

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What does it mean?

Simoneetah @Simoneetah (420) • Canada 5 Jun 08

Have you ever heard words used and just don't know what they mean? You hear them all the time but one day you finally ask "What does that mean anyway?" I was reading a post and the person wrote "contempt" and "disdain". Now I've...

meaning

understanding

words

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bontheka Yes, there are words that I too have heard many times, but wasn't too sure about the meaning or simply didn't know. I'm usually too lazy to check out the meaning. Sometimes, I ask my husband and he'll try to explain it to me. Worst bit is, when people use it...

5 Jun 08

Do you tell anyone you are trying?

surveygrrl @surveygrrl (1270) • United States 4 Jun 08

We are TTC now and I have told a couple of my friends but other than that we don't tell at all. Do you tell anyone that you are trying to have a baby?

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bontheka I don't think we did with the first one when we were actively trying, and with the second one it was more of an 'oops'. Now we're thinking of trying for a 3rd, and I have told some friends about it. The thing is, if it doesn't happen, then you can get support...

4 Jun 08

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Children/Social Life

susanz9 @susanz9 (8) • United States 3 Jun 08

I have been a stay at home mom for about 4 1/2 years now. Since I've quit partying I have no friends. I go to church but still haven't found one. I was wondering if there was someone that needed a friend too. I have a total of 5...

children

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bontheka Hi Susanz9, I have been a stay at home mum since my eldest boy was born in Sept 2004. I have a second child who was born in Aug 2006. He was born a month after we moved to Hong Kong, where we are currently residing. I had lived in Hong Kong prior to moving...

3 Jun 08

is ever late to say sorry

megaplaza @megaplaza (1441) • Nigeria 2 Jun 08

i always wonder if it is ever late in our life to say sorry to people we have offended, like how will you feel if someone offends you and comes out 2 years or 10 years later to say am sorry for what happened the other time, will...

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bontheka Saying sorry is not easy for anyone because it's admitting one's fault, and people don't like admiting they were at fault. I'm wondering what I will do if someone I used to be friends with came and said sorry for ending the friendship. The friendship ended...

2 Jun 08

How many diamond ring do you have?

abhishek_138 @abhishek_138 (439) • India 2 Jun 08

I have a diamond ring. It has 9 small diamond. My ring is gold ring and diamonds are on top. But I want to purchase a single piece diamond platinum ring in future. It is my dream. Now all of you tell me how many do u have,or...

diamond ring

engagement ring

ring

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bontheka I agree with angemac23. You should watch the movie 'Blood Diamonds' starring Leonardo Caprio, if you haven't already. I don't have a diamond ring even as an engagement ring. My then fiancee (now husband) wanted to get me a diamond ring but my mum said...

2 Jun 08

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Need to be verified?!

roxanne271 @roxanne271 (2034) • Trinidad And Tobago 31 May 08

Hi mylotters, I just received some funds into my unverified paypal account and I had made an arrangement with a friend a while back for an item. Now that I have money in my paypal and I am able to pay for the item...I see that I...

sending funds

unverified paypal

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bontheka Roxanne271, I'm glad you brought this up. I opened a paypal account to pay for something online but used my credit card. I have yet to verify my paypal account and wanted to but they were asking for my debit card details. I have a joint account with my husband...

1 Jun 08

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I hope to adopt a little girl from Sichuan earthquake

youless @youless (112561) • Guangzhou, China 1 Jun 08

This earthquake broke many happy families. And there are many children lost their own home. Besides donating money, I don't know what more I can do. Until I read the news about a little girl who was rescued. But her parents all...

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bontheka I just read yesterday about people in China wanting to adopt the orphaned children from the Sichuan earthquake. The authorities are saying that they need to establish that the children are indeed orphaned, but they are also trying to find out if the children...

1 Jun 08

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should we move out after marriage???

alcazar @alcazar (761) • India 1 Jun 08

I am from india.And what happens over here is that the guys and gals stay with their families till their marriage and move out once they are married.I find it wrong ..... What do you think???

moving out after marriage

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bontheka I was born in Malaysia but I'm of Indian origin. I thought that in India, after marriage, the girl has to stay with the boy and his family, especially if he is the eldest. So what you're telling me is that isn't the case at all? Anyway, no, I don't find...

1 Jun 08

long distance relationship (LDR)

eccentricmoi @eccentricmoi (206) • Philippines 31 May 08

anyone out there who have been there, done that? did you manage to survive, if so, how? would you care to spill some thoughts? or if you didn't manage to pull through, why did you decide to end it? is LDR really worth doing? if...

distance

long distance relationship

love

sacrifice

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bontheka I was in at least 2 long distance relationships. The first one, I knew was heading nowhere as it was always me who made the effort to keep in touch. When he finally decided to end it because he felt it was difficult to maintain it, I was upset but relieved at...

1 Jun 08

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Have You Ever Googled Yourself?

kenzie45230 @kenzie45230 (3560) • United States 30 May 08

Have you ever Googled your real name? Or any of the user names or member names you use? You might be surprised at what you find. Have you ever done a Google alert on yourself or someone about whom you wanted to keep track? I...

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bontheka Yes, I've googled my name before and no, it's not on the internet, at least not my real name. I hope to someday have my name on the internet for having done something substantial...

31 May 08

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Do you wear glasses, contact lenses, or none?

biobio55 @biobio55 (281) • Indonesia 30 May 08

I am wearing contact lenses at day time. At night time, before sleeps, I wear my glasses. I have a bad eye sight and I want to get a lasik procedure. Lasik is an eye correction procedure. But, I don't know if it is safe and I...

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bontheka Everyone in my class was made to go for an eye test when I was 12 and I was shocked when I found it difficult to read some of the letters, and next thing I know, I was told that I needed a pair of glasses. I was and still am quite disappointed at having to...

31 May 08

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