youdontsay

@youdontsay (3497)

United States • Age 82

Joined myLot 17 years ago

Bloom where you are planted.

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How do you make a difference everyday?

sjsum99 @sjsum99 (27) • United States 24 Jan 10

I am firm believer in making a little difference everyday to improve my world. I believe that if everyone did something everyday to help someone else, or the planet, that the world would be a much better place. What do you do to...

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youdontsay I'm with you! My quest is to be a blessing to someone every day. I'm not always aware of having succeeded every day, but with that as my vision it happens more often than not. I crochet afghans for Project Linus and I am the chair of our church's Ministry...

1 Feb 10

This is wheelchair accessible?

estherlou @estherlou (5015) • United States 31 Jan 10

Like most people, I've never paid much attention to wheelchair ramps at restaurants. I never thought twice about using the handicap stall in a public restroom if it was available. I remember noticing people parking in handicap...

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youdontsay Me too! I'm grateful that I can still manage to stand and walk into the toilet stalls from my wheelchair. But because I am so big it can be a challenge to use the small stalls. I can make it onto the toilet seat, but with the toilet paper on one wall and the...

1 Feb 10

Haiti Relief Fund

Skittlez352 @Skittlez352 (216) • United States 24 Jan 10

I wonder how much money has been raised for the Haiti Relief Fund. Do you believe that there is an excessive amount of money being sent to Haiti or do you think it will still not be enough? After watching the celebrity Relief...

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youdontsay I don't know that there could be too much money for saving and developing Haiti. First of all, all the things they need urgently cost money. It costs money to transport the needed items after they are purchased. It costs money to operate the machinery and...

25 Jan 10

Go along to get along...

ElicBxn @ElicBxn (63594) • United States 25 Jan 10

Have you ever done this? You say "Sure, okay" when you really think - "WHATEVER!" So, you end up maybe doing something you might not really want to do, but its easier than arguing. Now, my friends know I don't get along...

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youdontsay Oh, yes. I believe it is always best to choose your battles. If there is no real value in disagreeing then I can go along. But if going along really is against what I believe in and value, I'd have to think long and hard about not doing what I believe. I...

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How Did You Pay For College?

Deborah L. Alten @gtargirl (5376) • United States 11 Jan 10

Rich parents? Scholarships and financial aid? Or did you work your way through? And if you are parents with college bound kids, are you prepared to pay for some or all of it? I have one child working her way through school . ....

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youdontsay I went to college when I was in my mid-thirties. I had scholarships and student loans, lots of student loans! I was thrilled when I was able to pay off those loans before I retired! I was a single mother of two, support checks were irregular and sparce. So...

11 Jan 10

Anyone start making Christmas gifts

venshida @venshida (4836) • United States 6 Sep 09

I was just reading an article about Christmas shopping, and I am thinking my where did the time go. It's September already. I have not started making any Christmas crafts for my family. I am hoping to make jewelry, probably...

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youdontsay I make things all year long. Most I donate to our Church Holiday Bazaar. But if they don't sell I take them back and give them as gifts. Now that I'm on a retirement income money isn't as plentiful, especially for gifts.

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Husband unhappy with me staying home with kids

foxrocks @foxrocks (29) • United States 9 Jun 09

I am a stay at home mom with three kids. My husband is always making comments to me about going to to work. We have always decided that it would be financially easier on us if I stayed home and went to work after the kid go to...

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youdontsay It sounds like he doesn't spend enough time taking care of the kids. Maybe you should sign up for classes on Saturdays and leave him with the kids for the day. You could start taking classes that would make it easier for you to get a job when the youngest is...

10 Jun 09

Do you know someone who is always late ? How do you handle their lateness?

venshida @venshida (4836) • United States 8 Jun 09

My BF is always late. If he says, I am coming over at 9. It's going to be 10 or 11 before I see him. I use to get really upset about it, and leave the house after about 45 mins. Now, If I am not busy I just know he means an hour...

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youdontsay I think I'd let them know how aggravating it is that he is an hour or more late without letting you know. And I'd make sure there were consistent consequences. For instance, if he is more than 45 min. late without calling you you will not be available to him....

9 Jun 09

Hospital Throws Newborn Baby In Trash

pyewacket @pyewacket (43903) • United States 6 Jan 09

I couldn't believe this story when I heard it. Okay, in the past we have heard horror stories of how newborn babies are found in the trash somewhere as the mother didn't want the baby. But in this case it was a hospital that threw...

newborn baby thrown in trash

no respect for the remains of a baby

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youdontsay Incredible. It would be hard to mistake a corpse for trash, even a tiny one. How in the world could that happen? What a terrible experience for the mother. I hope the court throws the book at that hospital!

9 Jun 09

Learning To Garden...

twoey68 @twoey68 (13627) • United States 3 Mar 09

I’m seriously thinking of trying a garden this year…I’m thinking of working it out to put it at my Mom’s which is just down the street from me. Now I’m not my Dad so I’m kind of clueless about how to get started. I know a lot of...

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youdontsay Gardening is hard work but can be very satisfying if the harvest is good. I'd say start small until you know what you are doing. Talk to the folks in your local garden store/green house business. They will know what works best in your area. Melons and...

3 Mar 09

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If You Truly Support Prs. Obama... Buy Stock!

ParaTed2k @ParaTed2k (22940) • Sheboygan, Wisconsin 3 Mar 09

66,882,230 American voted for Barack Obama in the 2008 presidential election. They say they support Obama, but are they willing to put their money where their rhetoric is? For Obama to be considered successful as a president,...

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youdontsay Actually, that is great advice! "The Stock Market Isn't as Bad as you Think Most of the stocks plummeting in 2009 are in financial companies. Meanwhile, 172 of the stocks in the S&P 500, around one third, are in positive territory. Many will continue to...

3 Mar 09

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Should One Keep Old Journals/Diaries? Or Throw Them Out?

pyewacket @pyewacket (43903) • United States 19 Feb 09

Back when I was going through very stressed out times, filled with a lot of hopelessness, anger, defeatism and just plain not feeling very good about myself and life in general, I journaled like crazy everyday. I found it my sort...

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youdontsay I used to journal a lot, too. Hardly ever do now except when I am doing some kind of introspection with a book or class or something. I don't like to journal on the computer because I've lost so many documents with crashes. And there is just something about...

3 Mar 09

Can you bear to order pizza in the rain?

lordwarwizard @lordwarwizard (35747) • Singapore 3 Mar 09

The sky was dumping buckets of cats and dogs but I didn't care. I was snuggled tight beneath my blanket, enjoying the feeling of warmth in an air-conditioned room. Yes, it was raining outside but the extra chill and booming...

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youdontsay Yep. I also give the delivery person a bigger tip when the weather is bad. I figure they have to earn a living too.

3 Mar 09

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Would you, should you commit suicide for Love?

TheGreatWhiteBuffalo @TheGreatWhiteBuffalo (4822) • United States 15 Feb 09

It is true that at the moment a person states that they would die if they could not have you as a lover that the person making such a statement is not the lover for you. Has your lover threatened suicide? Did you feel sorry...

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youdontsay Suicide is the ultimate angry act when done to hurt someone else. Even if the motive isn't revenge it results in leaving the survivors with anger. Yes, it is often used as a control issue. Usually those folks don't want to die but they want you to feel bad....

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OUCH!! OWW! Just What Does That?? Why??

pyewacket @pyewacket (43903) • United States 16 Feb 09

Okay folks ....pa-lease don't tell me this is the only one this happens to...but... Okie dokie you're sitting in front of your computer, or maybe sitting watching TV...or stretched out on your bed reading and you're nice and...

ouch

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sudden jabbing feeling

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youdontsay This happens often to me. It doesn't seem to be related to anything I can identify, like position, pressure, temperature, etc. Maybe someone has a voodoo doll of me that they just like to stick pins into!

16 Feb 09

Do you ever give books away?

Heather Echola @GardenGerty (160677) • United States 10 Oct 08

I always have bought books as gifts, for my children, my siblings, and my grandchildren, now. I have an opportunity to give books away right now to some teens who are in a group home waiting for foster placement. It feels so good....

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youdontsay Absolutely! I love books too and love giving new and/or used books to others. When I was working I always knew someone who could use this or that book. It is as if books are living things that need to be blessing someone. Now that I am retired and less...

16 Feb 09

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Demanding A Future...

twoey68 @twoey68 (13627) • United States 18 Oct 08

Most parents when their kids are born want the best for them. They dream of weddings, college, and grandchildren. Perhaps they tuck away a little money as they grow up to help pay for college, help buy their first home or car or...

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youdontsay No. If I put my money away for some purpose it is mine to use as I see fit. If I change my mind about how I want to use it, that is my choice until it is out of my hands. The money doesn't belong to the kids until I give it away and parents don't owe their...

26 Jan 09

STOP! That flashing!

pyewacket @pyewacket (43903) • United States 7 Jan 09

No I haven't had an obscene man flashing at me..LOL...I'm talking about that annoying flashing ad that is now on MyLot...are you plagued by this too? The one that says: [b]This is your Lucky Day! You Have Been Chosen To Receive a...

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youdontsay Oh, me too! I hate those flashing ads, like the one teling me I am the 999,999th vistor and that I've won - something.

26 Jan 09

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Employment, Unemployment, Opportunities, Barriers

TheGreatWhiteBuffalo @TheGreatWhiteBuffalo (4822) • United States 26 Jan 09

I'm now among the ranks of the temporarily laid off, The moment that I became laid off I saw a sign for help wanted in a job that I always admired and could one day see myself doing. Driving tractor trailer... I have the...

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youdontsay These are difficult times. But keep your courage. Things eventually come full circle. Elder's Meditation of the Day - January 26 "All life is a circle." --Rolling Thunder, CHEROKEE The atom is a circle, orbits are circles, the earth, moon, and...

26 Jan 09

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